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September 9th, 2006, 05:34 PM
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I see a lot of women saying " If I was rapped or incest happened and I got pregnant, I would 100% keep the baby." How do you know 100% that you would? I dont get that. I have found myself in situations where I have said 100% either way, only to do the opposite.

So my question is how do you know 100% you would do it, if you have never been in the situation?[/b]
You don't! "Walk a mile in someone's shoes...."

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September 9th, 2006, 10:20 PM
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I don't judge other women for doing it although I don't agree with it.. I just know deep down in my heart that I would never be able to go through with it myself. After giving birth to 2 almost 3 beautiful babies... there is no possible way that I could kill something living inside me... even if I was raped, it would still 50% me.

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September 11th, 2006, 12:13 AM
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I guess you can't ever say *100%* what you'd do in a situation, but you can have a strong gut feeling and most of the time that's what you do. If that makes sense.

I've been raped. My gut feeling, if a pregnancy ever came from one of those rapes, I'd keep the child. If I absolutely could not continue living a productive life with the child in my life, I'd choose to give him or her up for adoption. It's not the child's fault, he/she didn't choose the scenerio in which they were conceived. I just know in my gut that I wouldn't be able to bring myself to have an abortion, no matter what the circumstances were, for the most part.

So I'd say I'm 99.9% sure lol
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September 14th, 2006, 12:41 PM
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I think for some it's impossible to say 100% on anything...and for others it's not. So far, I have only suprised myself a few times by changing my mind on something I thought I knew beforehand - and those items weren't all that big of deal. (For example: I have to say I think miscarriage is harder than I had imagined - but I can't say it made me change my mind on anything). Anyway - some things for me are absolute in my mind - because I feel I have done a good bit if soul searching & know myself well enough to be certain. So I do feel that unless people start making up crazy hypotheticals, then I can say 100%... (Example of crazy hypothetical: Would you ever cheat on Dh? Answer: No - 100%...then what if in a war Dh was held captive & your only chance to free him is to have sex with a guard..and you know if you do he will absolutely live &be freed &if you don't he will be absolutely killed?....that's the kind of twisted questioning I mean.. Because to me that is NOT cheating, it is extortion..so anyway - you understand what I mean ).
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September 14th, 2006, 07:54 PM
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I can say 99.9% that I would never have an abortion for rape or other non-medical reasons. I cannot say what I would do in the case of a tubal or whatnot.

I feel that some people really can say they would 'never' do something. I know that I would not be able to live with myself if I ever had an abortion. I would not be able to walk into an abortion clinic to begin with. It's something that would never cross my mind.

If I truly did not want a child, I would put it up for adoption.
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I don't think you can....especially if you have never been a victim yourself. You have no idea how awful it is unless you have been there. I mean, imagine you are raped, brutalized, tortured, almost killed by someone. You find out you are pregnant a week later. You can honestly say with 100% conviction you would not terminate the pregnancy? I don't think that is something you can say unless you have experienced it.
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October 1st, 2006, 05:55 PM
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No one knows for sure, they can only have an idea of what they would do. But, if you've gone through everything, I guess you do know.[/b]
Maybe some people just have more definite views on things & know hteir own capabilities/limitations. I happen to know REGARDLESS of circumstance (rape/incest/etc) that I wouldn't choose abortion - why is that a threatening idea to anyone - that I might actually know what I would do? Of course I haven't been through EVERYTHING - but I've been through enough to knwo the answer to this question.
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Don't wait to make your son a great man - make him a great boy. ~Author Unknown
You don't raise heroes, you raise sons. And if you treat them like sons, they'll turn out to be heroes, even if it's just in your own eyes. ~Walter M. Schirra, Sr.
A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest. ~Irish Proverb
Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved. ~Erich Fromm
Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it. - Harold Hulbert
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