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  #1  
February 20th, 2007, 01:33 PM
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Just curious...does anyone know someone or has anyone been raped and gotten pregnant and kept the baby? Was it hard to deal with? How did they explain to their child who their father is? I have always wondered....
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February 20th, 2007, 01:40 PM
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I knew a woman on another site who had this happen to her. She was a very religious woman but she was pro-choice because of her experience.
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February 20th, 2007, 01:41 PM
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Thats a good question I would be interested to know
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February 20th, 2007, 03:15 PM
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Someone on this board (I cannot remember who & even if I did - not sure I would "call her out") said she was a child born from rape. It was a little while back though & she did share her story if I am remembering right. It could have been another board - but I doubt it as I don't think I have been to other boards that debate abortion. IRL I don't think I know anyone - but I also don't know if people would really be open about it if it were the case. I would doubt it is very common though - as my understanding is that your chance of getting pg from rape is fairly low due to excessive emotional trauma - and it would have to be the right timing, etc on top of that....I think it is estimated less than 5% chance - how many go on to carry those babies - I have no clue. (and that 5% is based on estimations to some degree since most rapes are never reported). I also think there may be more that keep babies than we realize since a quarter of all rapes occur from an intimate partner (boyfriend/husband). Half occur from family, friend, or acquaintance & that leaves 25% that fall into "other" meaning strangers I would guess.
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February 23rd, 2007, 08:34 AM
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I cannot say for sure if I conceived my third from rape. It is possible though. My children's father was very abusive and raped me numerous times, but like I said, I am not sure if the actual conception date (which I have narrowed down to within a week) may or may not have resulted from a rape. There were I think two times within that week that I "gave in" in order to avoid physical (as well as mental and emotional) consequences that occurred if I were to "hold back". So anyway, I kept her, she has seen him maybe a total of 3 or 4 times in her life; she is 19 months old.[/b]
I'm sorry Cece....about the abuse...you are a strong woman
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February 23rd, 2007, 11:00 AM
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Yes, there's a girl on the boards. She's a teen mommy. I won't give her name out unless she wants me to. She doesn't visit the board as much though.
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February 23rd, 2007, 02:48 PM
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March 17th, 2007, 01:12 AM
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I know of two, my close friends Grandmother has one child that was the result of rape, & I know of a lady a little older than me that has a son that was the result of rape.
The women in these two cases both kept their children.
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March 17th, 2007, 06:32 AM
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I don't know anyone IRL that was raped, and got pregnant.
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March 19th, 2007, 12:17 AM
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My sister's son was conseved from a rape. She just told him that his dad wasn't the best guy. I don't think he'll ever know and I don't think he should.
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March 19th, 2007, 12:57 AM
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I don't know anyone IRL who concieved as a result of rape.
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March 19th, 2007, 03:11 AM
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My first child was a result of rape (I miscarried her, but she is still my first child, KWIM?) I planed to keep her, but in the end, I had no choice in the matter. I was 13 years old, she would be 10 years old at the end of this year.
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March 20th, 2007, 06:42 AM
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One of my little sisters is a product of a vicious gang rape, and my mom kept her, then adopted her to my Grandfather. I guess it really depends on your views about abortion and the scarring a rape has left on you (if any). My mom has had abortions before, and I don't know why she kept my sister, maybe it was growth and maturity? Who knows, but in all honesty, I couldn't do it. Rape is a severely painful thing to go through physically and emotionally, and I wouldn't want to bring a child that was a product of rape into the world. Looking into the child's eyes would bring back memories everyday, and not only that, but what if they wanted to know their father?? This is the only time that I would support an abortion.
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March 27th, 2007, 03:56 PM
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A woman I used to work with told me her story of how she was raped at the age of 12. She grew up in Mexico, anyhow her parents made her marry the rapist who continually raped her and abused her. She had 2 children as a product of his abuse by the time she was 15. At one point he evn stabbed her mother who was trying to help her get away from him. The mother survived the stabbing, my co-worker fled to California illegally with her children and only the clothes on her back. She worked as a stripper/escort (she was 17 at the time, with a fake I.D.) until she could get on her feet. Very traumatic, sad,sad story-talk about having to grow up too fast......
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March 27th, 2007, 07:05 PM
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Just curious...does anyone know someone or has anyone been raped and gotten pregnant and kept the baby? Was it hard to deal with? How did they explain to their child who their father is? I have always wondered....[/b]
I know of girls who were dating, raped but they didn't report it. They blamed themselves. 2 got abortions but one girl I know married the guy, of course it didn't work out and she is now raising more kids alone. People try really hard to be in denial.
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March 29th, 2007, 09:33 PM
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My mother said my older sister is the product of rape (she was dating the guy but hadn't had sex with him---according to her). and she kept my sister.
I was raped when I was 14. although I didn't get pregnant, I think I would have kept the baby if I had.
I guess I can't say 100% that I would have kept the baby without being in the situation, but if I couldn't deal with the situation then I would have chose adoption, not abortion.
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April 21st, 2007, 04:25 PM
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My sister's friend was 15 and the guy was 21, got her drunk and who knows what else happened, but she got pregnant... She thought about aborting, even took cocaine while she was pregnant (knowing she was pregnant)... but, thankfully, many people around her encouraged her to do what was right and keep the baby and not abort... thankfully she didn't abort and gave the baby up for adoption to a wonderfully lovign family in our church who were not able to have any more children... now, I see this little girl every week and it is a testimony to a wise choice made by a very young, and scared girl!
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