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September 18th, 2010, 09:05 PM
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Well, as Amy won't stop in her pursuit of perfecting her appearance, she's come up with another way of making me worry. She came home today with information from a facial surgeon about having her lower jaw lengthened. Yes her jaw is too short, it's in the family genes, I have it too but it doesn't bug me. Amy is 16, and I know that age is where they tend to really care about appearance, but I'm already fearing that she has an eating disorder, and I don't want to have to deal with her wanting surgery right now! Being her parent and legal guardian, I would have to be the one to give consent for the procedure, and I said I would think it over. It's not a question of money, really, her father is willing to cover the costs and is in full support of her having it done (I'm truly happy that I have full custody, I just let him see the kids if he wants, which he hardly ever does).
The procedure, at least the way Amy explained it, involves the surgeon cutting the lower jaw bone at a 45 degree angle and then sliding the jaw forwards and securing the bones with a titanium screw in each side.
Should I consent to her having this done, or should I make her wait, until the whole issue with the possible eating disorder is settle, to see if she gets more comfortable with her body?
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September 19th, 2010, 07:14 AM
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I would serioulsy have a long talk with any doctor who was willing to operate on a child, especialy one who has any kind of emotional or eating disorder. Personally I think, it sounds like she needs therapy long before she needs cosmetic surgery.

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September 19th, 2010, 08:57 AM
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it's a $3000 procedure! you don't think the doctor's ethics could be just a little compromised? Amy probably lied about her age, she could pass for 18 easily just to get the consulation.
I was thinking the same thing, but how do you get some one into therapy when they absolutely refuse to believe it's needed?
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September 19th, 2010, 10:28 AM
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I guess you could tell her she can have the procedure done after she's gone to therapy and maybe make some of those sessions with both of you.
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October 4th, 2010, 12:28 PM
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Wow. Missed this. No way would I let any of my daughters have work done unless it was a health concern or a huge problem. I would have a talk with the doctor. Then, at 16, she's still a minor. You can put her in therapy. She might not talk, but she'd be in there and might open up after a while. Find a doctor she can connect with.
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October 7th, 2010, 07:25 PM
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Wow. Missed this. No way would I let any of my daughters have work done unless it was a health concern or a huge problem. I would have a talk with the doctor. Then, at 16, she's still a minor. You can put her in therapy. She might not talk, but she'd be in there and might open up after a while. Find a doctor she can connect with.
I had thought of that, and did take her to one therapist, but she gave him such a hard time I feel like it's not really worth it. Amy hates anything that cuts into her martial arts training time (which is nearly 4 hours/day on school days, 6 hours on a weekend), so she was just really miserable with the therapist, asked him questions as opposed to answering his.
It's not a huge problem, in fact her jaw is only too short by 1/8 inch or less. The doctor has said that it is not a risky surgery, but that the recovery time is 6 months. 6 months of no martial arts, I think Amy might lose her mind.
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