Your family

megpie · #1 August 8th, 2012, 07:31 PM

How many kids do you picture in your family? What's the magic number that will make you complete?

Aynber · #2 August 8th, 2012, 08:02 PM

2. That's all we need

Amazona · #3 August 8th, 2012, 09:02 PM

3 or 4.
Most likely 3

taterm · #4 August 8th, 2012, 09:16 PM

I was thinking three, but I think unless we get lucky we are only going to have B. Infertility sucks!
But Bella makes our family feel complete so if it is meant that we only have her then I am happy.

Nicole1110 · #5 August 8th, 2012, 09:18 PM

I picture just having Major, but I think my family would feel more complete with another child. We'll see.

peace.love.audrey · #6 August 8th, 2012, 10:12 PM

I don't feel done. For as long as I remember, I've had a feeling I will have 3 children...2 girls and a boy....and technically, that's exactly what I have...but I definitely don't feel complete. I think we will have more at some point whether it's with our frozen sperm or thru foster/adoption...its all still yet to be seen.

*Izzy's*Mommy* · #7 August 9th, 2012, 12:07 AM

I would like a large family, like 4 children....but, realistically, I think we'll be done at 2 or 3 at the max.

RachaelDMommaTo3 · #8 August 9th, 2012, 06:54 AM

Three is our magic number. We're perfectly happy with our family now, and are comfortable with being done!

ThaiSpice · #9 August 9th, 2012, 10:04 AM

Right now we're thinking two is a good number, but I'm not completely closed to the idea of three. For a while we considered just one, but it just didn't feel right. We'll see how we feel after two.

mommawhitney · #10 August 9th, 2012, 10:17 AM

I've always saw 4 as the amount of children I'd have. But realistically 2 is likely our stopping point. The older Morgan gets the more I'm happy with just 2.

mysticalgal28 · #11 August 9th, 2012, 10:30 AM

You all might think I am nuts!!!! And so do I, I thought I wanted 3. Now it is like I would love to try one more... 2 is a party.... 3 is a crowd. Even if I had another boy I think 4 would be ok.

*SamF* · #12 August 9th, 2012, 11:22 AM

2. If we had gotten back together when we were younger, we would have gone for more. But with our age and infertility issues we are happy and content with our two.

~April04~ · #13 August 9th, 2012, 12:28 PM

Unsure... we think we'd want 1 more - but IVF sucks, then my pregnancies and deliveries suck.. so we're probably done.

LadyCoconut · #14 August 9th, 2012, 01:55 PM

I always wanted three kids and DH always pictured two but was fine with three.

NOw I am totally on board for two. It'll be so much easier and cheaper, we have one of each, and I get to never be pregnant again. win win win!

Fae*Aibell · #15 August 9th, 2012, 02:49 PM

I think we will have one more. Funny you ask this now as Jake who is 8 now, asked me just today if we could have another baby. He even said the baby could sleep in their room and he would even help me feed it during the night

amydawn · #16 August 9th, 2012, 06:06 PM

This is really hard subject with me- with our ages, difficult getting pregnant for about a year, difficult pregnancy ( hyperemesis, pre clamp...), the difficult delivery which ended up in c section with nerve entrapment, then her having colic for 6-8 months and not wanting to sleep longer then two hours at a time for about 8 months. I really don't want to repeat all this again.
Do I feel complete-- I don't know I was the only child so I don't know what she is missing. However it make me sad when I think about when my parents are old and it will be just me to help them and I am not sure if I want to do this to her.
I think working and being a mother and wife is challenging a lot of the times

I just don't know

Amazona · #17 August 10th, 2012, 06:39 AM

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Originally Posted by amydawn

This is really hard subject with me- with our ages, difficult getting pregnant for about a year, difficult pregnancy ( hyperemesis, pre clamp...), the difficult delivery which ended up in c section with nerve entrapment, then her having colic for 6-8 months and not wanting to sleep longer then two hours at a time for about 8 months. I really don't want to repeat all this again.
Do I feel complete-- I don't know I was the only child so I don't know what she is missing. However it make me sad when I think about when my parents are old and it will be just me to help them and I am not sure if I want to do this to her.
I think working and being a mother and wife is challenging a lot of the times

I just don't know

Amy, Max was like that.
He was a demon baby. I had PPD. It was BAD.
Hell, even now at 2 1/2 he doesn't stay in his bed more than 3 hours!
But Sebastian is a breeze!. He literally eats, poops and smiles. No colic, no reflux, sleeping long stretches already.
So you might miss out on having another baby that you can actually ENJOY.
I thought I despised the newborn stage. Now I learned to like it (still don't "love it" though" lol). I am enjoying my baby instead of wrecking my brain trying to figure out what the hell is wrong and how to fix it.
Don't get me wrong, I love Max with all my heart and he'll always be my "baby" (I still call him baby, lol) but he was indeed an extremely difficult infant.
Just know that not all babies are like that

When we decided to TTC Seb, it was because I was afraid I would be too old to put up with all that crap later... Now I want a third

*SamF* · #18 August 10th, 2012, 06:50 AM

Amy-Don't let age stand in your way too much. It's and ending for us, because we need MA to get pregnant succesfully, and to afford that and save up time for maternity leave we would have to wait at least 2 years. I'm already 41. But I really wanted for CJ to have a sibling. We won't be here forever and I wanted him to have close family. Seeing how much he already loves his sister I know we did the right thing.

~Daniell~ · #19 August 10th, 2012, 08:30 AM

I think I would end up with 3. That would include 2 planned and an unplanned baby.

amydawn · #20 August 10th, 2012, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Amazona

Amy, Max was like that.
He was a demon baby. I had PPD. It was BAD.
Hell, even now at 2 1/2 he doesn't stay in his bed more than 3 hours!
But Sebastian is a breeze!. He literally eats, poops and smiles. No colic, no reflux, sleeping long stretches already.
So you might miss out on having another baby that you can actually ENJOY.
I thought I despised the newborn stage. Now I learned to like it (still don't "love it" though" lol). I am enjoying my baby instead of wrecking my brain trying to figure out what the hell is wrong and how to fix it.
Don't get me wrong, I love Max with all my heart and he'll always be my "baby" (I still call him baby, lol) but he was indeed an extremely difficult infant.
Just know that not all babies are like that

When we decided to TTC Seb, it was because I was afraid I would be too old to put up with all that crap later... Now I want a third

I have to admit it makes me feel better when I hear others that didn't enjoy the newborn/ infant stage. I am so lucky that she has grown to be such a great toddler ( or maybe I just think it's easier). I totally agree with wrecking the brain trying to figure out was wrong all the time and it made me feel like a failure. I am so glad Sebastian is an easier baby I couldn't image two difficulty ones with working.

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Originally Posted by *SamF*

Amy-Don't let age stand in your way too much. It's and ending for us, because we need MA to get pregnant succesfully, and to afford that and save up time for maternity leave we would have to wait at least 2 years. I'm already 41. But I really wanted for CJ to have a sibling. We won't be here forever and I wanted him to have close family. Seeing how much he already loves his sister I know we did the right thing.

I admire u for being 41. I think the all nighters are harder now in my thirties

. Saving up for maternity does take two to three years for me too. Thank you for the confidence