I really need some advice... Or just some opinions.. Or even better advice or opinions from people who have been or are in the same situation as me..
I am currently pregnant, with my second child. I will be 13 weeks tomorrow. My first child I had no complications, but he is also 5 1/2, and I did not have anything done to my cervix before he was born.
I had LEEP procedures and then a cone biopsy (also known as cold-knife cone biopsy) in 2007 due to carcinoma in situ of the cervix. My cervix so far, is about normal with where it should be, however, according to my OBGYN and the perinatologist (high-risk specialist) I saw, I am 5 times more likely to have 2nd trimester miscarriage or preterm labor because of the damage done to my cervix. My doctor said that it is hard to tell how the cervix will hold up until after the 16th week, but that by then, it will be too late to get cerclage. I need to make a decision as to what to do by Thursday. I don't know what to do.
For those who aren't familiar with cerclage it is suturing (stitching) of the cervix to prevent it from dilating early.
I feel like I'm ****** if I do, and I'm ****** if I don't. What if I get the cerclage, and I didn't really need it? What if I get it, and because of the cerclage I develop an infection or have a miscarriage or any of the other complications BECAUSE of the cerclage?
What if I don't get it, and I end up losing my baby?!
I don't know what to do.
This scares me. I want my baby to be safe. That is all. I want to enjoy my pregnancy and not constantly be worrying.
Alot of doctors won't do a cerclage unless you've had one 2nd trimester miscarriage or preterm labor, because that is the only way to diagnose an incompetent cervix. I really don't want to find out if it is incompetent through either of those methods

My doctor, however is willing to do it, but says studies have shown that it may not make a difference.
Has anyone had cerclage? did you have any problems/complications? Did you deliver your baby full-term? Was it painful?
I'd really appreciate ANY help.
Thank you.