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Hi ladies, I'm new here, and I think this is the group I would belong with. I have a story, and if i'm in the wrong place maybe y'all can help me find where I need to be. I have one beautiful little boy, who is nine. I am now on my 6th pregnancy. I have had two misscarages, and 2 tubal pregnancies 2 years in a row. This last July, I had to have emergancy surgery to remove my left tube, which is where I had both the ectopic pregnancies. After my surgery last summer, my ob told me that because of my history I'd be treated as high risk from now on. I just found out i'm pregnant, and I'm really scared. Is it possible to have a normal pregnancy? Have any of y'all been thru this sucsessfuly or know anybody who has?? I called my doctor and they set me up with an appointment already. I just am a worrier tho, and if anybody has been thru this, I'd like to know. I don't know anybody who has been thru anything like what I've gone thru trying to have another baby (altho I wasn't even trying this just knind of happened) Whenever I try to look up information, I get guided to this website, so I decided to ask y'all. I'm not trying to seek medical advice or anything, that's why I'm going to the doctor, I just feel very alone right now and wanna know if there's anybody who has been thru that kind of surgery and went on to have a sucsessful pregnancy.
I dont have experience with this exactly. I had 1 miscarriage then my son and 18 months later i had my daughter. We then had another miscarriage and then in sept we found out were having twins. Oct 23rd we found out we lost one of the babies. Im now 16 weeks. Im high risk for other reasons too. Your dedinalty in the right place. These ladies are amazing and strong. They have great advice and you will find lots of support. I will keep you in my prayers.
I'm so sorry to hear that, but I'm glad that the other baby is ok, I'll keep y'all in my prayers as well. Thank you so much tho for letting me know that I am welcome here.
I guess the biggest question is how do I not stress out? Everything I read is all like relax and try not to stress out...stress is bad for mommy and baby, and it makes me want to scream. I just want to cry right now and not stop. I've been so moody lately, and knowing why doesn't help. I'm so scared the doctor is gonna tell me it's in the wrong place again and I just don't know how many more dissapointments I can take. And then, I feel bad too, cause I know you are all dealing with so much on your plates (I read some of the posts) I feel kinda selfish being here. I dunno, and i know I'm babbling but it makes me feel better, so thank you. You know tho, the thing that scares me most is how to tell my hubby. I don't wanna get his hopes up just to be dissapointed again. Also, each pregnancy his treatment of me has changed, and I hate the way he gets so overprotective of me and worries, like i'm a ticking time bomb ready to explode, but then again, I guess I kind of was. I just want everything to be ok, and I'm so scared that it won't be. Is this how you felt at the begining of your pregnancy too, or am I just being crazy?
I felt the same way. Yes stress is not good for you and the baby but your a mommy and stress is what we do best. Of course you will be emotional and nervous. I wont tell you not to stress about it but i will tell you to be hopefull. Hope is good medicine. And please dont ever feel selfish. Some women have easy pregnancies and some dont and there is everything in between. You have every right to be scared. I will keep praying for you.
And my hubby gets really overprotective too. I think that is how they deal with their fears.
I've had a few miscarriages and other high risk factors as well. I do have 3 wonderful, healthy children though.
How do you not stress out?
No easy answer - take it one day at a time. Find other things to occupy you and stay focused on those. For me, I had milestones - 12 weeks, baby movement, 24 weeks, 28 weeks, etc. It is never easy and I do hope you can find something else to take your mind off of your worries.
Mom to M (6), K (4), and little rose (18 months)
So today is my doctors appointment, they were really fast about getting me in, altho, when I woke up this morning I had started bleeding a little. And I stress a little. Minimal pain. Normally I start cramping so badly that I have a hard time moving around. :::Sighs::: This is all so crazy. Thank you both for your words of encouragement. Will let you know what happens at the doctor, cause no matter what, the doctor is the right place for me to be going, especially with my history. I'm half way to the 12 week point, and I will keep that in the back of my mind.