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July 17th, 2007, 03:48 PM
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do you have a cry day or pity party over your situation?

how do you cheer yourself up afterwards?
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July 17th, 2007, 06:06 PM
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I tend to sulk after doctor's appointments that don't give me the best news

My mom says to stop being a negative nelly... but it just seems like one thing after another with this pregnancy and I am getting depressed b/c I want so badly for these babies to arrive healthy and safely.

I just feel defeated sometimes
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July 17th, 2007, 09:31 PM
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I tend to get frustrated when I have so many appointments all the time. DH can't always get time off work, I can't always find a babysitter or transportation, it's starting to get very old. First it was every two weeks, now it's three a month, soon it will be weekly, plus it seems like I'm always having to find time to go into the lab for more bloodwork. I really wish it was over already.

SOOOO . . . pretty much any day I have to go to the doctor.
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July 17th, 2007, 11:45 PM
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My DH tours a lot.. i have been accomodative all the same thru these years... We were TTCing for 4 yrs before this glad BFP. So until then i was always down with my procedures and other blood work and things.. not much attentive to his frequent tours...

but right now.. i cant stand to loose the sight of him for even a day.. and he still tours extensively..... that puts me really off the rack almost everytime.. he started yesterday for a continuous couple of weeks..though he usually get home back every weekend... not this time, its gonna be 2 weekends before i wud meet him again... i was bawling all the time yesterday...

I get better next day after he leave.. adjusting to the fact..
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July 18th, 2007, 06:29 AM
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I occasionally have break downs. My last one was at my 16 week appointment, they couldn't find the baby's heartbeat, then they couldn't SEE it on u/s. After being shuffled from one doctor to another, four hours later, they FINALLY found the baby's heartbeat.

Then, every once in awhile I wonder why I'm broken, and why I can't be "normal" or have a normal pregnancy like other people.
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July 18th, 2007, 07:02 AM
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Awwww Tina. Your not broken. Not everyone is made the same.

Personally I don't want to be like other people tho a normal pregnancy would be nice.

You are unique. Think of it that way.
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July 18th, 2007, 08:22 AM
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I had 2 big breakdowns during my pregnancy. The first was when I started having complications in my pregnancy at 22, almost 23 weeks - After the result of my first 24hr urine collection came back and I was put on bed rest. I was into my OB just about ever day that week my final appointment (for the week), to go over all the blood work etc, was Friday morning. Thursday night I didn't sleep and spent most of the night crying in the dark.

About 2 weeks later after our first appt with the high risk specialists I had my big "breakdown". The results of some of my blood work came back "bad" (again) and I lost it. I didn't understand how this was all happening to me... how I had been so healthy and now my body was failing me at pregnancy. I couldn't sleep and ended up sitting in what would become my Son's nursery at 5am. I was holding onto one of the sleepers we had bought him and just lost it. My husband woke up and came and sat with me. I was pretty down for those few weeks in-between events, but after this one I decided I had enough - that being this way wasn't going to help me and it wasn't going to help my baby. After that, I told myself I wasn't going to spend the next however many months in a slump and I was going to do everything in my power for my baby and my son.

There were still days after doctor's appts that I was down and cried. There were times I laid on the couch talking to my son and broke down - but given the situation, I think those are necessary and normal.
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July 18th, 2007, 09:24 AM
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Very normal even. How are you about it now that it is all in the past? Do you still get emotional when you think about it?
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July 18th, 2007, 11:03 AM
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I just get frustrated that I can't work (even though I haven't worked in a long time) because I feel well enough and so much better now that the cyst is out and all I want to do is get out of the house and work. But there are not many jobs around here, I can't work retail because I can't be on my feet for that long, and I am too afraid to ask my doctor if it would even be ok to have a desk job.

I have lots of crying fits over this lately.

And I have crying fits because I can't do a lot of things on my own. Like take the trash out, or carry a load of laundry, or do most cleaning things around the house. Its frustrating.


But my hubby always makes me feel better.
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July 18th, 2007, 02:28 PM
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Recently, I've had a crying episode almost every day since finding out and I haven't even seen the Dr. yet. I've had to stop all the meds I was on before for ADD and anxiety so that isn't helping at all. My DH also isn't very supportive. He tries in his own way but just doesn't get it. All I want is a term pregnancy. I've already accepted the fact that it won't be normal. I think it will be better when I start going in. The constant Dr. appointments keep me busy and although it's stressful, I don't have time to think about it which makes it easier.
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July 19th, 2007, 08:49 AM
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Very normal even. How are you about it now that it is all in the past? Do you still get emotional when you think about it?[/b]
Of course I do at times. I don't cry or anything like that but emotions are still there from time to time. I ended up with an emergency c-section and had a hard time with that for a few days - and still do. I feel like I missed out on a lot of things in regards to both pregnancy and birth, and I have a hard time relating to women who had "normal" pregnancies and sometimes they have a hard time relating to me lol.
I get angry at moms-to-be who completely take their health and uneventful pregnancies for granted... who exaggerate and come up with problems just for attention. I get super pissed when I read about women who lie about symptoms just so they can get an extra ultrasound. I had 15+ ultrasounds and would have loved to only needed just the 1. Sometimes I feel jealous of stupid things like women walking to attempt to bring on labor, going into labor instead of being induced... and so on. I still hold resentment to my MIL for telling my husband she wouldn't allow a shower on his side of the family until after the baby was born... you know... since the baby might not make it anyway. Thats going to take some time to get over lol.
But most of those emotions are fleeting and aren’t around too often. I did my best not to dwell on the negative when I was pregnant and I do my best not to dwell on it now.
My son is amazing and we have so much fun together - I have a beautiful, healthy, happy baby boy and in the end thats all that matters - and the reality is I couldn't ask for anything more.

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I occasionally have break downs. My last one was at my 16 week appointment, they couldn't find the baby's heartbeat, then they couldn't SEE it on u/s. After being shuffled from one doctor to another, four hours later, they FINALLY found the baby's heartbeat.

Then, every once in awhile I wonder why I'm broken, and why I can't be "normal" or have a normal pregnancy like other people.[/b]
I know how you feel. At my 11 week ultrasound the couldn't find my baby's heartbeat not even on ultrasound. I was told my baby must have died. But before cementing anything they wanted me to come back in a couple days for another scan. In the meantime I was stunned and cried for days. I hadn't had any signs of a miscarriage not even when I went in for the next scan. Then we found out why...my baby wasn't dead. I have cried so much during this pregnancy. In the beginning over spotting...then no hearbeat, then when there was a heartbeat...then off and on because it is so hard when your high risk. I hate not havng a "normal" pregnancy. I too often think "why me..what's wrong with me"...when i thought I lost this baby I apologized to my hubby for not being normal...it'd be nice to not have to go through all of this.

I found out I was a high risk mommy with my second pregnancy (my first ended in miscarriage) They found I have an abnormally shaped uterus. That gives me a whole bunch of negative possible outcomes. I saw my doctor more then other ladies...and saw perinatolgists at the same time. Test after test...scan after scan. In the end nothing really went wrong with him...other then some high blood pressure sometimes and having to do 2 glucose tests. And then he was breech so I had a c-section.

Then this time...OY! Spotting for like 3 weeks early on. I thought for sure another miscarriage. Then when they told me there was no heartbeat...and I was alone in the office...my husband at work...i was so devastated! My 2 year old son thankfully wasn't with me for that appointment. Another 24 hour urine test, high blood pressure off and on....i am not seeing the specialtists this time, and was on a normal check up schedule...but now I have to go 2 times a week every week! I have non-stress tests from now until birth. I have fluid checks, cervix checks...my appointments now take an hour or more. And i've been taking my son...it's hard to find sitters for all these appointments. Now I am having some more spotting...then keep saying it's OK...nothing to worry about right now..baby is doing well. But it's enough already. I am glad i found this site...i really felt like no one could know what I go through when pregnant...family and friends just don't get it. The activity restrictions get me upset...feeling overwhelmed by all that neeeds to be done around here, but I am not allowed to do any of it...and my house is a mess...i hate that. I cried a lot tuesday night when i saw spotting again...the thought of preterm labor, or worse makes me upset. I am glad my son is home with me...he can distract me from thinking about all the negative stuff...but when i'm alone...or something happens...i cry...i can't help it.
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