We pride ourselves on having the friendliest
and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment
for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers.
If you have any problems registering please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!
Okay, if I am being silly, please let me know. I realize that Katie's poop smells. Yet, I am one of those mommies who doesn't feel my little princess needs that pointed out to her.
It all started when Mike and I decided to take Mom out since she had not been out of the house in several days. We decided since Mike's mom had not seen Katie since Christmas Day and we are moving to NC on the day after Valentine's Day that we would offer to let her have Katie for two or three hours. She said she would love to spend time with Katie.
We are gone for maybe three hours if that much. I mean Mom and I were both wanting to get back to Katie because neither of us were really thrilled to be away from Katie so we just got the things we needed. We returned to MILs house to get my little princess.
MIL said that Katie had pooped while we were gone. She went into this whole spiel about how it was disgusting and there was poop on Katie's bottom and front. Just curious. . . where did she think it would be in the toilet down the hall???? She said that she had to clean her up and even went into detail about how she had to use a q tip to clean Katie's front side. Not sure how she cleaned my DD but I have never had to use a q tip to clean her v area. I might be a bad mommy but usually the wet wipes work to clean up poop from all the cracks(no pun intended) and crevices.
I don't really want Katie to be at MIL's house without us. In fact, I have told my mom that I don't want the three of us to all go out unless we can take Katie along. Am I being silly for not wanting someone to tell Katie that her pooping is 'disgusting'???? I know from hearing her comments about Katie pooping at Christmas that she will make comments like "that is so disgusting", "Ooh, yuck!" and "ugh, nasty" not only around my DD but TO my DD.
DH has all these issues regarding being able to use the bathroom and I have to think that they come from his mother being such a regarding bodily functions. She told us today that he and his twin brother were three when they were potty trained. I had to bite my tongue from saying "Well, I guess that would explain why Mike and Matt have issues regarding going to the bathroom. Their mother made them feel that going to the bathroom is something to feel ashamed of." I didn't say it because first off I know my mom would have flogged me for being rude and secondly, I love my husband and while I think his mother is totally wrong in her attitude about baby's pooping. . . I would never say anything that would hurt him. Therefore, I am venting to you all and hoping that you will tell me I am not being silly and she is the one with the problems.
No you're not being silly, and frankly, I say trust your instincts if you're not ready for Katie to be on her own with your MIL.
gee if i have a girl I have to be honest, I probably won't know what to do with cleaning poo at the front... boys are easy in that respect (oh believe me they're still messy but yeah i guess i figured it was easier than girls!!).
I don't think you're being silly either. And your MIL does seem to have alot of issues. I agree to trust your instincts and not leave Katie alone with MIL. And thankfully with moving farther away, the time together will be very limited.
I also say trust your instincts. Trust yourself. If you are not comfortable leaving Katie, don' t do it. You get to say when that's okay and when its not. Nathan is almost 10 months and I've never left him with anyone. My MIL has asked, and honestly its tough, but I tell her no. I've had 3 girls go through diapers and have never thought of a qtip. Not sure about that one. I'm glad you are moving, and hopefully this won't be an issue again. Hugs Beth.
Jesus loving, homeschooling, gardening lover, devoted wife to a wonderful hubby and 10 kids, ages 13 down to 12.5 months . We are expecting number 11 due January 1st, 2015.
You're not overreacting, Beth. I do tease Jaylen all the time that she's stinky, but I do it with a smile on my face as I clean all the cracks and crevices and usually she smiles back at me. As for a q-tip....what was she thinking???