[*SamF*]

I know Mari is going to give the Duggers a run for their money
But do you see yourself having more kids? How long are you going to wait between?

Because I'm old, we can't wait long and we really want at least 2. So I'm waiting till CJ is close to 6 months- but mainly that is only because I need a year between due dates for FMLA to kick back in.
If the next baby is a boy we may try for another, but not sure. If I get pregnant quickly I will be 40 when the next is born.

[MarieJ]

We're hoping for #5 either by oops or adoption-then we're done! Five is more than enough in our house, lol!

[CaseyM]

We really want 2. We are not stopping anything from happening now, but we know that the chances of it happening naturally is slim....but we still have 2 embryos on ice.....so i think we are going to wait til about may then talk about the totsicles.....

[mum74]

Don't see us having more kids after this. 3 is right for our family .

[Counting our Blessings]

Hehe Sam, that made me laugh .

We are not sure about more (we never are) and just let it happen if it's going too. So as far as spacing.....we really don't plan. I think if I were to ever end up with a c/s, we'd have to try avoiding certain times until I was fully healed. But until than, we just leave it out of our control. I never got a period between the last couple of babies, so bfing isn't reliable for us, it just helped space them out enough. We know that, but also don't use percautions. We don't aim for certain days, or avoid certain days....just whenever we want. We are lucky in that we both like our alone time, if you catch my drift

But I do think pg gets harder on us as we are older. I'm not saying you ladies are old, just as I get older it gets harder. And Every pg is different. I have a hard time in my DDC sometimes being older I think, for lots of reasons. I want to have my body back in decent shape between babies, but don't fret about stretch marks to much.

Sorry this got a little long.

[BeckyM]

We would love to have 1 more, but my docs have suggested we wait about a year after little Mark arrives before we try again. My age to give me time to recover & replenish my iron levels are a factor in their time frame. I'm not sure if the gestational diabetes will also be a factor now.

[Jessica C]

Im doubting that we will be trying again. Which is a bummer because I actually enjoyed being pg....until about the last month when the carpel tunnel kicked in. With the c/s I'm not sure how long we would have to wait to try again....someone told me a year, but I'm not sure. Plus with how long it took us to get pg with Jaylen I could be like 44 or older at delivery and that we feel could really be pushing more complications and defect possibilities. Besides, with practically a perfect pregnancy and a perfect baby we aren't sure we really want to tempt fate

[SnowAngel]

We want one more. Then we are done. I think giving birth to six babies is enough for my body.

[MarieJ]

for the gdm, they'll just make you start meds and glucometers as soon as you're pg, that's what my internist said we'd do if I get pg

for the c/s-they like you to have 18 months btwn c/s, so get pg when baby is 9 months old-decreases risk of uterine rupture

I'm just a wealth of useless knowledge today, lol!

[kimberley228]

I think DH and I want two, and we are going to try again when this baby is about 1 year, although we may ntnp until then since we had such a hard time ttc this one.

[mum74]

Originally Posted by Jessica C

Im doubting that we will be trying again. Which is a bummer because I actually enjoyed being pg....until about the last month when the carpel tunnel kicked in. With the c/s I'm not sure how long we would have to wait to try again....someone told me a year, but I'm not sure. Plus with how long it took us to get pg with Jaylen I could be like 44 or older at delivery and that we feel could really be pushing more complications and defect possibilities. Besides, with practically a perfect pregnancy and a perfect baby we aren't sure we really want to tempt fate

drprice.com.au - After Delivery

I'll also post copy and paste a bit in case the link doesn't work:
Future Pregnancy: If you want your children close together, it is probably reasonable to wait about 6 months after a caesarean to fall pregnant. If you have a vaginal delivery, 12 months is a better idea because it will take that long for the pelvic nerves to recover.


(That's my obstetrician's website.) I think we all assume we 'need' to wait longer after a c-section than a vaginal delivery to give birth, but his view differs, so just thought I'd put it out there for you...

[Counting our Blessings]

I don' t think my pelvic nerves will ever recover

[mum74]

Originally Posted by Counting our Blessings

I don' t think my pelvic nerves will ever recover

Obviously people cope just fine with getting pregnant quickly after natural birth! I just wanted to put it out there seeing as it is (one) professional opinion re. how long to wait after a c-section that differs from most.

[Jessica C]

Originally Posted by MarieJ

I'm just a wealth of useless knowledge today, lol!

Nothing is useless knowledge!!

Thanks Lenore! I never thought about the pelvic nerve issues. But, I think it's more of an issue with how my old body would take another pregnancy....especially if it took as long for the second one.

[mum74]

Originally Posted by Jessica C

Nothing is useless knowledge!!

Thanks Lenore! I never thought about the pelvic nerve issues. But, I think it's more of an issue with how my old body would take another pregnancy....especially if it took as long for the second one.

That's fair enough! Would the carpal tunnel issue be more likely to recur too?

[daisygarten]

I don't think my bladder will ever be the same.

This baby will make five for us. Dh's kids live with us more than 50% of the time, and I have a feeling its going to be more and more every year. If that weren't the case, I would say we'd go for two together. But I think one with be the healthy and sane choice for me, and therefore us.

[Jessica C]

Originally Posted by mum74

That's fair enough! Would the carpal tunnel issue be more likely to recur too?

Most likely....that too would probably depend on if I could lose a bunch of weight before getting pg. I was doing a little bit of research over the weekend and DH caught me When I told him what I was doing he sighed, shook his head and said he didn't want to take any chances with overdoing my body or for us to have to go thru the stress and sorrow of trying for a long time again and then the risks associated with it. So, I have a feeling that we are done with having more of our own. Which saddens me.

[mum74]

Originally Posted by Jessica C

Most likely....that too would probably depend on if I could lose a bunch of weight before getting pg. I was doing a little bit of research over the weekend and DH caught me When I told him what I was doing he sighed, shook his head and said he didn't want to take any chances with overdoing my body or for us to have to go thru the stress and sorrow of trying for a long time again and then the risks associated with it. So, I have a feeling that we are done with having more of our own. Which saddens me.

I can understand you feeling sad about it. I mean it's good he's thinking of you and the right reasons not to try again, but you just can't help what you want, particularly with regard to babies/children. Is adoption still an option when Jaylen is a little older?

[Jessica C]

We are already talking about adopting a little boy in the next year or so. We would like Jaylen to have a big brother that's only a couple years older than she is.

[mum74]

Originally Posted by Jessica C

We are already talking about adopting a little boy in the next year or so. We would like Jaylen to have a big brother that's only a couple years older than she is.

That is exciting!