Advantages to being an "older Mom"

Counting our Blessings · #1 March 25th, 2010, 10:58 AM

For all the negatives most of us hear, was wondering if you hear any positives? Or can you think of the positives?

For me, I think I'm more sure of myself as a Mom. I don't worry about what other moms are doing, or if my baby is ahead/behind, or whatever. I just enjoy them. I was never one to worry about what others think (you can't when you live a lifestyle like ours), but don't feel I need to defend my choices to anyone, if that makes sense. There are so many "mommy wars" out there that you can be made to feel terrible for your choices. As long as you love your baby, I don't care if you FF/BF, cloth/disposible, or had a natural birth/c-section. It really doesn't matter to me, this is not a competition! I guess that's why I don't fit into my DDC very well.

I also think I'm just a better Mommy. Hard to give a reason. We have a rock solid marriage, and the stress of having babies just isn't there.

I reread this, and am not sure if it makes sense, but I spent the time to do it, so I'll post it anyway!

What about you?

MarieJ · #2 March 25th, 2010, 03:48 PM

I have more patience, money, a career, and stable marriage, than I would have had 15 years ago. I don't have to worry about going back to work full time, we get to go on hot vacations, and we have retirement and education savings. I went to school and got married later so I could have all of this when I had my kids. And I'm not much bothered by all the drama in my PR's, its so trivial, my life is too full and busy for that.

Counting our Blessings · #3 March 25th, 2010, 04:31 PM

Marie, you said it so much better than me. I agree with you on all of it, expect we don't get hot vacations.

MomtoKatieB · #4 March 25th, 2010, 08:44 PM

I don't get hot vacations either, Mari. But I agree with what you both have said. I suppose by being older, I gave Katie the gift of having a grown up for a mommy. When I was younger, I may not have considered how my every action would impact her life. I liked to be spontaneous and that isn't an option when you are traveling with a LO.

BeckyM · #5 March 26th, 2010, 04:55 AM

I'd like those hot vacations too.

Yes I know that we do try to get to Greece every so often, but that's typically our only trip every 2 years or so.

I'm not a mommy technically yet, but will be very soon. I agree with all of your comments and feel that I'm going to be a much better Mom now as compared to 10-15 years ago. I have a more stable job, great benefits, and overall just feel so more comfortable with who I am.

and Mari, I know what you mean about the DDC. I try to participate there, but it just doesn't feel very homey to me.

Jessica C · #6 March 26th, 2010, 01:31 PM

Ditto!! I too wish for hot vacays!

*SamF* · #7 March 26th, 2010, 01:48 PM

I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything having a baby. I hear so many younger moms and dads complain about some of the things they can't do anymore at the drop of a hat. Plus I think I have so much more patience than I would have had 15 years ago. Plus we are more financially stable.

MarieJ · #8 March 26th, 2010, 06:20 PM

Maybe we all need to meet up for a hot vacay....

BeckyM · #9 March 27th, 2010, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by MarieJ

Maybe we all need to meet up for a hot vacay....

That would be a WONDERFUL plan!!!!

SnowAngel · #10 March 28th, 2010, 11:56 AM

Mari, I understand completely what you are saying. I agree.

I know I have more patience for the kids.

I don't miss vacations because well Mike's in the military we never got to do things anyways. When we were able to we had to go home to visit or we would heard about it.