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July 24th, 2012, 11:30 AM
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I have a couple questions for those of you that have had a baby and older children....

How did they react to the pregnancy?

How are they toward the baby?

Do you feel like the older children have 'lost' out on some things since the baby has come?

While pregnant did you second guess your decision to have another child?


I am sure it is nerves, but I keep worrying about if I screwed up by getting pregnant again now. My boys are 12 and 14, they have two half siblings 2 and 6 months by their father who they love, but only see every other weekend. When my baby comes along it will be 24/7 and I am terrified they they will feel pushed to the side, I have been there 100% for them and I DONT want that to change.
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July 24th, 2012, 01:48 PM
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Well, when I had Riley, Tyler and Kristen were 13 and 11 respectively, and Kolby was 5. They didn't have much to say about the pregnancy it was kind of like..Mom's pregnant again.
Yes, we all sacrificed to make room for baby. But, I don't think they blame him for anything they may have lost out on.
I was really afraid that Tyler was not going to accept the baby. In fact, while we were in the hospital, he didn't hold Riley one time. Barely looked at him. But, once we came home and got settled in, I couldn't keep Tyler away from him. (except when it came to diaper changes lol).
I actually tried to involve them as much as possible. When they are this age, it's hard to draw the line between making them feel like a care giver and being ignored. Ask their opinions on things that you don't mind about. Include them more in other aspects of the house. Let them plan the menu one week and make it regardless if it's hot dogs all week
I think they'll surprise you. Have you asked them how they feel?
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July 24th, 2012, 02:38 PM
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I am waiting to tell them about the baby until I am past a safe point. With talking to them in the past they said they didnt think a baby would hurt them, not once did they say it would be a bad idea.
I want them to have whatever involvement they want...if they want to babysit (paid of course) great, but if they dont I would never make them. I want this to be a happy life change, I dont want it to hurt them in anyway. I have been the single parent for over 7 years and have taken them to every game, practice, school event myself. I have been there for them 100% and I am afraid that will change.
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Miracle baby Ella arrived Mar 22, 2013
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July 25th, 2012, 05:37 AM
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How did they react to the pregnancy?
Pretty surprised, my oldest was 13 and was disturbed about the fact that this meant we were still having sex, HAHA

How are they toward the baby?
They were great towards him

Do you feel like the older children have 'lost' out on some things since the baby has come?
I can't think of anything they have lost out on, honestly.

While pregnant did you second guess your decision to have another child?
It wasn't a decision, more of an "oops" so, every single day.
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July 25th, 2012, 07:03 AM
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No regrets today though, right?
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Miracle baby Ella arrived Mar 22, 2013
6 losses at 4 to 7 weeks (feb 05, July 10, Oct 10, April 11, Oct 11 Feb 2012)

No explanation for losses



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July 26th, 2012, 02:09 AM
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