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View Poll Results: How do you manage to be a SAHM?
My husband makes good money.
We go without (cable, retirement/education savings, etc)
We rely partially on credit- we can pay it off when the kids are grown.
i voted for other....because i first became a sahm it was because i had to be...i was working full time...then 9/11 happened and with him having to work every day after that i had no one to watch raianna full time...daycare would have been too expensive for us....my whole paycheck would have went to that.....so i stayed home....and for a long time after dh got out of the military it was HARD...specially when he was going to school...that was a tough 4 years...wow he was literally making like 20k a YEAR...how we did it...i have NO idea....his parents did help us out a few times maxed out a credit card or two LOL....actually we are still paying on one of those credit cards *sigh*....and since then we have been able to pay them back all the money they loaned us...we went without a LOT...we were on bare necessities...and the only reason we had internet was because dh needed it for school....but now things are different dh makes really good money thanks to him going to college lol...and i dont have to work....but i do want to do something once helena is in school...cause i'll probably loose my mind after a while with no kids in the house LOL we'll see how the first month goes haha
Its a mix of two. He makes enough for me to stay home but we also go without some things...nothing that we need though. We always have our needs but things like cable, house phone we dont have not because we cant afford it but because we dont really watch tv so we have netflix because it is a lot cheaper and since we rarely watch tv its smarter option for us..we have cell phones instead of house phone.
I voted other because it's a combination of things: we cut back where we can (no cable or fancy cell phones, I coupon, I only clothing shop when I have gift cards, etc) and while my DH makes a fairly decent salary, we also have a couple generous family members who treat us to various things throughout the year, which helps round out our budget.
I chose the first option, because thats the most relevant as even if i did nothing at all, all our bills would be paid. But, we do go without things to make sure that happens and that we have a little left over to have some fun. We have one car, we dont have any digital tv, i shop around for the best deals on everything we buy, I cook frugally and i sales shop for the kids clothes.
I picked other. I live solely on child support and family allowance right now. It is only because I live with my boyfriend I can afford to live at all. I pay half the rent, the cable, my cell phone, bus pass, and half the power. He always gives me the grocery and laundry money, and he pays for the internet.
DH worked his butt off in school so that he could provide for his family. I was working when we first got together. Then I got a layoff and went back to college. I was doing well, but I eventually dropped school. DH and I had to have a LONG talk about it, but he really feels like he should be the one to provide financially and I should be the one to take care of the house and kids. We lean towards more traditional roles in our house, and we are both happier for it.
I chose other because I'm not a total stay at home dad. I go into the office for 9 hours a week while Addie, Amy and Ethan are at kindy for three hours three times a week and I earn 55k ish off that, plus the wife earns around 90-95k as well. In saying that, we have a 16year old daughter who has very expensive tastes and 7 horses/ponies and 2 dogs to feed xD.
Out of curiosity, what do you both do for a living?
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I choose other because when my husband was working, we didn't have anyone we trusted who could watch our daughter plus daycare was out of the question. Now since he's in school during the morning and about to graduate in the next couple of months we've been waiting to see what shift he'll be working.
He helps out at his dad's business Fridays and Saturdays since he's not in school so that gives us a little help on our bills and stuff. But once my daughter is in school full time I hope to get a job or go back to school myself. I would really love to earn a degree but it all depends on hubs schedule We don't have any friends close by who can babysit my girl when she's not in school so it makes it really rough...
Dh makes good money, but I'm frugal on things, when I worked It only paid the cable/internet, water and electric and for my food when he was at work, Daycare is so expensive where we live that most of my check would go to daycare, plus he's home full time two weeks a month, and most day cares won't let you do only two weeks a month.
since he's gone half the time we like to spend as much time together as we can when he's home.
I just cut out all the extra things , like getting my hair done, getting nails, getting new clothes, I also went without a car for a year until we had paid off his explorer til we got a new(used) car for me to have, not having a vehicle while he was gone to work for weeks was rough, I hated having to call someone to give me a ride to get diapers and such.