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February 29th, 2012, 09:04 AM
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What do you do if your child flat out tells you to "shut up"?

We are talking a youngish child around 7 or older...what do you do or say?
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February 29th, 2012, 09:42 AM
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Oh wow...I haven't come across that one yet, thank goodness!!! Ummm, I would probably be taken aback for a few mins first off. LOL. I would probably tell him that it's disrespectful to tell me to shut up and I better not hear him say it again.
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February 29th, 2012, 09:59 AM
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For a first offense, I would firmly explain that we don't use that type of disrespectful language and if I hear it again, a privilege will be taken away.
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February 29th, 2012, 10:08 AM
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I would tell him that we don't use that language, it's very rude, and then take something away.
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February 29th, 2012, 10:17 AM
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By 7, he would know that you DO NOT speak to me like that, so if my son told me to shut up i would flip the F out. If he cant respect me, then i wont respect him. Which means his priviledges get withheld. No wii, no tv, no ds, no toys. He would not be welcome to sit with the family in the evening because he couldnt be respectful.

Obv i would only do it for a day and the extent of things would depend on the age. At 7 i would prob just take one or two favorite things and then tell them they werent welcome to sit with the family for one evening because of their disrespect. I would also expect a sincere apology.
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February 29th, 2012, 11:11 AM
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Well, I know myself and if my 7 yr old said that, I would probably pop them in the mouth (and I am not talking about slapping or backhanding). I usually don't do that, but to me, that is beyond disrespectful. Same thing if he/she cussed at me. To me, they should know that SHUT UP is disrespectful but I would lecture them on it anyways. Then I would take something. Depending on what time it is, they would eat and get their *** in bed and probably go to bed early for a month. They would remember that sting the next time they want to talk to me like that. Oh and they would probably lose all extra cirricular activities for a month too. "Shut up" would bring us to spend more time together
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February 29th, 2012, 11:12 AM
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I did flip out cuz he's never said that to me before. He's said other rude and disrespectful type things(like I dont like you, you arent my pal, I dont HAVE to do what you say, make me, etc).

So I wigged cuz he was being so very very naughty today after his daddy left so I told him no after school snack for the rest of the week and going to bed early for the rest of the week.

We've taken stuff away before and he flips out on us and all that but in the end it doesnt change his behavior and he doesnt really care...forgets about the stuff by days end.

Was curious if anyone else thought that was a lot or about right. He's getting really bad with the disrespect and attitude. I know there is a lot going on in our home but he will NOT tell me to shut up nor say that he hates me...the rest Ill ignore but those two things...nope.
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February 29th, 2012, 11:16 AM
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Oh wow, I am sorry about what is going on. I would honestly make his life hell if he thinks speaking to you like that is ok. You are his mother, your breathed life into him and as long as you are caring for him and doing what you gotta do, he does not get to talk to you that way hun. Is their anybody that he can confide in? Counselor? Therapists? He might be dealing with his own issues that he doesn't want to talk to his mom about. I dunno, but I hope you can find something that works.
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February 29th, 2012, 11:28 AM
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Thank you.

I need to get him into a counselor, he's a very angry little boy and no matter how I deal with him be it calm and lovingly or snap and punish...he doesnt care. He gets angrier and meaner and he enjoys it. He will literally smile or giggle if he makes his brothers cry or scream or upset me. He doesnt like punishment but will take it if he gets whatever it is he wants from the situation.
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that would not fly with me at all and i dont care what age they were. if young they would lose everything that means something to them...as in all toys, movies, etc. they would have a bed and clothes for awhile..if older probably the same id take away any electronics etc. i do not care for smart mouth kids especially talking to their parents that way.
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February 29th, 2012, 08:30 PM
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This is one of those situations where I say I will react one way but in the moment its completely different. I hope that is something I never come across but I am sure I will atleast once. I would not show that I am mad the FIRST time, explain why we do NOT tell that to people. But if its a repeat offense, I would start to take things away.
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March 1st, 2012, 06:21 AM
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ahh yes i've been here many times with my children....first i try to restrain myself from smacking them....then i tell them that they do NOT speak to me, their father or any other adult in their lives like that.....and they usually get sent to their rooms. no tv/wii etc...
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Hillarie, i'm sorry you guys are dealing with this on top of everything else. I think you are def doing the right thing.
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