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November 1st, 2012, 03:27 PM
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Hi ladies!

I'm wondering if you all could help me with an issue I'm having, because I honestly don't know what to do.

Today, I went to lunch with my best friend. She told me that she is in one of her friend's wedding but that there was some drama. Apparently, the maid of honor brought up some concerns about the groom-to-be. The bride-to-be got really mad and was going to take the maid of honor out of the wedding completely. So the bride-to-be asks my best friend to go talk to the maid of honor about the whole issue. My friend did and then relayed the talk to the bride over the phone. The talk happened on Tuesday and the bride hasn't said anything to the maid of honor.

So I guess my point is that I think my best friend is being used and taken advantage of. She is basically being a mouthpiece for the bride and the bride isn't doing anything to remedy the situation. I really don't want my friend to get hurt if things escalate from here. Do you think I should tell her my concerns or just let it go?

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November 1st, 2012, 03:36 PM
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If it were me, I would definitely talk to my friend and let her know in a nice kind of way just to be careful. I would just tell her to becareful not to get in the middle, if the bride has an issue with her maid of honor, she should speak to her directly. Your friend getting in the middle can be messy, she wouldn't want either of them thinking she is taking a side. So yes, I would talk to my friend about it.
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November 1st, 2012, 03:59 PM
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I agree with Kristy. And I agree with you. It does seem like this is a little teenage drama-ish. The Bride should be able to address her concerns. It is her wedding after all.

Talk to your friend and make sure she knows that you are concerned about her position is the issue. Good luck!
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November 1st, 2012, 04:02 PM
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Yes, Id talk to her about my concerns for her in this obvious drama that she's being pulled into.
And Id beg her to not do relaying again between them if asked but to say she's out of the issue and they should talk to one another.
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November 2nd, 2012, 04:17 AM
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Hi. I agree with what these ladies are saying too! I feel bad for your friend right now. I hope the bride decides to talk to the maid of honor without pulling your friend into it even more.
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November 2nd, 2012, 05:51 AM
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yeah i'd probably say something...tell her to be careful...tell the bride to not pull me into the issue that if she wants it resolved she should talk to the person that she is having issues with...
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November 2nd, 2012, 08:50 AM
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What a tricky situation for your friend! Being put in the middle is never good! I agree with everyone else, tell her to be careful!
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November 2nd, 2012, 02:07 PM
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Thanks for the advice!
I talked to my friend on the phone last night and told her that I'm not going to be involved and that it's up to her to do what she thinks is best for the situation.
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November 7th, 2012, 08:16 AM
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What Kristy said! Glad you said something to your friend!
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November 7th, 2012, 11:08 AM
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Oh what a touchy situation. I agree with the other ladies. I hope your friend doesn't get dragged into it much more.
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November 8th, 2012, 04:57 PM
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I think you did the right thing Rachel.
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