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I probably shouldn't be posting this on a public forum...but oh well. I am upset.
I thought I was appreciated. Apparently I am not. Hubby has been on me for the last month over everything. It seems that everything I do is wrong and hurtful. Nothing I do seems to be good enough, or right. I make plans (after asking hubby if he minded) to take the kids over to an old friends house for dinner to meet his wife and baby(who is the same age as our baby) and for my older son to see his older son who is the same age and they used to hang out when they were younger. Then my friend moved away, I met hubby, we lost touch, etc. Facebook got us in touch. Hubby said he was fine with it, then later he threw it in my face and acted like I was going there to cheat on him. My friend ended up canceling because his baby was sick, I never rescheduled.
Since then hubby has been acting weird and overly sensitive. He complains now that we don't "do the deed" enough. I got really into working out and losing weight and was going to the gym with a girlfriend of mine. She got injured and hasn't gone lately. Last week hubby went with me ONE day. Over the weekend we were with my girlfriend and she said she should be at the gym again soon and I said good because I miss my workout buddy. Hubby acted pissy later that night and the next day was still grumpy and ended up telling me how hurtful that was, like he wasn't good enough to work out with! Ummm..first of all for years I have been trying to get hubby to go workout with me, to take walks with me, to bike ride with me, anything active. He never does. So I do it with a friend. Now he cares?
He complained that my son was disrespectful to him yesterday, and I didn't correct my son. Then he complained about something else...I don't even remember what. Its like everyday he complains that I don't do this or that and that I said something to hurt his feelings. I swear he has always been thick skinned and a joker...so this new sensitive person is kind of a shock for me. He went on dr. prescribed diet pills a few months ago and has tons of energy now and is always moving. I am not and he has made comments about all he gets done, like I don't do enough. Sorry I don't have a magic bottle of energy!!!
It came to a head last night. He was nagging and I finally just started bawling my eyes out and yelling at him. I told him I walk on eggshells....everything I say lately is somehow hurting his feelings. Everything I do isn't good enough. I am tired and thats not okay(apparently laying down at night and saying I am tired is not okay). I told him that I tried to be a good wife and mom and apparently I failed at both so if he wants to call it quits fine. I am not going to live my life in misery. I thought we were happy, but over the last month things have gone downhill and I am not going to live like this. I told him that I want my confident husband back, I am sick of this oversensitive guy he has become. I am not his ex wife, I have not cheated on him. His new attitude is what is wrong with our marriage. And its causing problems that don't exist. I was ready to leave. He apologized over and over again. He said maybe its the diet pills making him so different (phentermine?). Today he has been really nice.
I don't know. I woke up this morning and was on the verge of tears all morning. I finally just cried and cried....then it made me puke because I was so upset. I have a pounding headache.
I don't know what to do. I love my husband, and until about a month ago I was happy. I guess I need to vent. Any comments are welcome.
I'm sorry you guys are going through a rough patch. I have to say, I've tried diet pills in the past and they have made me very moody and I would snap out over the littlest things. I had to stop taking them as they were messing with my personality, so maybe that is it.
Dh and I hit rough patches as well, we just have to work harder to get through them. I hope we guys can patch things up and work it out.
Im sorry, this all sounds really stressful. I thinking venting is always a good thing. Maybe now that you have talked to him about it he will be better. I dont know anything about diet pills but maybe they are causing mood swings. I really hope things are better soon.
Id say if this all started up right after the pills...its them not him. Dont let it eat at you and make you want to leave. Yes...its ugly stressful but now that you've confronted him perhaps he'll get the message and talk to his dr about those pills and cut them down or off all together.
Fingers crossed that this got him to realizing whats going on and he will continue to be nice and stop to think before overreacting to stuff.
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