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  #1  
July 12th, 2013, 01:29 PM
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do you and DH/SO have a certain time you try to spend together, Since the kids have been coming DH and I have not had much quality time for just him and I besides our one date night. I really just need more time with him and a break from the kids, time to be His wife and not just mommy.
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July 12th, 2013, 06:04 PM
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Nope. Whenever L is asleep and we are both home that's about it right now.
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July 13th, 2013, 06:05 AM
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does bedtime count?? LOL...cause that is about it for us I am STILL waiting to go out and celebrate our anniversary.....it has me a little depressed that we did nothing and he did nothing for me.....
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July 13th, 2013, 07:53 AM
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We don't get much "us" time. When Harvey goes to bed in evenings Richard will usually have something to do outside of the house resulting in me being spending most evenings alone. I wish we took more date nights for just us, but it never happens.
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July 13th, 2013, 09:55 PM
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Just when Drake is asleep. But when he is asleep he does his hobby and I do mine. We are together though and talking so it's all good. Or sometimes we watch our show together.
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July 14th, 2013, 04:58 AM
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Alexis goes to bed kinda early (7pm) so we always have 3 hours or so together then. We have a date night once a week. And we live in a 2 family house- my parents downstairs. Sometimes we just ask my mom to watch her and we go to the grocery store together, or for a walk, etc. It's kind of important for us to do that and have together time, it's strengthened our marriage big time.
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July 14th, 2013, 12:02 PM
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We try our best to get out for lunch, just the two of us, once a month. We also have a date night once a week once the kids go to bed. Nothing fancy, sometimes we play scrabble or mario kart, watch a movie or turn off the tv and laptops, listen to some music and just talk. I need it, I dont have any friends and without the time with him I get very down.
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July 14th, 2013, 03:38 PM
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that's what I need, just more me and him time.. I enjoy our date nights but we need more time at home together, which is odd since we're actually together 24/7 the whole two weeks he's home.. but we're not spending quality time together, I'm either cooking or cleaning and he sleeps late and stays up late at night and then he plays a lot of WoW.
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July 15th, 2013, 04:49 AM
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Sam, my dh plays alot of online games too and it was really starting to come between us. He doesnt play wow but my brother does so I know how involving it is. I calmly brought it up and told him that I have no problem with him playing and chilling out, but that I thought our relationship was suffering. So we agreed that he would play nag free on certain nights, and then others were for doing stuff together. Even tho we had millions of fights over it, calmly discussing it and looking for a compramise helped so much.

I also told him that if he wants to stay up late and play then thats fine by me, but we needed to agree a time for him to get up because it wasnt fair for me to handle all the housework and the childcare, all the time. I know its different for me cos my husband works regular hours, but maybe something to suggest.
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July 15th, 2013, 06:28 AM
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yeah, I've come to the realization that he's never going to be someone who goes to bed at a regular time and wakes up like a normal person, after 5 years of fighting about it.. he's just a night owl, his dad and grandma are the exact same way..
He tries to cram so much playing into his days home cuz he's gone for two weeks and misses uhm.. idk what it is, I don't play but Caps? idk.
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July 15th, 2013, 10:10 PM
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Well its hard with our opposite work schedules but we make time...even if its just a quicky, lol.
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July 16th, 2013, 06:13 AM
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Not really. We usually sit at the dinner table together well after Leah is finished (and is off playing) so we chat then. I also get up early with DH during the week so we can chat over coffee before he leaves for the day.
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July 16th, 2013, 07:46 AM
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We watch a show together each night after Sophia has gone to bed. I had said I wanted to do a date night like every other month, but it's only happened once so far. Sophia is pretty attached to me and is hard to leave. So hopefully once she gets a little older we can start that.
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July 21st, 2013, 07:11 AM
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We do not live near any family so it's always our family together. After the girls go to sleep we'll usually watch a movie or tv together.
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July 21st, 2013, 10:40 AM
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Not really. We watch shows together that we both like, and once in a while we go on a date (maybe every 2-3 months). I often ask him to come to bed with me and talk, we used to go to bed together every night for the longest time, and that was our talk time and time to unwind.
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August 2nd, 2013, 05:01 PM
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We are having the same problem LO is 7 months old and we just went out for dinner for the first time since he's been born. I have had no time for him sadly and he's starting to stop asking which is sad. My MIL just said to me the other day "alone time is needed" but it's so hard. LO only takes breast and I'm a stay at home mom so were always together. I think I have slight separation anxiety with LO. Hoping it gets better
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August 2nd, 2013, 08:13 PM
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some1_2holdmyhand - I know exactly how you feel! I promise you- it DOES get better, and trust yourself and listen to how you feel. There is no shame in not being comfortable leaving your baby, we are biologically programmed that way.

I was not comfortable leaving Avery until well after 1 years old, and even then it was hard. But over time it has gotten easier and easier and now she is THRILLED to go to Grandma and Grandpa's. She is almost 2. So I promise, he will get better in time and you will get more comfortable.
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August 4th, 2013, 12:48 PM
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Oh I sure hope so Joonzgurl..I almost feel guilty for leaving him just to go somewhere for us.

He would be in the completely capable hands of my loving mother, but then I start to get this horrible anxiety about every what if in the book as unrealistic as they might be. I know that I need some time though because my husband is just defeated when it comes to who comes first him or LO.

It doesn't help either that he is a BF baby and rarely will take a bottle of expressed milk he wants the real deal all the time. I am sure the older he gets the easier it will be though.
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