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I have just had my 3rd mc and have never got an explanation for any. I am 23 and am in good health. I go back to my dr tomorrow and if they can't give me a good reason then im getting a hysterectomy. I am tired of getting pregnant and loosing the baby. I can't handle another let down.
Hi I'm the same age as you and been threw exactly the same I'm on my third miscarriage at the moment
I have 3 wonderful children a 4 yr old and 18 month old twins.
I never thought I would go threw this ever it's heart break every time you learn you lost another child.
But Hun don't give up hope!!!
I'm about to go threw tests and so is my Dh we are not resting till we find out why.
Find answers sweetie don't give up and admit defeat a simple blood test could reveal your issue.
People always say for me to get over it as I have 3 already but loosing a child is something you can't "just get over"
Take time to grieve and reassure yourself you will make this happen wishing you luck xx
My heart goes out to all of you, every miscarriage is hard to bear, and it never gets any easier. I just went through my 5th consecutive miscarriage in almost 5 years, and it was the 2nd one at 20 weeks (The others were at 9 weeks, 7 weeks, and 4 weeks.) It's frustating that even after this many miscarriages no doctor or specialist can determine a cause . . . no blood clotting, no chromosomal abnormalities, no genetic disorders, no hormone issues, no placenta or cervix issues, the list goes on. I've been tested, the babies have been tested, my husband has been tested for everything possible, and still no answers. We struggled for years between our 17 year old and 7 year old to even get pregnant, and never had a miscarriage until after our 7 year old was born . . . we've been able to get pregnant 5 times and now for whatever reason can't stay pregnant. Many people ask why we continue to try, they figured we'd stop after the 3rd misarriage . . . I tell them that right now my desire to have another child is still stronger than my fear of losing another child. I just turned 40 and know our chances of a healthy baby are getting weaker, but still don't want to give up. We've done everything right we can think of, we pray and have faith, we don't smoke or drink, I always take prenatal vitamins and avoid caffeine, I'm not overweight, the list goes on. Has anyone else had at least this many miscarriages and been able to have a healthy baby afterward? I just need to know there's still hope for us.
Hi all, this is my first time using any site or talking to anyone so bear with me and above all if anyone has any advice I'd love it!
So sorry to read all your stories, I hope someday we all get the outcome we so desperately want xx
Here's my story.......first pregnancy(age 30), all normal signs, tiredness etc, started bleeding at 8wks 5days, sac completely intact when came away, rest didn't so d n c required.......2nd pregnancy(age 35), all normal signs plus hunger was unbelievable! Felt so strong that I was convinced more than 1 was in there, unfortunately at 8wks 5 days (Xmas day) we had a lot of heavy bleeding and again sac came away complete, didn't need a d n c this time, body did all the work. Both have devastated us, same partner, have been together almost 21 yrs(meet at 15), we really only started trying before the first one. There really were no warnin signs up to either point of spontaneous abruption, no spotting etc, it was like bam there you go. Second time round I did notice the hunger easing off at exactly 8 wks, thought I was just going into another phase. No scans were completed prior to either miscarriage, have never heard my babies heartbeats. Going 4 a gynae appt at end of march, which I pushed my gp for(normally only after 3 do they investigate)
I don't think it's a coincidence that we lost both at exactly same stage, so help, where do we go rom here?? I so want 2 b pregnant again, hubby is a bit more reluctant, until we can rule out any major issues, which they may not find!
So frustrating, really the first weeks of pregnancy are torture, just want a positive healthy pregnancy with a baby we can bring home at the end, I never knew a week could b so long! xx
I as well am on my 3rd miscarriage in a row. My husband and I were blessed with a healthy pregnancy in 2008 when I was 33 and he was 36. Our son is a happy and healthy 3 & 1/2 year old and we feel very blessed to have him after all this. Here is where things started to go wrong for us...I was 35 and he was 39
The first pregnancy in March 2011 I was very ill. Felt like I had the stomach flu for 3 months...very low energy and constant nausea. I started spotting and went to the ER. They did bloodwork and an ultrasound and told us the fetus did not grow past 5 weeks but my body continued to grow and think I was carrying a healthy baby until 12 weeks. We were told it was a blighted ovum. No D&C was required as my body took care of it all and we lost the baby on Mother's day.
Second pregnancy was end of August 2011 and again I felt ill. Not quite as bad as the last pregnancy so we thought all would be well. Again I started spotting and went to ER. Blood test and ultrasound were done. We were told that the fetus did not grow past 8 weeks and we ended up losing that baby at 12 weeks as well on Halloween.
Mid June 2012 we were pregnant again and so elated and hopelessly optimistic. I felt really good this time like I did with my son's pregnancy. I held onto that hoping that all the pregnancy signs I was having meant we could keep this one and continue on with a happy and healthy outcome. Started spotting on Wed evening this week and went to the ER yesterday. Bloodtest and ultrasound were completed. I was hoping this spotting was going to be late implantation as I am 6 and 1/2 weeks this time but spotting turned to bleeding upon my arrival to ER and ultrasound confirmed again another empty sac (blighted ovum) or it was too early to see a fetus. My body is currenty in the process of rejecting the pregnancy and our hearts are broken once again.
We really thought this would be the one and cannot believe a 3rd miscarriage? We atleast now can start searching for answers. The ultrasound tech made a comment about the shape of my uterus and hoping further testing etc. may pinpoint what is happening??
My heart goes out to all of you that have gone through this. Losing a baby is something I never thought I would ever have to go through and 3 in a row is tragic.
Hi ladies. I'm new to the boards here. I just had my third miscarriage in a row. I had one miscarriage in January 2011 at 5 weeks, another miscarriage in October 2011 at 8 weeks, and another miscarriage this month at 12 weeks. Both my second and third losses were missed miscarriages. The baby failed to grow for whatever reason. I was very blessed to hear my third angel baby's heartbeat at 6 weeks (heartbeat 117) and 8 weeks (heartbeat 170). But sometime after the 9th week, the baby had stopped growing, and I didn't know. I had some bleeding at the 12th week. No cramping, just some brown spotting. I went in that same day for an emergency ultrasound, and both my midwife and OB/GYN couldn't find any heartbeat.
I had a D&C on June 22 and I'm waiting for test results. They took the baby for genetic testing. I had some blood work too which I'm also awaiting results for. My husband and I have been together for 6 years, married since 2008. He's 41 and I'm 31.
I do know that I have a double-tipped or heart-shaped uterus. With this last pregnancy, I was on progesterone until 10 weeks, and a baby aspirin until 12 weeks. With my second pregnancy, I was diagnosed with a subchorionic bleed at 6 weeks, I had an ultrasound 3 days later and the baby looked fine. But God decided to take that baby too.
Each loss never gets any easier. Most women have a positive pregnancy test, and they are very confident to have a healthy baby in about 9 months. When I see a positive test now, it doesn't mean anything. I've learned to take nothing in this life for granted. I just want to be able to hold my healthy baby in my arms, a baby that my husband and I have created. But after THREE losses, this seems like an impossibility now.
I would love to be able to talk to other women who are going through or have went through recurrent miscarriages. Just to know that I'm not alone.
Just wanted to share my story with all of you, in hopes that this might help someone who has been down the same path
Married 2004 (I was 20)
Pregnant in 2005 (I was 21)
Had #1 Son in July 2006--healthy, normal pregnancy (I was 22)
Pregnant in Nov. 2007--m/c #1 Jan 2008
Pregnant in Feb. 2008--m/c#2 April 2008
Regular OB did NOT want to run test or take any action bc m/c are very common. I did NOT like his reaction, therefore sought out my own solution and saw a Fertility Specialists. Took me several months of waiting to get seen because of lack of referral. They ran tests in July 2008, and diagnosed me with APS (Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome)---Those big words basically means I have a blood clotting disorder---google APS and you will see that it is actually a quite common disorder.
So I was told that when I would get pregnant again I would be starting a serious of medications. So in October 2008, I found out that I indeed was pregnant with #4 (technically my 2nd child). I was put on Heparin Injections 2x daily (morning & night), prenatals vitamins, 800 mg of folic acid, baby aspirin,& progesterone for first 14 weeks. 9 months later, beautiful healthy baby boy.
To our surprise we have had much difficulty since then
Pregnant July 2010--m/c#3 October 2010 (I was on all the same meds, shots, aspirin, etc)
Pregnant November 2010-- m/c#4 January 2011 (on all meds, still no luck)
Pregnant February 2011--m/c #5 May 2011 (same thing---meds)
Pregnant August 2011--m/c#6 October 2011-- This time we did a Femara cycle--on top of everything once I was preg....I took femara for 5 days CD3-8, then did a trigger Brovelle shot on CD14, pregnancy confirmed and also at 6 weeks did intralipid therapy (a newer procedure done, where fats are inserted into your bloodstream going straight to the fetus).
SO now we are back to the drawing board.....doing a femara cycle again, but this time I am on all my meds from the get go(heparin shots 2x daily, folic acid, prenatals, baby aspirin, progesterone), not once I'm pregnant. If I become pregnant this cycle then I will do intralipid therapy at 4 weeks. I am hoping that this works this time around, because its SO hard to keep going thru this. I want another child so badly....I keep telling me that this is the last time,....lol! It's hard to let go of that dream....especially since I'm only 28. I will adopt in my 30's, I was just hoping to have all of my utero babies first.
I can't believe that I have been pregnant 8x with only 2 babies and some emotional scars to show for it. I know all my angels are in heaven waiting for me one day, and I hold to the promise that God is just saving them for me for later So ladies, hang on--this ride is hard, but I know that my God is bigger than all my problems, and I just have to praise HIM thru this storm!
[B] I can't believe that I have been pregnant 8x with only 2 babies and some emotional scars to show for it. I know all my angels are in heaven waiting for me one day, and I hold to the promise that God is just saving them for me for later So ladies, hang on--this ride is hard, but I know that my God is bigger than all my problems, and I just have to praise HIM thru this storm!
Thank you for sharing your story, Becca... I'm so sorry to hear of your losses. But be very thankful for the fact that you have not one, but TWO healthy children. I have four angel babies up in Heaven, and I miss them everyday. I never got to hold them, and that breaks my heart. I hope someday I can be a Mama here on earth, but that doesn't seem likely anymore...
I have been ttc for 10 years. I have had 3 miscarriages (5 babies- 2 sets of twins), and I have 3 adopted boys. I've been diagnosed with PCOS. It's been a hard road and I'm still trying for my babies.
I just wanted to encourage you to keep holding on to Jesus. Though God didn't cause the miscarriages He wants to walk us through this, give us comfort and amazing good treasures in the midst of this dark journey. It sucks but He wants to turn what Satan has meant for our destruction into something for our good and His glory. God is okay with us being angry and broken about this but He wants us to keep our eyes on Him so He can speak life and hope to us along the way.
I pray that you would know His utmost grace, strength, love and goodness during this journey.
I am really sorry for all of your losses. I hate it that it is this board I am posting on instead of a more positive one.
I am one of you. I am currently going on my 3rd miscarriage in a row but total now has been 4. My story.
With my 1st husband...I have a 16 & a 14 year old.
With my 2nd husband...we had a miscarriage in 2009, had a very healthy BABY BOY in 2010 and after that we have had 3 miscarriages.
I am devastated, needless to say but I feel stronger now more than ever. I am angry, upset, sad, frightened but this time around I am not going to let it get the best of me. I have great faith in God & know that my little angels are in heaven with him =) I am not willing to give up. My desire is to have one more baby. Now if the lord grants me that blessing great, for now, if he keeps taking my little angels then all I have been used for is a haven for their little souls. This is just the way I have to think, I have to stay positive. I know that eventually this will take a toll on me & there will come a time when I say enough is enough BUT I am not there just yet.
It is really sad that I am not alone in this & that there are so many women out there that have to go through this heartache. My heart goes out to all of you.
I would love to hear stories of women who have had consecutive miscarriages & finally had a healthy baby. I would just love to read that during this tough time.
Bless all of your souls for being such extraordinary women. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight" Proverbs 3:5-6
I am new to this board. We, my amazing husband and I, have had 4 consecutive miscarriages (2 were missed miscarriages) and with each one it just gets more painful. We feel so lost and confused right now as to why this is happening to us. I have had a hysterosalpingogram (HSG), a Hysterosonogram, several blood tests and all have come back normal. I am having a hysteroscopy in 2 weeks to see if that shows anything. I would just love some answers. The unknown of how many more times this will happen is just killing me. Not only have I been in so much pain emotionally but physically each miscarriage, D&C and procedure have been so painful. We had a really good feeling about our last pregnancy but unfortunately found out on Sept. 10 that we lost another baby. After my hysteroscopy we will be seeing a specialists to see if they have any other ideas of what we can do or what might be wrong. I just don't know how many more of these procedures and miscarriages we can take!
I share your pain. I first started ttc at age 33. It took me 5 years and two miscarriages before have a successful pregnancy. 9 months after my son was born i got pregnant again. This time the heartbeat was already detected but when on to miscarry at 11 weeks 4 days. I never dared to ttc again but 5 years later (age 42) got pregnant. Got excited. And yet - another miscarriage took place at 8 weeks 5 days. This is devastating. Both my husband and i got tested earlier on and they couldn't find anything wrong with us. My 5 year old son is a healthy and smart child. We are so thankful for him yet we can only attribute our losses to maybe starting to ttc later in life.
I send lots of blessings to all of you. Mau your hearts be mendt and may you be able to find answers and have ypur babu wishes come true.
I too know how it feels to keep getting that dreaded news! 3 m/c for us and it definately doesnt get any easier!
I too have had the same tests done as you and no result or answer either! it makes no sense!
I have a almost 5 year old boy thats im desperate to give abrother or sister and it just doesnt happen!
I found out almost 4 weeks ago that im pregnant! BUT according to an U/S I had done things havent progressed to the point they should be at by now
im just hanging onto the hope that maybe my dates are off ? no bleeding yet but knowing my luck it wont be long! im trying to remain positive but its just so hard, given the previous 3 outcomes!
anyway, im rambling!!
goodluck to you
I'm 20 and have a healthy body weight for my height, though my diets not the best, I'm pretty healthy. Every pregnancy I've had so far (three of them) has ended in a miscarriage before two months. It's so frustrating to not know the cause.Now I'm scared to even try again.
My husband and I just found out last night that we've miscarried. This was our first pregnancy. We were only 6.5 weeks along, but we already saw and heard the heartbeat. How do you get past the feeling of hopelessness? Any idea when we'll be able to try again?
Your feelings of hopelessness will pass with time! You may never fully get over your loss but time heals everything to an extent!! You can try again straight away there is no reason that you should not!!
It is really nice to be able to read other woman's stories!
I am having my third miscarriage now! I had my first miscarriage in may last year at about 7 weeks, my second on xmas eve at 8 weeks! It took me 7 months to get pregnant this time and would now be 6.5 weeks! I am 38 and have an 18 and 14 year old and had no problems with them at all! I know I am older now and I am with a new partner but we would so love a child together I am now able to have tests done as this is the third loss! It never gets easier when you lose a baby, however I did try to harden myself this time by trying not to get excited as it really broke my heart the first two times!! I even had to go on antidepressants for a while after the second one!! I am trying the positive thinking thing but after this one I am feeling like I just cant go through this again!!!!I found myself checking my knickers every time I went to the toilet praying each time there would be nothing!! All my miscarriages have been different! The first one started with terrible pain around the lower abdominal area which lasted a couple of days then started spotting bright red blood, the second just went straight into bleeding and this one has been the hardest as it started with light brown discharge which then slowly over a couple of days turned into dark brown and now it has turned into bright red blood!! So there has been a lot of hope until the red blood appeared!!It is a terrible mind game!!!! I am seriously hoping something comes up in the tests that can help! I don't know if I can just see if will be lucky next time! The fear is to great!
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