November 8th, 2009, 09:18 AM
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Pam
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Join Date: Nov 2009
Location: Calgary, Alberta
Posts: 15
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My daughter is almost 3 years old, and I must say potty training has been difficult. Mainly due to me, my lack of knowledge, and my mothers parenting.
When I had Nikki my doctor, who is from India, told me not to force weening or potty training. He said each child would develop this ability naturally...because they learn from us.
I shared this information with my mother and she disagrees 100%. She had four children and thinks she's an expert and she had no difficulties with weening and controlling her children. However, she doesn't remember my little brother wet his bed till he was 10 and I had accidents till I was 13. I'm not saying my mother was a bad mom...but you do what you know. And learning from that I want to learn as much as I can so my kids develop with no fears!
I almost had Nikki potty trained at 18 months, she was doing so good, until I went to visit my mother....
we were leaving and Nikki had a dirty diaper (poop) I was changing her brothers diaper, he was 1 month old at the time. And to be helpful my mother said she could change her diaper, she never did before and I told her it might be better that I do it.
I saw her in a different light that day.
Nikki tried to run away, game we play, my mother thought she was being defiant and grabbed her and roughly laid her on the floor, she then began to "growl" at her to stay still. It scared me I never saw my mother act that way before(or that I remember). Nikki cried all the way home, and of course Jesse did too. (1 hour drive) My head was killing me when we finally got home, I told my husband and he lost it.....my relationship with my mother hasn't been the same since.
But ever since that day Nikki hides when she's pooping and gets scared if she has an accident (mainly when she poops)
Now I wish I could turn back time...so for anyone else out there....DON'T GET MAD AND DON'T REACT TO EMOTION!!
PamNJ
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