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Even though I'm not pg yet (and don't plan to be for a while), I have been researching homebirths a lot. I was just wondering if you would talk about the decision path that led to you deciding to birth at home. And also I was wondering if you considered using a homebirth midwife? I'm curious what led to your decision to birth unassisted. The idea of even birthing out of the hospital seems a bit intimidating to me. I'm awed that you decided not only to leave the hospital but to deliver alone. I'd very much like to hear about it, though you're welcome to ignore me if you don't wish to share such details. I won't be offended, I promise!
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Oh.my.gosh, I just had this huge response typed up and pushed the wrong freaking button! ACK!!!
Ok, so here is my blog link with ds1's hospital birth story. It was basically a miserable experience that I never wanted to repeat. When I was 31 weeks pg with dd and very much dissatisfied with the birth center we'd been going to for a few weeks in Oregon (we'd lived in Phoenix until I was 21 weeks pg and I didn't seek out care until 28 weeks) and feeling like we were out of options, I started researching uc after coming across it somewhere. I fell in love immediately. I came to dh at 35 weeks crying and completely broken. I told him how much I couldn't birth at the birth center or the hospital and that I just wanted to stay home. I reassured him with lots of research and he submitted. It was awesome and it felt so right.
Deep down, I think one of the reasons that uc appeals to me is that I was emotionally/verbally abused by my mom growing up and having the nurses and doctors lording over me-in addition to mil and my mom (though I'm 100% confident that if mil was here and dh told her that this was our plan and x, y, z were going to happen that she'd support it because she actually knows what respect is...my mom always has to interject her opinion, whether knowledgeable or not, and has to have the last word-which is why we aren't speaking right now and will not be speaking until she's had some extensive counseling...I told her last month ) was just too much. I had absolutely no confidence in myself after a few hours in the hospital. And dd and ds2 faired better at home than ds1 did in hospital. So for us it's a no-brainer.
I'm not opposed to a mw if the need arises, like maybe if I knew baby was breech or there were twins or whatever and I thought having help would be beneficial, but I think they just passed a law here recently that hbmws can't attend breech or multiple births, so I guess it doesn't matter. I'd probably just uc those also.
Another thing that really appealed to me was having absolute faith in God for the experience and knowledge. Trusting in others, besides dh has never really been my thing.
"Unborn children should be welcomed in life and protected in law." George W. Bush
Holy Cow!! I could NEVER do that LOL I like to be surrounded by doctors and nurses with a NICU right down the hall should need be LOL I get very very nervous and worried when it's getting to be about that time that I could never do what you did and keep my sanity! That does sound like you had an amazing experience though... definatley something special you shared with your dh!!
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