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October 10th, 2006, 07:37 AM
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I had my DD five months ago, and DH and I have still only been able to DTD twice...barely. I had second degree tearing during the birth, but for some reason, I still don't feel like I've recovered. It doesn't just hurt a little, it's downright unbearable. I have been to the doctor...two different ones actually...and both have said that everything looks fine. Last time I was examined, though, I blacked out right there in the office twice! I know a lot of women say it hurts for a while, but this is not normal pain. I keep convincing myself that it's not so bad and I can get through it, but next thing I know my ears are ringing and the room is going black.

I have gone online to see if there is anything like what I'm experiencing out there. The only things I've read on how to fix it sound absolutely horrible...surgery, injections that kill the nerves around the scars, etc. I was just hoping to hear some success story somewhere about a woman who overcame especially painful scarring and went on to have a happy sex life. I have yet to find any.
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October 10th, 2006, 11:54 AM
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did you have just tearing or an episiotomy and a tear or what?

Its actually not all that uncommon, and my suggestion would be to find a good oil (evening primrose works, but there are also others that you can use) and start doing perineal massages. Many people use them in preparation for labor, but these work wonders post partum esp for painful scarring. Youll likely feel where the scar is if you havent been able to already, and just gently massage it every so often. Eventually, you should see some relief.

I hope that helps. You could do this yourself or you could have DH do it, and make it an intimate encounter. Be aware - it may be painful at first, and take some time to get used to, but it will get better with time. Just be gentle.

If you need, I can post some specifics on perineal massage if you arent already familiar with it

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October 10th, 2006, 02:30 PM
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No episiotomy. Just tearing. Which is weird since she was only 5 lbs 9 oz!
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October 10th, 2006, 03:22 PM
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Could have had a lot to do with her presentation though - a lot of people automaticlaly think big baby = tear, and little baby = no tear. So not true A big baby in a good position with mom in a good pushing position can easily come through with no tears, yet you can put a little baby in a bad position and/or mom in a bad pushing position, and voila - a tear.

Laying on your back with feet up is the position MOST likely to cause tears. Unfortunately, its also the position most women in hospitals are encouraged to push in unless they request & insist otherwise.

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October 12th, 2006, 12:38 PM
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Oh wow! I am so sorry! Have you thought of seeking out a midwife to do an exam and get a different caregivers take on it?
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October 15th, 2006, 01:12 PM
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I know someone who had something very similar and her doctor suggested physiotherapy. It has worked wonder for her.
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October 18th, 2006, 03:42 PM
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I had my DD five months ago, and DH and I have still only been able to DTD twice...barely. I had second degree tearing during the birth, but for some reason, I still don't feel like I've recovered. It doesn't just hurt a little, it's downright unbearable. I have been to the doctor...two different ones actually...and both have said that everything looks fine. Last time I was examined, though, I blacked out right there in the office twice! I know a lot of women say it hurts for a while, but this is not normal pain. I keep convincing myself that it's not so bad and I can get through it, but next thing I know my ears are ringing and the room is going black.

I have gone online to see if there is anything like what I'm experiencing out there. The only things I've read on how to fix it sound absolutely horrible...surgery, injections that kill the nerves around the scars, etc. I was just hoping to hear some success story somewhere about a woman who overcame especially painful scarring and went on to have a happy sex life. I have yet to find any. [/b]
Hi, I'm a lurker!

I wanted to let you know that after my first daughter was born (I needed 8 stitches with 2nd degree lacerations), I couldn't sit for over a week. I had to lay on my side because of the pain. Six weeks later, when DH and I tried to DTD, it hurt so bad I had him stop. It was like this for the next year. I don't know if it was me, being so small and having such a tramatic thing happen "down there" but I'm happy to report that it only lasted that first year. Even after my second and third child, I was fine six weeks after the birth. So there is hope for you, it just might take a while for your body to fully recover. GL!
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I would get some arnica oil (you can order in online at www.birthsupplies.com) and take some time to yourself, find that scar and gently massage the arnica into the scar tissue. As it's obviously very sensitive to the touch right now, start very gently, maybe just 30 seconds and with a very soft touch. Work up to having the scar tissue sandwiched between your finger and thumb (assuming it's perineal) and massing the scar from both sides, working to break down the scar tissue. It's possible that what's happened is a nerve has gotten trapped near the surface of the scar tissue and that tissue will have to break to allow the nerve to embed itself deeper into the tissue.

When you are more comfortable, you can invite DH to massage also, still with the arnica oil. Be sure to tell him that this may or may not lead to DTD, depending on how things feel down there.
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October 28th, 2006, 07:51 AM
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Ah yes, arnica oil is great!

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October 29th, 2006, 09:37 AM
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I would get some arnica oil (you can order in online at www.birthsupplies.com) and take some time to yourself, find that scar and gently massage the arnica into the scar tissue. As it's obviously very sensitive to the touch right now, start very gently, maybe just 30 seconds and with a very soft touch. Work up to having the scar tissue sandwiched between your finger and thumb (assuming it's perineal) and massing the scar from both sides, working to break down the scar tissue. It's possible that what's happened is a nerve has gotten trapped near the surface of the scar tissue and that tissue will have to break to allow the nerve to embed itself deeper into the tissue.

When you are more comfortable, you can invite DH to massage also, still with the arnica oil. Be sure to tell him that this may or may not lead to DTD, depending on how things feel down there.[/b]

What a great recommendation! I never thought to use it for that. But I use it for my kids when they are hurt. Thanks....I am filing that one away!
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October 30th, 2006, 04:16 PM
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I have never heard of arnica oil. Thanks for the recommendation! I went to the doctor, and she prescribed me some estrogen cream to massage and stretch myself with. I'm supposed to do this for about a month. If that produces no results, I'll try that. Thanks!
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My daughter was almost 9 pounds and came so quickly that the doctor did the episiotomy without my consent. I was cut from vagina to rectum (sorry if TMI). I still have lumps of scar tissue and had pain up until a few months ago. I think the best thing is to take lots of baths, massage the area with lotions and oils, and also just DTD! I know how painful it is but it helps to stretch it out and loosen it up. I felt like a virgin all over again at first because I was stitched up so tight (sorry TMI again) but sex will help to soften the scar tissue. Just use lots of lubrication. GL.
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