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April 6th, 2008, 07:17 PM
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I had unprotected sex on March 18th. On April 3rd I started experiencing cramps in my lower back and pelvic areas. Then I had a brownish discharge and have begun bleed VERY heavily with blood clots in it. Could I possibly be having a miscarriage?
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April 6th, 2008, 07:20 PM
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There is the possibility that you are having a m/c, but there also is the possibility that you are just having an abnormally heavy period. I know that last month was a really wierd month for me, where I had a lot of clots, but it was just a wierd cycle for me, not a m/c.
Sorry I couldn't help more...I guess the only way to know for sure is to go into the doctor and get a blood test.
Hope you get some answers!
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April 6th, 2008, 07:24 PM
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It could be... but there is no way to know for sure.
With all of my early losses.... the actual m/c was not bad at all. Lighter than a noraml period and not a lot of clotting. The cycles after seemed to be the bad ones.
I hope yours was just a heavy AF.
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On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss  If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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April 6th, 2008, 07:27 PM
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I have never had a period for more than 3 days and have never had blood clots before.
I even bled in the shower, well like clots and stuff. I have a fever too. I've never had to use super plus tampons, only regular ones. I don't want to say anything to my boyfriend but he keeps pushing questions at me for why i'm acting so different but I don't know what to say......he just would say it's to early to tell anything but I know that's not true.
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April 6th, 2008, 07:34 PM
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You may want to give your doc a call. It could be a polyp causing the heavy period also.
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Bobbie mom to : Jeremy (21) Amanda (17) Matthew (3) and Daniel (20 months) step-mom to: Stephany(21) and Krista (18)
step-grandma to: Wesley (23 months)
On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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April 6th, 2008, 07:43 PM
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Well I'm trying to avoid going to the docs. Cuz then I would have to let my mum know why I want to go....and I'd rather not. See my boyfriend was only visiting for 2 and 1/2 weeks. He had to go back to finish his training for national guard and I won't see him again till around christmas. I don't know what to do
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April 6th, 2008, 08:06 PM
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I am sorry that you don't know what's going on. I wish I could answer for you but I think only a doc would know for sure. Did you take a pregnancy test to see if you have the hcg hormone in your body? It would probably be too early to tell but it may be worth a shot. I would also tell you boyfriend so that he know what is going on. If you continue bleeding heavily go to the doc and tell your mom that it's just cause you are having a heavy period and want to make sure everything is okay (if she asks). Sorry hun, I can tell you are very nervous.
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April 7th, 2008, 09:41 AM
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I agree with the other ladies. You really need to go to the dr. Just tell your mom what Danica said. G/l to you. I hope it's just a heavy period and not m/c. KUP
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April 7th, 2008, 10:05 AM
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Ok, I dont want to sound all mothery, but Im doing it. GO TO THE DOC!!! If you have a planned parenthood near you they are confidential. Tell your mom you think you have a "kidney infection" this causes you pain, and it makes you bleed when you pee. Good symptoms to use as a cover. You have to, and I mean HAVE TO see someone because you have a feever. It is the first sign to an infection.
Weigh the options
1) you go to the doc and they say m/c or heavy period, and tell you what to do, or...
2) you skip it, the infection gets worse, and they remove your uterus down the rode, meaning no babies for you naturally later on.
I know this is somewhat harsh, I just dont want you to be afraid of getting help. You need to do this.
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April 8th, 2008, 04:01 PM
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I have gone to docs.
Was a MC.....
I told my boyfriend 
He's such an #####....he sat there and kept telling me I killed our first child.
Who the hell does that?!?!?!
And he's happy about it!!!! 
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April 8th, 2008, 04:10 PM
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How did they know it was a m/c?
Sorry he is being a jerk 
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Bobbie mom to : Jeremy (21) Amanda (17) Matthew (3) and Daniel (20 months) step-mom to: Stephany(21) and Krista (18)
step-grandma to: Wesley (23 months)
On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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April 8th, 2008, 04:11 PM
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I'm glad you went to the dr. I'm so sorry you m/c. Don't listen to your boyfriend. You didn't do anything to hurt that baby. These things happen naturally. You didn't even know you were pg. I can't believe he's happy about it. That is horrible. Just know that we are here for you if you need to talk or help healing!!!
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April 8th, 2008, 04:27 PM
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He calls it "lil timmy" ??!?!?!
and keeps bringing it up saying i wanted to kill it....
even though he's the one who didn't want a kid
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April 8th, 2008, 06:15 PM
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Quote:
How did they know it was a m/c?
Sorry he is being a jerk [/b]
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Ditto. How did they know? Did you have an ultrasound done? I just want to be sure that it isn't an ectopic pregnancy.
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April 8th, 2008, 09:26 PM
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I'm sorry to hear you lost the baby, but like Bobbie asked, how did they know for sure?
Sorry your boyfriend is being such a jerk!
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April 12th, 2008, 01:22 PM
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I had looked up ectopic pregnancy as a concern too...i did kinda panic about that... 
well I did get asked if I had had any unprotected sex previous to the 18th and I had when I had been drinking with my boyfriend at home on the 10th...making me even later than i thought I had been...
I went with a friend on the 7th so i'd have to ask her what they said. I was very lightheaded and was not paying much attention to what they were telling me I passed out at some point. They did take blood and urine samples...I know that...They wanted me to come back in a week or two to check up on me...the doc was worried about infection.
I do not remember much else. I have problems remembering things since around the time I was told I had depression about 2 years ago. sorry. my meds don't mix well with me. 
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April 14th, 2008, 12:04 PM
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Quote:
He calls it "lil timmy" ??!?!?!
and keeps bringing it up saying i wanted to kill it....
even though he's the one who didn't want a kid [/b]
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Ugh, So if this offends you Im sorry ahead of time (that is not my intention) and please feel free to tell me to kiss off.
Why are you still with this #####? (sorry about language as well) He seems very insensitive, and Im sorry, but someone who loves you, hurts when you hurt. They dont exploit your pain and make it worse. You should re-evaluate your relationship, and think about the fact that things happen for a reason. What if this was "god's" way of telling you it isnt meant to be? Like i said im not trying to be a jerk, Im just sad to see you hurting, and having someone else worsen your pain. You dont deserve that.
Edited- I just wanted to add Im diagnosed Manic Depressive (Bipolar type 2), and I was on medication for over 1 year, had to come off of it to try to concieve. Please know you arent alone.
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