[mistiedawn]

hi ladies. last week i went to have an u/s bc of spotting (since the day i found out i was pregnant.. ) the first u/s said there was nothing there...hcg 1500. tuesdays u/s showed nothing, but my hcg levels went up to 1800 (which gave me hope again after mourning the baby on monday). tuesday night and wednesday morning i passed tissue. thursday i took tissue to the dr and he said, and i quote, "i dont know what that is, but its not the baby" and washed it down the sink. friday i had another u/s and still nothing with a hcg of 765. my body is finally going back to normal, but still spotting. i have to go back for another hcg this thursday to make sure its at 0.
ever since monday, when all this began, ive been OCD on when i can get pregnant again. ive read so many things on the internet. wait a cycle , wait 3, dont have to wait at all. im so confused. i want to start trying NOW. is this normal or am i just freaking out with hormones or depression or something. i think im scaring my husband. i even ordered clomid off the internet. went and purchased progesterine cream. and am sitting here thinking about running to the store for a basal thermometer when i have absolutely no idea what to do with these things!!!!! im also thinking of calling my husband to come home right now because in ONE article it says that my cervix is still open and its the perfect time because im mega fertile right now.
am i losing my mind?

[Banned-ZoesMom]

We have all felt this way sweetie. I am so sorry for your loss. Even if the doctor says it wasn't a baby, it was still your baby in your heart, in your mind and yes, in your body. Some women get to trying again right away. Doctors usually recommend 3 cycles to give your body a chance to get back to normal so that when you do become pregnant, it's easier to date the pregnancy. After my first miscarriage, I waited one cycle, became pregnant again, and then miscarried before we figured out how far along I was. With this pregnancy, I waited 2. Apart from lower hcg levels which could be attributed to late ovulation, everything is looking good so far.

You are not losing your mind. You are a grieving mother of a beautiful angel who is desperate to bring that angel back, even if it is not that exact angel. You are searching for love and comfort in a time of need. We have that here for you. This board is very loving and supportive and we hope you'll stick around for a bit. In my opinion, waiting until you stop bleeding or until you've had a normal period is probably best, at least it'll give your body a chance to heal some.

Best of luck when you try to conceive again.

[Celry]

You're not losing your mind. I was all over the Internet after my loss as well. What I learned in my massive search is that each person is different and there are no straight answers. I'm on CD 32. My temps were somewhat wonky this cycle. FF says I Od a week ago, but I'm not positive about that as my temp shift was very small. I've convinced myself I'm either not going to O this cycle or I'm going to O really late. It too my body about 2 weeks to get all the hcg out of my system, so I'm waiting to see if I will O 2 weeks later than usual, which would be later this week.

I also found that you're more fertile after a miscarriage. If you aren't Oing right now then there'd be no need to have your husband come home right now. Your cervix may be open because it's been passing tissue, not because you're fertile at the moment.

[Danica]

Hi hun. I am so sorry to hear you lost your little one. M/C is so hard and unfortunately there won't be any definate answers. Everyone heals at a different physical and emotional rate so all I can tell you is what my post m/c experiences were. I also had the immediate longing to be pregnant again and I think many women do. It's a need to have that life, a life back in you. My m/c's were 7w5d or less. I actually dont think I ovulated after my first m/c. I ovulated after the 2nd m/c late and accidentaly got pregnant but lost that baby very quickly because I don't think I had shed enough lining in my uterus for the baby to attach. I got pregant again this time before my 1st post m/c period but I feel safe about everything with this baby even though we didn't wait a complete cycle. I do think that you are more fertile after m/c and it sounds like you did not have to have a d&c so I don't think you are risking infection if you start trying right away. Only your heart will tell you when you are ready for the right reasons. I would def recommend a bbt and tracking temps on FF because that will at least tell you when and if you ovulate this cycle. Your cycles will probably be out of whack for a little while so taking temps help to see what is going on.



I look forward to getting to know you better.

[jademyst13]

You certainly have not lost your mind, we have all been there.

Most people say wait at least one cycle, but plenty of women have gotten pregnant right away. I think it's best to wait at least one to make sure the m/c has completed itself all the way. I hope you stick around with us and we get to know you better.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Welcome! I agree with what the other ladies said. Good luck when you start trying again. I am so sorry for your loss. The women on here are very supportive. We all know what you are going through. G/l to you!

[Eleysia]

I just wanted to say im sorry for your loss, and add my 2 cents. I thought I was losing it when i had my loss. I went from sad, to hating eveyrone including DH, to never wanting another child, to wanting to try NOW!!! Mind you this wall all in the span of 1 day. It took about 2 weeks for me to get my head on somewhat straight, and decide what I wanted to do. We are TTC and Im in the 2ww now, and hoping for the best. I swear to you everything you are feeling is normal. If you need anything thats why we are here. Welcome to the most loving family in JM

[Brittney06]

you are really not crazy i was the same way to. and as far as the other goes i think it depends on your doctor what they will tell you my doctor told me it was ok to try when i ovulated she told me that if my body wasn't ready than it wouldn't ovulate and if it was than i would (I love my doctor ) i am so sorry to hear about your lose sometimes life really sucks!
hope we can all help you through this time.

[HippyMomOf4]

Don't worry we all look online for things. It seems to give us some sort of comfort reading about things. My first dr said to wait 6 months and i just laughed at him. My gyn said wait one cycle that was it but she said i didn't have to we chose to wait since the m/c in dec we didn't wait and got pregnant right away and m/c again in Jan.

[Pound]

aw, i'm sorry. your feelings are normal. i felt just like you did. i wanted to have a baby right away. i didn't want to wait 3 cycles to try! and i think your dr was an ##### for doing that. wth??
some people aren't ready to ttc soon, but some are. i had my m/c 2 wks ago, and i have already been thinking about when i would O, if i'm even going to O, etc. i was already thinking that the day after.

[jennntj13]

It is totally normal... I had my m/c 2 months ago today and we tried to get pg right away... I had a natural m/c (Not a d &c) and my doc recommended waiting one cycle. I didn't wait, but I also didn't get pg either. (Hopefully this is my month!)

I would try if you want to try and if you hink it will make you feel better... Best of Luck to you and I'm sorry for your loss...

[mistiedawn]

you ladies are the greatest! im so glad i have you. my husband has the run and hide syndrom. not that im complaining. its hard to deal with. im the same way anyway, i dont like to talk about it. but i can sure write about it! hahaha. i just went and bought a basal thermometer. so im ready to get to work. i dont like to fail, even if it was out of my hands. ill just come back BIGGER and BETTER! (this must be a good day with all my positive attitudes!) ive already put together a notebook. taped my charts all over it. started a TTC diary. now all i got to do is start up the bd'ing. ive decided im not going to wait, i dont like that dr anyway. ill show him HAHAHA. im going to start this up tonight, even though i have no idea where i am in my cycle or whether i even have one yet. i feel good and thats what counts. my husband will be super excited. we have only been intimate about 3 times in 2 months bc of all the bleeding. im even making him his favorite dinner. man it feels good to be doing something instead of feeling sorry for myself. thank you so much ladies for letting me know im not NUTSO! i sure do love you! and i wish you all the luck in the world! (im not leaving)

[Danica]

A woman with a plan! Get out of the way!!!!!! LOL

Now you know if you chart online you have to post it so we can all obsess over it. I use fertilityfriend.com because it's free. Be sure to take your temps at the same time each morning before you get out of bed or do anything. Try to get at least 3 hours of uninterupted sleep for you most accurate reading but the more rest the better. The earlier you take your temp the lower you body temp will be but as long as you take it at the same time your should have a good baseline to go off of. GOOD LUCK!

[Pound]

now that's the attitude! i felt sorry for myself for days, and have been avoiding seeing most of my friends. i just don't want them to look at me and ask how i'm doing. but i feel comfortable here online.

good luck! it seems like there have been a ton of ladies here who just got their bfp- a month after their m/c!

[~*Sam*~]

I just wanted to say Welcome. The ladies above gave you great advice. Yes we are here for you, and no you are not crazy. I will tell you what my doctor told me. I lost my son at 17 weeks, being that it was in the second trimester I was induced and had to deliver him. When I went in for my post-delivery appointment my doctor told me that I could go ahead and get pregnant when ever I felt like I was ready. Well I was ready, not right away, but not too much later after I delivered Saul. So talk with your doctor, but my doctor said to go ahead right away. Good Luck dear and please know that you have come to the right place and that we've all been there and we are here for YOU!

[mistiedawn]

k i just (maybe) figured out the ff. but im still not sure of all the terminology here???? this is so foreign to me! i put that part on my signature. is that right?

[Eleysia]

It is right in the fact that it takes you to FF. If you set up your chart and mouse over the sharing tab to the left of the screen, click on home page setup, and there will be a link you can copy on that page. put that into your siggy and you should be set at least thats how i did mine. i dont know how toy get the cute pictures or siggys to link to it.

[mistiedawn]

thank you dear! hopefully this one works???

[Eleysia]

almost. when you make the ticker if that is what you want to have linked and not your chart copy the BB code into your signature box. i think thats the one you need for it.

[mistiedawn]

hahahaha im usually good at computer stuff!!!!! i dont have any idea what im doing!