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April 10th, 2008, 11:23 AM
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Zane & Jude's mama
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OMG....I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to say something. Another part doesn't.
I'm in tears , it hurts so much. cry.gif
So this girl I knew from back home, commented on my pic of Ottie on facebook. She said this and I quote "I'm so jealous!! He's adorable!! haha BUT I do get a baby, so I can't complain!! haha"
Isn't that just mean????
I wanna write her back and say that was rude, we've been trying to have a baby for over a year with no luck and a loss too. (Not to mention she got prego accidentally, not trying while on the pill!!!!) Grrrrrrrrrr this just pisses me off and hurts soooo much.
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April 10th, 2008, 11:25 AM
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formerly mommy2haley17
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That is the most horrible thing to say to someone who's been trying as long as you. She is NOT a friend. You are too sweet to be treated like that. I hope the Femera helps give you your sticky bean this month, honey! 
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April 10th, 2008, 11:35 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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What a jerk! I'm sorry that she said that. She clearly doesn't have any tact or know what FEELINGS are.
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April 10th, 2008, 11:41 AM
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Zane & Jude's mama
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Thanks ladies!!!  You're all so right!
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April 10th, 2008, 12:03 PM
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just me
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I can't believe she would say something like that! Does she know that you've been trying for so long? Does she know that you've had a miscarriage?
If she doesn't maybe she thinks that you don't want a baby yet and therefore thinks she's funny? Because if she knows and she said that...that's just horrible.
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April 10th, 2008, 12:03 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Jerk is not the wor i'd have used. Mine starts with a B!!! Totally tasteless. The funny part is that if she is SOO HAPPY then why does she have to make rude remarks like that? I think she is overcompensating.. Dont listen to her, that comment doesnt even merrit a response. 
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April 10th, 2008, 12:11 PM
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Jerk is not the wor i'd have used. Mine starts with a B!!! Totally tasteless. The funny part is that if she is SOO HAPPY then why does she have to make rude remarks like that? I think she is overcompensating.. Dont listen to her, that comment doesnt even merrit a response. [/b]
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I was thinking that too. It sounds like she's thinking of the baby as the consolation prize for the puppy.
I'm sorry that you had to deal with that. I agree, it doesn't merit a response.
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April 10th, 2008, 12:14 PM
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Zane & Jude's mama
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Thanks ladies! That's what DH says, so I'm not responding. (She actually doesn't know we're TTC or had a miscarriage, which I guess I can understand her comment.) BUt i know when I'm prego I would NEVER say something like that. I'd be happy to finalyl be pregnant after what we've been through, but I would never be rude and a b-word  Thanks ladies you def. cheered me up1 
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April 10th, 2008, 12:20 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I'm so sorry that she made those comments.
I hope she didn't intend to hurt you considering she does not know the situation.
Just chalk it up to ingnorance.
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April 10th, 2008, 02:00 PM
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Lindsey... I think part of it is you act so mature for your age. She probably hasn't *grown up* yet. You are above all that 
If she didn't know you have been TTC and about the m/c I wouldn't see it as her being mean, but just being dumb  But it still hurts...
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On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss  If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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April 10th, 2008, 02:14 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I think that what she said was REALLY rude and shows how cruel and immature of a person she is!
I wouldn't say anything... what goes around comes around...
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April 10th, 2008, 02:58 PM
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Zane & Jude's mama
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Thanks ladies.
Aww thanks Bobbie! 
I ignored it and moved on with the help of retail therapy~!
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April 10th, 2008, 03:15 PM
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Oh my favorite way to deal with things! What did ya buy?????
PICS please! LOL
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Bobbie mom to : Jeremy (21) Amanda (17) Matthew (3) and Daniel (20 months) step-mom to: Stephany(21) and Krista (18)
step-grandma to: Wesley (23 months)
On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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April 10th, 2008, 03:24 PM
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Zane & Jude's mama
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Hehe! Me2!! Let me take pics
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April 10th, 2008, 03:26 PM
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That was uncalled for.
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April 10th, 2008, 03:44 PM
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Zane & Jude's mama
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I bought baby gifts for my grad friends from the TTC #1 board who just found out their babies gender (I'd post the pics but I'm afraid they'd see )
But here's what I got for me
Everything I bought was like 75% on clearance too. Baby clothes make me happy They are just too cute! Almost as good as having the baby in them. I know one day we'll have a baby to wear them.
I'm obsessed with those cute baby sleeper gowns
and I found these cute onesies that we may give my parents when we get a BFP
and then I got this cute nightgown for me (i'm obessed with women's nightgowns too)
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April 10th, 2008, 04:16 PM
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just me
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Those are so cute!! I can't wait until you get a baby to put in those!
And that nightgown is adorable. Just what you need when TTC!
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April 10th, 2008, 04:33 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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OMG! I love the little grandma/grandpa onesies! And your pink nightie... ADORABLE!!
Isn't it ridiculous how people just don't THINK before they SPEAK (or type)?
I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
What a dumb girl to have said something so tactless.
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April 10th, 2008, 05:22 PM
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Hippy Mom Extraordinaire
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That is really rude! She shouldn't have said something like that!
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April 10th, 2008, 05:28 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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For some reason putting her foot in her mouth just doesn't cover it...its more like whole lower body in her mouth...sorry you have to deal with tards like that...
I l-o-v-e the onesies! that is an AWESOME idea for giving them the great news!
And I agree with Britt...the gown is def a good item to have handy for all that BDing
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