[mrsasham]

My best friend is a guy and he found out a few weeks after my son died died that he was having a baby, the baby wasn't planned but he being a good man, stuck by her and was there the whole time, she and I dont get along at all and she finally had the baby, as hard as it is to hold another baby and be in a hospital again I was there as soon as I found out, and he was so proud of his baby, she on the other hand put up a good front... and didnt seem to understand that I am not that good with babies at all and that I wasn't there to see her... anyways I wen to the flower shop bought flowers and came back and he was gone, this chick passes the baby off on me and says to me when your done with him put him in that "thing" over there Im going to sleep, my best friend had left to get food and she is so uncaring already I am sooo happy for him he is so proud to be a Dad and will probably marry this girl now that she has had his baby, but jeez I was upset I would give the world to have another baby and she is just so odd about it all, she doesnt want to hold the beautiful lil guy and she was talking about how she can't wait to go drinking, they know my husband and I will be there to help the whole way through, but at the same time my husband was like she has to stand up and be a mom I have never seen a new mom like her, she doesnt care is this baby blues setting in this quick??? I was trying to hold in tears and watching my best friend hold his new baby was amazing and beautiful he is going ot be a great Dad but his girl friend is so off about it and she doesnt seem to care all sghe can think is that she is getting her life back as she calls it, she doesnt seem to think that maybe her saying these things to me might make me want to scream my goodness children are gifts and I dont undertsnad this I have never seen a new mom like her and dont know what to say or do for them, my husband says I should just step back and let her do it and hopefully she'll be fine..... Im sorry about this girls but I am not good at this at all I dont understand her and dont know what to say to her she doesnt want to talk about the baby she just want to go for a drink and Im shocked honestly after 9 months of a baby growing inside you how could you say to me yah when your done put him in that thing Im going to sleep???

[Eleysia]

Wow, I havnt ever heard of anyone acting like that. I dont know hun. Maybe she was just so exausted from everything, and wasnt really thinking? Im not by any means making excuses for her. I know that after I had my son I was so overjoyed, but I did also want to get some sleep as well. I dont get her drinking and getting her life back comments though. Did she think that she would have the baby and be a part-time mom as I like to call them? I dont think she understands that until the lil guy is 18, moved out, and possibly married she wont get "her life back" at all. What a bummer. The only advice I have is to stay positive for your friend. It sounds like he has his work cut out for him, and will probably need you there more than you know if the mom isnt wanting to be a big part of their sons life

[Danica]

I don't know. It is sad She may just be putting on a front because visitors are around and she doesn't know how to act as a mom. Give her time. Hopefully she changes her ways and realizes how precious life really is and LOVE is nothing to be ashamed of.

[ShannonMVT]

Yikes I hope for this family's sake that what you said is not how she really feels (and she was just putting on a front or exhausted or whatever) or that she will like you say, step up and be a mom. But it really sounds like she is immature and maybe she just doesn't get how having a baby changes your life forever!

I can totally understand how this is frustrating for you. I'm sure it felt like she was so uncaring about something you would give anything for.