[Frozendesire]

I'm just really down lately.

I know I don't post here much but I lurk here ALOT. I'm here daily.

I'm waiting for my first AF after my M/C and it just seems like an endless wait. There's no schedule, no educated guess, nothing. Just a waiting game. It's like a ??ww ... it's worse then a 2ww...

How did you get through this?? How did you deal seeing/hearing about other people's BFPs??

I had the same exact due date as my friend... needless to say she is now 8 weeks along. Why me? Why can't I be right along side her? I wouldn't wish this on her, or anyone but I was SO excited to share this with her.

I'm just so depressed. I'm sorry if this isn't in the right section. I know there is a pregnancy loss forum but right now... I just need support in waiting to TTC again.

Thanks girls, I hope I didn't bring anyone down or anything.

[nicolecopp]

Hey Steph.. Im right there withya.. We were both in the Dec DDC and now we are just waiting here.. Im still bleeding and having pain and hoping it goes fast nd my AF will come so we can begin to TTC again.. I hope you get yours soon! If you ever wanna talk im here.

[HippyMomOf4]

I'm so sorry for your loss, i know how you feel about the waiting! It SUCKS! I have a loss in December then another in January and waiting after both of those about killed me. I had a friend that was due 5 days before me and it was so hard to see her growing belly and i didn't have mine. I eventually got over it and was happy for her, plus just about everyone i knew was pregnant, and that didn't make thing eaiser. Things get better over time, everyone needs a healing process. I hope you get your first AF soon so you can get back onto the TTC bandwagon.

[victorialv]

I know your pain all too well. I am so sorry for your loss, and watching other people get what you want is difficult, but you will get through it and be stronger for it. HUGS!

[Frozendesire]

Thanks so much girls, honestly, I am so thankful for your posts.

Denise, I'm so sorry for your losses. I couldn't imagine two in a row. I have to trust you that it gets easier. My first m/c was when I was 19 years old. I was a newly wed, it surprised us (I found out I was pregnant because I was bleeding and in extreme pain and went to the ER), but it was different. No one else around me was married or had kids. Now since I have Curtis I'm thrown into the midst of mommies, mommies to be, and the like. It's rubbed in my face! Not that anyone means it at all, and I don't hate them for it. They are so blessed and a pray for every person when I hear they get a BFP. I only wish the best. I just wish I was right there with them. Thank you again for your kind words. You know what I'm going through and it helps so much, please don't take that the wrong way.

Nicole, my heart breaks for you. Did you get attached to the DecDDC? I'm sure you did. It really hurts to say good bye, right after a introduction post. And then to see that DDC just right down below. You have the desire to keep in touch with them but it's hard when you ache in side. Is this your first m/c? I truly hope it is and I pray it's your last. I also pray that the pain subsides, and fades away. It's time for us to be able to start fresh. I'm here for you as well if you need anything. We'll get this together and hopefully, maybe, we will be in the same DDC soon. I'll be stalking you like crazy girl... so just ignore the tracks behind you

Thanks again

[Pound]

that's why we're here. many of us are in the exact same boat. i had a m/c and d&c on mar. 21, and had been waiting, not knowing when my af was coming, when i would be able to ttc again... it was worse than the 2ww like you said. BUT i posted, and a bunch of ladies here said they had their first af come about 30-40 days after their m/c, and guess what? after moaning to eleysia all day today about WHEN was my af gonna show, it came today!!! at 32 days. that's why i like this place, when 5 people come and say their first af came 30 or 32 days later, it gives me an average to go by. it lets me know that mine will probably come around that time. and it did. there are some who didn't get their 1st af for a long time, but almost everyone here said theirs came just about on time. just yours probably will too. it's much more comforting hearing it straight from these ladies than a dr. or some article online, cuz you know it's real life. and actually when several people here get their bfp, it makes me happy because i worry that maybe i won't be able to get pg again after a m/c, but seeing SO many people get bfp 1-2 cycles after a m/c, well then i thought it'll probably happen for me too, it's pretty common! so seeing all these real people getting pg right away makes me more hopeful.

just know that we've all been there, and are here if you need to vent.

[Frozendesire]

Victoria, give your belly a pat for me How absolutely precious life / pregnancy is! Thank you for the encouraging words. I wish you only the best.

Pound, I'm sorry I don't know your real name... perhaps I'm assuming to much that Pound isn't your name Haha... anyways, I am over the moon that you got your AF! That is SO fantastic! Do the AF dance around your living room haha! Thank you, you gave me a new look on other BFP.... that if they can get it after a m/c, then so can I. The possibility is there, the chances are good. Thank you.

[LindsLuvsSi]

Hi and I'm sorry for your loss Don't worry, you def. didn't bring me down. I completely understand your pain. It's not easy. (I am so thankful for this board and glad that I found it. The ladies here have totally helped, by offering encouragement and support) Hope AF shows ASAP and that you can TTC ASAP! Good luck and big :dothugs:

[Pound]

now why on earth wouldn't my name be pound? actually it's linda, i have it where my sig would be, but i don't have a sig, so just my name.
i'm glad i gave you a new perspective on seeing others getting pg. it's like you said, if so many people can get pg so quickly after a m/c, then chances are that i can too. i hope you get your bfp soon, and it will be right around 30 days!!! you might not have any pms either, i was worrying cuz i wasn't having any pms, so i thought oh great, it's not coming any time soon.

[Frozendesire]

Linda, I wont stress over the pms then!!! hehe thanks

Again, I'm so happy for you haha.

[Pound]

oops i noticed i said i hope you get your bfp around 30 days, i meant af. but i do hope you get a bfp soon too.

[mistiedawn]

awe honey, im so sorry for your loss. im in the exact same boat. still waiting for my body to get back to normal. AND my best friend is pregnant too. she came by yesterday and was CONSTANTLY scratching her belly and complaining about how sick she is. i wanted to pull my hair out. it IS hard, but you just have to believe EVERYTHING happens for a reason......This happened to us to prevent more heart ache in the long run. please keep your head up! you can try to think like me...after reading all these ladies stories, ive decided to join them...and make having a healthy baby a MISSION. i may be a little obsessed, but its better than obsessing over the why's and what if's. and the ending is MUCH better. i just have to wait for my body to give me the green light (bleeding for 3 months) and then my dh better watch out. hahahaha. smile even if you dont have a reason to. HUGS!!!

[MaMaTuTu]

I totally understand how the waiting sucks big time!! I was told I had to wait 3 cycles before we could try. It felt like forever! One of my friends is due about 3 days after I was. And I will say that it was very hard to look at her little tickers and know that I should be that far along. But it does help, for some strange reason, that I know that she has also had a loss. When ever I see a pregnant woman, instead of thinking "that should be me", I try and think "I wonder if she's had a loss too?". I know I don't always think that way, but it helps me to try. I hope AF shows her ugly face soon!!

[jademyst13]

Don't worry about bringing us down, we totally understand and we are all here for you. I think I had my first AF about 4 weeks after my m/c was complete.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Don't even think you're bringing us down. We have all been where you are. It's very hard. The pain does get easier over time. It'll always be there, but maybe not so fresh. KWIM? I hope af shows soon so you can start ttc. You should post more often so we can get to know you better. I'm so thankful I found all these wonderful ladies after my m/c. They have helped me cope tremendously. I hope we can help you as well.

[Eleysia]

Sorry Im a late poster on this topic once I go home for the day i dont usually make it back to JM until the next day.

Im so sorry that youre hurting. It sucks, and it sucks bad. I know i hit rock bottom a couple times while waiting for AF. I think that besides these women helping me, that starting a TTC journal up in the subforums was a godsend. Even though I knew people would read it, I just needed somewhere to dump all my feelings. Everything from excitement, to resentment, and fear. I just didnt care really what anyone thought when they read it, because I knew that was honestly how I felt, and it was helping me to get that out.

I still have really crappy days, but like everyone said... time will make it a little better. I know also when AF finally came it was like i shead 100lbs off my back. I was so relieved that finally I had one thing happen that I was sure was a good thing.

It sucks so bad to wait, but once AF shows you will feel a bit better i promise.

If you ever need anything im here, and for that matter so is everyone else lol. I know there was a few days where I just randomly pm'd someone to talk because I thought my world was going to come crashing down.

[kellyanne]

I feel your pain. I had back to back m/c in Feb and Mar and am now supposed to wait 2 cycles. I needed to join this forum to deal with exactly what you're dealing with right now, people who haven't been through it just don't understand (and how could they?). My hubby was very supportive at the time of my m/c's but he doesn't really seem to understand the lingering pain and how new things (like finding out my best friend is pregnant and we would have been pregnant together) can make me hurt all over again. I try to view other people's BFP's, especially people on this board, with hope. Eventually it will be our turn. This experience, though not one I'd wish upon anyone, has opened my eyes to the painful situations (some much worse than my own) that other women face and has made me so much more appreciative of my baby girl and any future miracles I may be blessed with.

[Frozendesire]

Thank you everyone for the wonderful support. I'm feeling much better today. I have a way more positive outlook

[Daniellea22]

i'm sorry your having such a hard time. Waiting for that first af is complete torture..still bd though because you could be ovulating..my dr. told me to think of your m/c as a period (well no exactly but as far as ttc and cycles go)

hearing other's get their BFP's never gets easier. I used to TRY my hardest to make something positive out of it for myself and let it give me hope, hope that, THAT will be me one day

here is to a better tomorrow

[KDD]

I had my m/c on April 10th so I am exactly where you are. At first I thought there was no way I was going to TTC again and risk that pain and anguish. Within a couple of days I changed my mind. Now I'm tempted to not wait for my AF and just get started! (I will wait and be medically responsible, don't worry ladies). What I don't like is that those who I told about the m/c keep telling me to try again soon. I tell them that we're going to wait (I don't want them asking me every month if I'm pg or not).

If 30 days is the norm, then I'm only 2 weeks away!