[Banned-ZoesMom]

I don't feel as if I belong here anymore. The things everyone else wants to post about, I can't relate to anymore, and what I'd like to post about, you can't relate to either, so it's kind of hard. I, by all means, do not want to hurt anyone, but it's also so hard not talking about something you're so excited about. I just can't relate to you girls anymore. I don't mean that in a mean or harsh way, it's just the reality.

So, I'm going to go. Perhaps from time to time, I'll come back with updates if that's okay. I'll lurk from time to time to see if any of my friends here have finally gotten their BFP's, but I just don't feel like this spot is for me anymore.

You won't see me in chat either. I'll be around PAL and the December 08 DDC, so you can hit me up with message there or you can send me a PM if you'd ever like an update.

Take care ladies and best of luck on your BFP's!!

[valentinemommy]

I felt that way too for a little while. I think I even felt guilty for being happy when I saw friends here still going through so much pain. But I still decided to come in and post whenever I get online and see how everyone is. I stll feel I have a connection with these girls. But if you don't feel comfortable I totally understand. I'm sure some people feel that they need to just move on. I don't think there is anthing wrong with it. I do hope that you visit once in a while though.

[jennntj13]

I am sorry that you feel uncomfortable Brandi. I am very happy for you and wish you the best. Big Congrats on the sticky bean...

[Banned-ZoesMom]

Thank you.

[Danielley08]

Well we are sure gonna miss you...but at least you are leaving for a GREAT reason!

and don't worry...you know you have all of us as stalkers now

[HippyMomOf4]

I hate to see you go, but i can understand where your coming from. Don't take this as i'm being mean but this is how i see it. You post here a lot and whenever anyone else post you hardly ever reply, i know you arn't TTC anymore but you were and you can relate just because your pregnant not doesn't mean you can post to other peoples post. The only time you post here is about your pregnancy which is fine it doesn't bother me but. I'm not trying to be mean at all, i think your a great girl, i'm just saying how i see things. I'm glad you have a sticky bean!

[steph&dam]

Brandi, its awesome that you have your BFP! I think that everyone feels the same. I understand that it's hard to relate to others who are not in the same position. I am sure it must be difficult to keep your excitement contained when everyone else is still struggling with conception or just had a recent loss, and yet, out of consideration you should. You will be missed, but as they say "all good things must come to an end". With your ending you have a beautiful new beginning. Good luck and do keep us updated as you progress.

[Madison.N.Hailey'sMom]

Brandi I understand what you are saying. There is the TTCAL girls success stories that you could post in, I dont think anyone would really mind if the posts were in there. I just have spent sooooo much time with these girls that its hard to leave but I totaly understand the wanting to not want anyone to hurt more then they already are.

[Banned-ZoesMom]

I do know what you mean, Denise, and the reason for not responding is because I don't know what to say. I've never charted, I have no clue what crosshairs are, I've never temped, so I stay out of those ones. I look at the possible BFP's and I do post if I see a line or not. I don't post for 2ww anymore, because I'm not there, symptoms, yes I have them, but I didn't have very many of them with this pregnancy.

I just feel out of place now, and very uncomfortable coming here. I feel like we've all been trying to get over a huge fence, and I finally made it over. I don't want to watch my friends continue struggling. I just don't know what to say anymore. I post less often BECAUSE I feel out of place. I'm not on the same page or the same side of the fence anymore, and it just feels weird. I still wish all of you the best, and I really do hope to see you all get over to this side of the fence, I really really do, but for now, I just feel out of place being here.

It's hard to leave. And I don't know if it's just hormones or not, but I will miss you ladies too. I'm in tears right now because it's hard to leave. I just don't really have much to say anymore that may or may not hurt you ladies, and you ladies are such good friends. I don't want to hurt you, so I feel like it's time to go.

[Eleysia]

Brandi,

We will miss you around here and in chat. Id still like to hear your updates though. As much as you feel it is hard to relate to us, it goes both ways. Dont think that we are not estatic for your healthy bean, because we truly are. I love it when TTCAL girls get pg and they carry healthy babies, but it just hurts to see posts about something we are all longing for so badly.

Ill continue to stalk you in the DDC and PAL to see how you are doing for sure, and I hope all goes well on Wed with the counseling for you and DH. Enjoy then next few months, and the beautiful family you have

[victorialv]

I gotta admit ladies, I am pretty offended by this. Am I the only one?

[HippyMomOf4]

Yeah Brandi i understand not posting, i didn't wanna come off like a you know what, if i did i'm sorry. I really hate to see you go. Your post don't bother me at all, so i'm not sure where this is all coming from. I will be stalking you also and seeing how your doing. We will all miss you dearly!

[Banned-ZoesMom]

No, you didn't come off as a you-know-what at all. I simply wanted to explain why I haven't been posting as much here, and that is why. I don't mind stalkers. I may stalk some of you too, you never know when I could be lurking around the corner.

Victoria, I'm sorry if you're offended by this. I, by all means, do not mean to offend. Can you explain me to why and how you feel offended?

[NeeshBoogie]

I'm pretty new around here, and I'm very sad to see you go, but I can understand that it isn't a good idea to stick around if you're feeling uncomfortable. Like you, I don't chart, I don't temp and I don't know what crosshairs are, but I've enjoyed following your story because seeing you get over the fence made me feel like I could get over too as long as I keep climbing.

I'm happy you got your BFP, and I wish you well with the rest of your journey. Hopefully I'll see you in the PAL board sometime soon.

[Banned-ZoesMom]

Thank you, and I hope to see you over in PAL too.