[KDD]

I truly thought that I was doing a great job of getting past my m/c and moving on. Today we got an e-mail from a friend announcing their pregnancy and a due date near my due date. Needless to say - that ruined my day! I'm trying to be happy for them, but all I can think of is "why not me?" I realize that my m/c was only a couple of weeks ago, but I never thought that it would still hurt so much. How long does it take until it gets easier?

[*Bobbie*]

I am not sure it ever gets easier. I still have a hard time seeing girls siggies from my old DDC. One of the other boards I go on has a couple members from my first DDC and seeing pics of those babies makes me so sad sometimes.

For me the only thing that makes it easier is to keep talking about it. About the m/c's, about the babies, about TTC, about everything. When I talk I feel like I can move past the grieveing and just have that dull longing for what could have been. I am not sure it will ever go away.... it just hurts a little less with time.


Big HUGE

[babyblue]

Ditto what Bobbie said. I don't think the hurt will ever go away.. but it will not show up at your doorstep as often, kwim? Those setbacks come fewer and farther between with time. I still have my days (today for example) and moments when things like hearing another friend or family member is pregnant..but it does get better. I went to a family event Saturday and saw my pregnant niece and my pregnant niece-in-law together- they are both having girls just a month apart- both married but it happened accidentally... I was so excited to see their cute little bellies, but I have to admit, it still stings. It just will. But things will get better as the days go by. Keep you chin up!

[..Jessica..]

I agree with Bobbie and Amber, it does get easier with time.

I stopped lurking in my old DDC once the babies were born. It's too hard to see for me at this point.

I don't think we ever truly get over losing our babies, which is totally normal and expected.

[jennntj13]

I hope at some point it gets a little easier. In the meantime, I am just trying to suck it up and try to convince myself that everything happens for a reason. Big Hugs!

[Frozendesire]

It will get easier with time. There is just so many things that can set you back. You just need to re organize your thoughts. It'll be you one day

[Nicole1022]

It does get easier with time. Some days I still cry a lot and others I'm very excited about getting to TTC again. And I agree, it stings to see family and friends getting prego left and right. I asked "why not me" for a long time. Now I'm trying to focus on "when it's me".

[steph&dam]

I truly thought that I was doing a great job of getting past my m/c and moving on. Today we got an e-mail from a friend announcing their pregnancy and a due date near my due date. Needless to say - that ruined my day! I'm trying to be happy for them, but all I can think of is "why not me?" I realize that my m/c was only a couple of weeks ago, but I never thought that it would still hurt so much. How long does it take until it gets easier?[/b]

It does get easier, but I don't think its because we forget, our skin just gets a little bit tougher. It took me a couple of months before the "do you have kids" and "hey, I am pregnant" comments didn't make me cry.

[madmum_sarah]

my best mate is due 2 days before my baby would have been, seeing her is so hard. i think it does get easier in time but i know im having real trouble. one day is fine and the next it seems like your world is crashing down again.
i have found these girls a great support though and knowing someone understands makes it easier to deal with in some ways.
i pray you find the strength to get through this
xx

[Melanie0507]

All the other ladies have said it perfectly, but I just wanted to send you some more hugs!!

[jademyst13]

I just have to what everyone else has said

[MarykatSC]

I'm having a really hard time with my recent m/c because I keep lurking in the DDC I was part of. I don't know why I keep doing it, but it just makes it harder. I actually got really upset the other day because I looked on there and there is a teenage girl asking what effects alcohol would have on her baby because she was trying to make her BF upset, or to see if he cared about the baby. Talk about making me sick on my stomach.... those of us who desperately want babies can't, and those that are too immature for one can have babies. Ugghhh, sorry for the rant

[Eleysia]

I agree that it just takes time hun. It will slowly sting less. I have my bad days still too, and they suck, but if you can make it through that day, itll make you a stronger and better person. :dothugs:

It will be you one day, dont forget that!

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I agree with what the other ladies said. I just wanted to send you

[KDD]

Thanks Ladies. Today was a much better day.