Remembering our angels in ddc's?

MrsPoe · #1 April 29th, 2008, 08:56 AM

I am just wondering how others feel about having their babies remembered in the ddc. I remember leaving my ddc after 7 long months and just didn't feel a part of it. I kind of felt like my little girl was forgotten. Anyways, what would you ladies like to have done. Would a blinkie with all of the losses be too hard to look at? Would a sticky area be too hard or would it make you feel more a part of that group? I know how hard it was for me to visit the ddc, but still I had to go and look around. Even now I occassionally go visit the playroom because I wonder what Abby should be doing now. Kwim? I feel that every baby should be remembered and it doesn't matter on how long they were with us because they existed even if only for a short time.

So what are you girls opinions? Would you like to see your baby (nicknames, name, date of loss) on the ddc or PR? or would that make it even harder?

HippyMomOf4 · #2 April 29th, 2008, 09:44 AM

I would love to have a blinkie for my losses in my DDC, the only thing the August DDC has is a list of all the angels, the Sept DDC doesn't have anything and its actually hurtful to me!

mom 2 haley & tyler · #3 April 29th, 2008, 09:49 AM

I think they should at least have a list of all the angels. Just because they aren't with us now doesn't mean we dodn't love them and they aren't still our children. KWIM?

Madison.N.Hailey'sMom · #4 April 29th, 2008, 10:03 AM

I think there should be something for the angles in each DDC because those girls were with us at one time and I feel bad that once they have a m/c it seems like they get forgotten. But on the other hand I think it would be hard for the girls when they come to check in with their DDC to see the list of angels. KWIM

ShannonMVT · #5 April 29th, 2008, 10:04 AM

I would have liked a sticky with a list of all the angels. I know a couple people from my DDC have checked in on me but it would still be nice to have a stickied list. It would help if you wanted to stalk and check up on those who have had losses and it would just be nice to know our angels haven't been forgotten.

Eleysia · #6 April 29th, 2008, 10:05 AM

I agree having a list would be nice.

madmum_sarah · #7 April 29th, 2008, 10:22 AM

i would love it but i didnt even keep hold of mine for long enough to join the DDC

jademyst13 · #8 April 29th, 2008, 11:28 AM

I know in the June DDC on the due date list they have the usernames of those that had a loss. It doesn't have any other info and I'm sure once it turns into a PR it will just be deleted.

MrsPoe · #9 April 29th, 2008, 11:36 AM

There wasn't anything in rememberance in the july 07 ddc when I was there and I think it is kind of sad. I agree that it would be nice to keep up with those that have had a loss and see when they get to join a new ddc or something. I just wondered if I was the only one that felt this way. Maybe for those women that wouldn't want their babies on there, they wouldn't have to acknowlede that sticky or blinkie request?? I am still kind of new to how these things work. Any other suggestions not already mentioned? I know that sometimes it is hard to remember everyone when you don't see posts from them, kwim? It might also be helpful to the ones that lost a baby around the same time, or share the same edd or loss date. I know that I bonded more with those that share the same dates.

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i would love it but i didnt even keep hold of mine for long enough to join the DDC

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Unfortunately a lot of women lose the babies before they even get to officially join. I know with one of my losses I only knew for 2 days. But I still think that you should belong and so should your baby!

ShannonMVT · #10 April 29th, 2008, 12:51 PM

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It might also be helpful to the ones that lost a baby around the same time, or share the same edd or loss date. I know that I bonded more with those that share the same dates.[/b]

Absolutely. Michelle and I were in the same DDC and I am hoping and praying we both get in the same DDC this next time with our sticky beans!

mom 2 haley & tyler · #11 April 29th, 2008, 12:55 PM

I hope we are too Shannon!!! I can't wait!

dee68 · #12 April 29th, 2008, 02:53 PM

thats a tough one, ddc's are so hard as it is to vistit, but if you a part of one, then I think SOME sort of remembrance is appropriate.
My July ddc had alot of early losses & stopped going there for awhile because it scared me to be honest. We have had 3 late losses recently and we have a blinkie for the 3 babies,(in my siggy). it is nice to know however that there is a list on the PL board, you know they will never be forgotten there.

jennntj13 · #13 April 29th, 2008, 03:25 PM

A list would be nice...

..Jessica.. · #14 April 29th, 2008, 07:26 PM

In the Feb. '08 DDC, they created a blinkie for all of the lost babies. It was very nice of them to do, and I'll never forget it.

Brittanie · #15 April 29th, 2008, 07:33 PM

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thats a tough one, ddc's are so hard as it is to vistit, but if you a part of one, then I think SOME sort of remembrance is appropriate.
My July ddc had alot of early losses & stopped going there for awhile because it scared me to be honest. We have had 3 late losses recently and we have a blinkie for the 3 babies,(in my siggy). it is nice to know however that there is a list on the PL board, you know they will never be forgotten there.[/b]

That's what I was about to say. I'm keeping that list. I'll never forget.

And if you're NOT on the list, and would like to be, just add your info to the sticky and I'll get you added!!!