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May 4th, 2008, 09:23 PM
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I wrote this for my blog and I thought I'd post it here too. Warning! It's emotional.

Dear Future Me,

I hope you don’t forget me. I hope that if you stop and think about it, you remember the pain and sorrow.

When you haven’t gotten any sleep to speak of for days because the baby needs you. When you’re crying because it’s all too much. Remember me. Remember how I would do anything for those sleepless nights. Remember all the tears I cried because my heart ached for a child.

When your baby is whiny or teething or crying for no reason. When your child is throwing a screaming fit in the grocery store and you’re exasperated beyond belief. Remember me. Remember all those months I hoped and prayed for my dream to come true. Will you please give my dream come true an extra hug and kiss from me?

When there are fights between siblings and unidentified sticky spots on the carpet. When your child yells “You don’t love me!” out of anger. Remember me. Remember and you can tell your child that you loved them long before they were ever born.

When times are tough and your days feel harder than you think you can handle, I want you to stop and realize how lucky you are. I hope you never forget this time and never forget what a blessing your child is.

I hope that you remember me. And I hope that you are a better mother for it.

Love,
Present Me

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May 4th, 2008, 09:34 PM
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That was beautiful. I haven't written it down, but I feel a lot the same. When Erin's being the fussiest and I'm exasperated, I think about Cora.


Thanks for sharing that honey. You'll get there some day!!

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May 4th, 2008, 10:24 PM
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Beautifully written. Thank you for sharing.
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May 5th, 2008, 01:40 AM
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thats lovely. i know how you fell. despite having 5 children who stress me to the limit some days, whenever i feel like that i just think of jamie and how much i would have loved the added stress of that baby if only i could have held onto the pregnancy.
thanks for sharing
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May 5th, 2008, 07:23 AM
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Shannon,


That is so touching I feel the same exact way.

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May 5th, 2008, 08:30 AM
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That was beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
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May 5th, 2008, 08:54 AM
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May 5th, 2008, 09:49 AM
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thats beautiful!
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May 5th, 2008, 10:04 AM
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Shannon, thank you so much for sharing that. it made me stop and think about my reactions to DS when he does have those moments that drive you to your breaking point. I appreciate you making me stop to think about it
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May 5th, 2008, 07:36 PM
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Wow Shannon, that was perfectly said! Thanks for sharing...

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May 5th, 2008, 08:40 PM
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Amen!

You hit it right on the head, Shannon!

Beautiful writing!
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May 6th, 2008, 12:35 PM
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That was beautifully written Shannon! Thanks for sharing!
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