[ShannonMVT]

I was talking to a friend at work and I was telling her my story about Dh's sister being pregnant. So then I was like "I don't get how people who don't want to get pregnant, always do and people who do want to get pregnant, can't." So then this other co-worker comes up and was like "oh yeah I know what you mean! I never wanted kids but I just kept popping them out, haha" Then she asks me if I couldn't have kids and I just say I don't know because I don't want to get into all of that with her since I don't know her that well. Then she goes on some more about how she "just kept shooting them out" and then starts telling my friend how her mom raised one of her daughters and her aunt raised another, but she raised her son herself (give the woman a freaking medal), but she got her daughters back when they were 12, right at that really pain the butt age. I didn't even say anything to her, because I figure there is no point.

But how can you be so stupid? If you think someone is having trouble having kids why are you going to start talking about how it was so easy for you? This is not acceptable anywhere else in life, but somehow it is for TTC?! This is not the first time I have experienced this. In fact every time I hear someone talk about how they are having trouble having children, I hear about how some other woman starts bragging about how they are Mrs. Uber Fertile Queen.

The best analogy I can think of is this. Say you just failed some entrance test for the 3rd time (MCAT or something). Then you come up and tell me and I say, "Oh yeah. I passed that the first the first time I took it! And I didn't even have to study!" That would be considered totally rude and rubbing it in your face. So how come people have no tact when it comes to TTC?

And why would she act like it is no big deal that she didn't even raise her own kids? I would be embarassed to tell someone that I pawned my kids off on someone else.

But I am trying to just shrug it off and say you know what? At least when I have kids they will be loved and I will cherish them. I feel sorry for her that she is so dumb and cluless.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with someone like that. It is stupid and insensitive. I always say what goes around comes around. I'm sure her daughters remember being raised by someone other than their mom while their brother was raised by her. Sounds like an area for some problems. It's really sad.

But it's true, seems that the ones who really want a child have trouble while the ones that don't easily get pregnant.

I wouldn't have shared any personal information either.

[jennntj13]

Awww. Big Hugs!

It is sad to think that many people speak without thinking and this is one of those cases, I think. I also think that people who have never experienced a m/c or trouble ttc have no idea of how difficult and emotional the ride can be. It is unfair, imo, but unfortunately, it happens way too often.

[Eleysia]

wow what an ignorant #####. im sorry but if one thing holds true for me it is that i have a VERY low tolerance for stupidity. This woman should have picked up on you not jumping into the conversation that it was absurd. crap.. have a little #%*$ tact! I for one wouldnt brag about pawning my children off on someone because for what ever reason she sucked at life and couldnt raise the children she was women enough to pop out. omg im pissed now.

Shannon im sorry you had to endure her. ugh.. i would have totally mortified, and exploited her, but then again im just a ##### like that.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I'm sorry you had to listen to that Shannon! Some people are so ignorant!

[..Jessica..]

She didn't even raise 2 out of 3 kids, so she has nothing to brag about!

I'm sorry you had to listen to her Shannon!!! I completely understand why you said what you said! One of my BFF's niece's is 16 and she's having her 2nd child. Talk about someone being Fertile!

heading your way Girl!!!

[jademyst13]

Wow! She sounds like mom of the year!

[ChattyAshley]

Aww Shannon, I'm sorry. It's amazing how many dumb people there are the in world who don't think before they speak.

I like your analogy about the MCAT test... so true!

[Brittanie]

Awww, Shannon, I'm so sorry honey!!!! What a stupidly ignorant thing to say. I agree, I would be mortified if I couldn't even raise my own children.


Honey, when you finally get that baby...that kid is going to be so well-adjusted because s/he will be SO loved. You're going to be giving that child such a better life.

[*Bobbie*]

GRRR!!!!