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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Guysville, Ohio
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So, today I ran into an acquaintance whom I haven't seen in several weeks. She was asking about Cameron and I told her that he feels well, keeps busy with his laptop/games, school and picking on his sister. I made a comment like he tries to make her upset at least one more time each day than the day before. Her response: "I bet she wishes he was dead." ***! I just walked away. I couldn't even talk to my best friend at work about it without sobbing. I have never been so offended and horrified in my life.
Thanks for listening to my rant.
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Nebraska
Posts: 3,312
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Oh Lord!!! Is there any chance she didn't realize what she was saying? Didn't know the situation? I'm soooooo sorry!! That was so very thoughtless and tasteless of her!!
I'm about in tears just thinking about it. Wish I could give you  !!!
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Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Guysville, Ohio
Posts: 681
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I suppose she could have been oblivious. She definately knows what has been going on, I've worked with her husband for almost 10 years and she had signed Cameron's caringbridge site.
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Bremerton, Wa
Posts: 4,400
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OMG Lori,
Im speechless. I dont think that she even thought before opening her mouth. what a horrible thing to say to someone regardless of their child's past or present battles. i just dont know what to say. im so sorry big hugs hun. thats just insane.
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Connecticut
Posts: 2,514
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***?! WHY would anyone in their right mind say that?!?! I wanna b**** slap her for you!
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Nebraska
Posts: 3,312
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I'd say just chalk it up to thoughtlessness and foot-in-mouth disease. So unless she's an awful person, I'd bet that she's positively mortified after she realized what she'd said. Doesn't make you feel any better though, huh. I'm still sorry, and amazed at how tactless people can be without even realizing it! I know I've accidently done my fair share of shoving my foot in my mouth. Let me amend that though, I've never said anything quite that awful.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Canada
Posts: 11,084
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I'll come back and type something when I've calmed down.
Honestly Lori, just....wow.
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Okay, I'm back....
Honestly girl, don't let this person get to you. She's obviously in some serious need for mental help. Anybody that has children, wants children, has nieces, nephews, young cousins and friends with children KNOW the difference and KNOW NOT to say something so ignorant and heartless as that!!!
I can't believe she would open her big dummy head mouth and say something SO rude to you!!! 
Girl!!!
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Virginia
Posts: 5,129
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Oh wow....
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just me
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Littleton, CO
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I'm so completely astounded that something like that would come out of someone's mouth. I've played games like that with my brothers. I've also had many times when they weren't games, and as much as it hurt coming from them, I never ONCE wished that. And my brothers were healthy. I can't imagine that Sami is as terrorized as me, or that she would eve THINK that thought for even a fraction of a second.
All my best wishes to Cameron as always.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Dec 2004
Location: Oklahoma City
Posts: 5,660
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I am shocked and stunned. You think I wouldn't be surprised what people say by now, but that really takes the cake. TACTLESS.
You did the best thing by walking away. I probably would have ripped her hair out- I don't care who it is. I know how protective I am of Mason- especially b/c he does suffer from a serious illness I am probably moreso than if he was 100% healthy.
YOu have every right to be angry and P.O.'d. I am fuming just thinking about this!
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 16,067
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I'm speechless.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Posts: 10,854
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Sometimes I just can't believe the things that come out of people's mouths. Even if you are not thinking, how could you say something so horrible?
((hugs))
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Rochester, NY
Posts: 15,518
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WTH???
GRRRRR
double GRRRRR
My God.... what a stupid freaking thing to say. GRRRRR
I too am stunned by what came out of her mouth. UGH!
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On 1/31 at exactly 16 weeks pregnant Noah came too soon. He was our 7th loss If you would like to see pictures of my sweet (but tiny) boy they can be viewed at www.caringbridge.org/visit/noahdarrohn they aren't the easiest pitures to look at but I am willing to share them with anyone who would like to see them <3
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Apr 2006
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OMG l just can't believe a person could say such a horrible thing,you
wouldn't even say that to your worse enemy,wow l'm so shocked 
to you and Cameron.
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 What the other ladies said, there is no excuse and I hope she realizes what she has done.
So sorry hun
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Indpls
Posts: 2,517
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I would hope that she did not intend to say what she said.
She is probably wrenched with guilt right now.
Of course this doesn't excuse her words, I am sorry she said such a horrible thing to you Lori.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Southern Iowa
Posts: 22,466
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I'm really sorry that she said that to you. Maybe she is just as oblivious as I can be at times, and meant nothing by it. At least I hope that's the case.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: keenesburg colo
Posts: 15,461
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I was just lurking here and I think that is an awful thing to say to anyone
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