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May 9th, 2008, 07:12 AM
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Why can't I just make a decision in life and stick with it???

I know that I said that we were done TTC about a month ago but when AF came I was disappointed.
Not that there was even the slightest chance that I could have been pregnant.

This just sucks, if I tell DH how I feel I think he may flip. I just keep going back and forth on whether I want another or not.
I should be happy with the two wonderful kids I have but I still feel empty.
I should be 33 weeks along and preparing for childbirth but instead I am sitting here with no baby belly and feeling alone.

What is wrong with me?????
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May 9th, 2008, 08:26 AM
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I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. With me I notice that talking to my dh helped me sort my feelings about TTC, he was supportive about how I felft about trying again, talk to him. Honestly I don't think there is anything wrong with you, just been through a horrible trauma, it's normal that you feel empty even if you already have kids, you don't have the baby that you lost. Give yourself some time, don't beat yourself up about it.
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May 9th, 2008, 08:41 AM
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I also agree that it is normal to kinda freak out and go back and forth. I dont think anything is wrong with you. I know that my DH doesnt exactly feel like right now is the best timing for us to get pg so i try not to talk to him about it, and i was doing thesame thing about not being sure. I finally sat down and thought only about if i really want anothe baby ever. I didnt sit and think about money, or anything like that, and i realized i do want at least one more. i hope that you can find the answer that best fits your life hun If you need anything you know where to find us
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May 9th, 2008, 09:53 AM
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Katie! I'm so glad you are here! Even if you don't ttc again, you have to come visit us. I've tried to tell myself several times that I was gonna stop ttc. I have Haley and I love her with everything that's in me. But.....I still want another. I hope you can come to a decision you'll be happy with. If you need anything, you know where to find me.
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May 9th, 2008, 10:01 AM
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Thanks Ladies!!!

I am so wishy washy about it lately and it driving me nuts!!!

Like most of you ladies I am terrified of miscarrying again.

Dave is really frustrated with me going back and forth so I really don't even want to broach the subject with him.
I think I am just going to wait and see what happens this month. I know him and he would not be upset with me either way.
If it is in the works for us to have a 3rd it will happen.

I love you ladies so much and am so glad to have you in my life. Too bad its not in IRL as well.

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May 9th, 2008, 12:24 PM
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Katie

Every month when AF shows, I start to think that I should just be happy with the wonderful son that I already have. But then I realize that I just would not feel complete if I never had another child.

I hope you figure out what's best. Remember, we are here for you and all know exactly how scary TTCAL can be!
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