[mamamudd]

I have been having a great month despite getting a BFN and being surounded with pg people...and now some one had to go and burst my little bubble. This morning my DH's grandmother sent me an e-mail. It was letting me know all about his cousins m/c (I didnt know she was pg) it was very long and drawn out and it even had pictures! Now, I guess she thought she could share this with me because prior to this I was the only person in their family who couldnt manage to stay pg, but why did she feel the need to send photos? And not to mention why was someone taking photos? - sorry I just needed to vent.

[Pitridge]

I'm sorry that she burst your bubble, I hate when people do that. It sounds weird that she would send pics, what kind of pic did she send? I think that since you gone through it once, people think that you can relate and be of comfort to them, but the pic? That I don't get.
Just sending you lots of

[madmum_sarah]

i agree it was probably to make you aware you werent the only one now and maybe get you to help comfort her but the pics do seem a bit off. i dont get why people would do that
xx

[Eleysia]

Wow, Melissa im sorry. I agree good try, but totally the wrong way to go about it. I am sure that she meante well sorry that some people out there are just a little dense.

[Brittanie]

Pictures??? I can see possibly why the pictures were taken, but I don't think that pictures like that need to be passed around. Especially to someone who has been through it and can be triggered by it.


I'm sorry honey.

[kellyanne]

Pics??? WTH?

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I agree with the other ladies. Why send pics? That is just wrong, IMO. I'm sorry you had to endure this.

[Danica]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. She probably just thought that you would like to see and wanted to share. I don't think it was intended to be hurtful, at least I hope not.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with pictures. I just lost my 4th baby on Friday and I was so happy I got to take pictures this time. It's not something that I feel I have to hide but I would never pass around a digital copy because those are for me and my husband. I'll show people if they ask but I won't force them on people. HUGS

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I didn't mean anything is wrong with the pics. I just think that's something for the parents to share not to pass around. KWIM?

I'm so sorry! People just don't understand.

My mother in law had a miscarriage after my husband was born and she said to me all the things you don't want to hear after that has happened to you and you think she would have been the most sensitive!

[mamamudd]

*WARNING GRAPHIC*

The pics were of the baby (aprox 6w 4d) on a towel in their bathroom. Sorry if it seems wrong but its not something I can handle right now.I feel so bad for her.

thanks for all your kind words

Yeah, that just doesn't seem right. I definitely didn't take pictures... did anybody else??? I certianly wouldn't show them to anybody if I had.

[Nicole1022]

OMG! I'm sorry you had to see that.

I would never want a picture and certainly wouldn't take one.

[Danica]

I wasn't going to say anything because I know I am sensitive right now but I feel like I have to because I know I am not the only one here that took pictures of their baby/babies and don't want other girls to feel ashamed by this. There is nothing wrong with taking photos. It's something physical to hang on to as a reminder. Why are we allowed to mourn our loss but not take any pictures? My children are no less my children than ones that walk the earth.

I totally agree that we shouldn't be tossing around photos because some are especially sensitive of the subject and that we should respect others but if a close friend or family member asks to see the photos I will show them because I am not ashamed. In fact, my friend who also just went through a m/c at 9w6d asked to see Gabriel's photos and I happily showed her yesterday.

Please know that I am not upset but felt a need to share my point of view. I know it is sort of going off topic from the original post though and I am sorry that I had to go here. I mean no disrespect.

Nothing wrong with it, just didn't do it personally. I wondered if anybody else had. I was only 5 weeks so nothing to photograph. I did keep my ultrasound though.. just a tiny little sac. I smile when I see it!

One day I wan to volunteer with Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep. They do photography for those who lose a baby later in the pregnancy.

May I ask a graphic question? TMI TMI TMI



What is there to photograph when you are a little further along? Can you tell there is something there? For me there was only a sac.

[Danica]

Yes, there was a complete baby. He was perfectly formed, just like you see on the online sites that show you how big your baby is at 9weeks. I could see his eyes, mouth, and ears and all his little fingers and toes.

Then I can totally understand taking a picture. Thanks for sharing.

[mamamudd]

I hope I did not upset or offend anyone. I should have chosen my words a little better. I dont think there is anything wrong with taking pictures. My problem was the fact that they were sent to me and I didnt ask for them.

Your family should have thought about it before sending those to you. I think I would go balistic if somebody did that to me. I don't think there was anything wrong in what you said. You are hurting and are having somebody elses hurts thrown upon you when you didn't ask isn't fair!