Am I being crazy?

Wee3monkeys · #1 May 22nd, 2008, 08:00 AM

I'm terrified to tell anyone I'm pg again, and I'm afraid to go join any other boards. I just don't want to go through having to tell everyone, if I have another loss. I played w/ my signature, and put in all the stuff I've been collecting, but I'm afraid to actually talk about it w/ anyone. Am I being neurotic?

mom 2 haley & tyler · #2 May 22nd, 2008, 08:04 AM

Of course not. We would all be the same way, I'm sure. Actually I know mancil06 and Eleysia waited a bit to join a ddc. Go check out PAL board. I hear they are great. I know both Eleysia, mancil06, Angela, and a few others are over there. You are more than welcome to stay here, too. I would miss you if you left us...I hope you'll start feeling more comfortable soon. You and your bean will be in my t&p.

*Bobbie* · #3 May 22nd, 2008, 08:04 AM

Nope.... you are normal!

Try joining PAL (Pregnancy after Loss) 99% of that board are TTCAL girls

I am not sure I will ever join a DDC again. I may but won't be as active as I have been in the past. I love it at PAL though.

Oh and you better stay here too... don't go posting over there and forget about US

Don't feel like you have to leave because you got a BFP we loved you before the BFP and we love you after...pregnancy is not a disease

Love ya girl!

ChattyAshley · #4 May 22nd, 2008, 08:06 AM

Absolutely not. You are being totally normal.
I've jumped all over boards on here, even joined the JanDDC board, but that's because JM is the only place where people know I'm preggo!! I suck at keeping my own secrets, but since the m/c we decided we wouldn't tell anyone (besides JM girls!! HAHA!) until after 12 weeks. So JM is my outlet.
But I understand the feeling of that constant nagging worry that something might go wrong. I'm just trying to take one day and a time and think positive thoughts.

I'm right here with ya, girl!! We're in this thing together!!!

Eleysia · #5 May 22nd, 2008, 08:17 AM

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Dont be worried hun, it is totally normal how youre feeling. I just passed D-Day yesterday so i feel a tiny bit better, but i joined the PAL board first and they are great. Not nearly as active as TTCAL but it is nice to be able to post there.

I voiced this same stuff in PAL and everyone told me, youre not going to jinks your baby by joining a DDC, which i absolutly agree with, but you have to do it when youre ready. Just know we will save you a spot in the Jan DDC room for when ever you feel comfortable. until then.... post like crazy in TTCAL. I love these girls, and this is my home!!!

mom 2 haley & tyler · #6 May 22nd, 2008, 08:21 AM

I would be so sad if any of my TTCAL pg girls left! I love you all. We've all been through so much together. I want to continue on your journey and see all those beautiful bellys and babies when they come!

Alison81 · #7 May 22nd, 2008, 08:26 AM

Not at all.

jennntj13 · #8 May 22nd, 2008, 08:27 AM

I don't think so, not at all. With this past m/c (My #2), I didn't tell many people at all. Of course you ladies on here and then just my 3 bff's and dh. I didn't even tell my mom, so I don't think you are crazy at all.

It is scary getting pg after a loss and this fear is totally normal, I think. Big

and Congrats!

Wee3monkeys · #9 May 22nd, 2008, 08:49 AM

Thank you ladies!! Lots of

!!! You make me feel so much better! I know it's pretty normal to be nervous after m/c, but...... Oh, but nothing, we pretty much all feel the same, huh.

you guys, because you understand.

I told my closest girl friends, the ones that know me well enough to know when af is due. They call me to ask, "are you late yet, when are you testing?" So the 4 of them, and then SO's best friend, and you ladies. I'm not telling anyone else for quite awhile, I think. (or as long as I can stand to keep the secret)

I want to join the other boards and I will some time (I had already joined the high-risk board some time ago), I'm just afraid to be too optimistic, get excited, and then get crushed again. So mainly I lurk.

I won't leave you ladies though! I adore you all, and can't wait to see your BFPs!!

Madison.N.Hailey'sMom · #10 May 22nd, 2008, 11:23 AM

I totaly know how you feel. I was the same way in the beginning. Its hard to be 100% excited when you've been throught what we all have here. It took me awhile to start posting at the Nov. DDC and even now I post here and there. We tryed not telling anyone till I was past 12 weeks but everyone knew we were trying and so they would always ask DH, did you knock her up yet

I just try to take it one day at a time. Big Hugs to you girl.

Wee3monkeys · #11 May 22nd, 2008, 11:37 AM

Thanks Angela! One place I can go join, and not talk about it is the Midwest Mommy board.

I live in the midwest, and I already have a child, therefore whether I mention my new condition, I'm still a Midwest Mommy.

I saw you had joined there too, I just haven't been able to get myself to do it yet.

Bakin8th · #12 May 22nd, 2008, 04:45 PM

I feel the very same way I joined a DDC and lost my baby at 17 weeks. Then got pg and waited till at least 12w and sure enough lost baby again at 17w. I dont think I will Join a DDC if I am blessed to be again but that PAL sounds great!

Now as for siggies and stuff I acually want to do those. I know it sounds weird but even if I lose another baby I want to *have* the joy of useing them for s short while. As odd as it sounds you know.