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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: ENGLAND
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hi guys,
just thought i would introduce myself as i am new to this section of the site.
my name is Toni i am 22 my dh is Lee. we were ttc for 1 year before i got that all important BFP! i was exstatic! however my employer wasnt and 2 days after i informed them i was pg they made me redundant. due to the loss of job me and dh could no longer afford the house we were renting and so moved in with DH's parents. we tried to make it best we could like home but it didnt feel right. this all happened mid june 2007.....august i went for an early scan as i had started to lightly bleed. it was devastating to hear that i had infact misscarried. i went for a D&C and tried to get on with rebuilding my life. shortly after i recieved a letter from the hospital telling me i had suffered from a complete molar pregnancy and infact the baby we were mourning for never really exsisted. we were devastated and another blow to us weakend our relationship. we split up and i moved in with my mum in the december. luckily this story has a happy(ish) ending...............me and lee decided we couldnt live without eachother and got back together we started to rent a house again which is much bigger and nicer than the first one. i took my ex employer to court and won the case for unfair dismissal/sexual discrimination and personal injury. They settled out of court and the money should hit my account within the next 2 weeks - this will help clear all our debts and see us stable for a long while and we are also now ttc again.............fingers crossed, things come in threes and the house and win make up the first too so lets see.............................
anyway, just thought i would share my story with everyone and let you all know why i am here!
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formerly mommy2haley17
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: TX
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I'm so sorry for all you've had to endure. I'm glad you found your way to us. Please jump right in. These women are wonderful. I hope you won't have to wait too long for a BFP. I'm glad you and dh worked things out and you won your lawsuit. That's crappy what your boss did do you. I look forward to getting to know you. 
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Sunny California
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Hi Toni, I'm sorry for your lost, but 
Good for you to take your ex-employer to court and congrats on winning the case. All the ladies here are wonderful and extremelly supportive. Yeah, thing come is 3s so I hope this is it for you 
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Bremerton, Wa
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Im so sorry to hear about your loss, and all of the things that happened. Cogradulations on working through the turmoil with Lee, and also on the court case. I really hope you find this place as big of a comfort as it was and still is for me. Hope you get your healthy BFP very soon hun, and welcome to the family.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Illinois ( originally From New Jersey:)
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I am so sorry for your loss & for everything that you had to go through.
I Know when i was ready to TTC and found my way here...it helped me so much. Everyone understood the pain, the fears & the frustration at times.
I hope you settle right in and get your BFP Fast !!!!
best of luck to you !!!!
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Indpls
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Toni, I am sorry for you loss and wanted to welcome you to the board.
Please feel free to jump on in and post away.
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formally sarah_the_sane_1
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Join Date: Dec 2007
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im so sorry for your loss and for everything you had to go through.
absence really does make the heart grow fonder and makes you realise what you have.
im so pleased things are now getting better for you and i pray you get your sticky bfp really soon to make your lucky 3
xx
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: Nebraska
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Hi Toni! Welcome to the TTCAL board! I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, and all of the other things you've been through recently! Good luck to you, and I hope your 3rd is your BFP!!
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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What a wonderful story, the outcome anyways. Thanks for sharing it with us. I'm so glad you worked things out with Lee and you took your employer to court, and WON!
I truly hope your stay here is short, that you move on with a sticky BFP. The ladies are here and I'm sure you will enjoy your stay. Just jump right in!
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2006
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((hugs)) I am so very sorry for your loss. What a blessing in the end with your ex boss tahst great! Good luck I hope you get a BFP soon!
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Join Date: Mar 2007
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hi all thanks for your replies. sorry i havent been on this week had a terrible week!
thursday got the BFP i was praying for - saturday i started bleeding slightly and then sunday i was bleeding a lot. the hospital wont fit me in for an 'emergency' scan until wednesday! i just know i have MC again!
my other major concern is that after my molar PG the hospital have monitored my HCG levels to make sure that the potentially cancerous mole doesnt return, the fact that my HCG level was high enough to pick up on a test could mean this isnt a MC at all but its the return of the mole  and the annoying thing is i wont know until wednesday! im so mad! looks like my luck has run out ladies 
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formally sarah_the_sane_1
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oh no toni im so sorry hun!
i know nothing about molar so i cant really adice on that but how can they possibly make you wait til wednesday? an emergency is just that ffs! i would call them back and tell them you have pain now too and see if they can get you in sooner. they cant leave you like that!
please keep us posted
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope the can figure out what is going on and the mole isn't back. Please KUP
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Connecticut
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Thanks for sharing your story... I am very sorry for your loss... I look forward to getting to know you better!
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Dec 2005
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Oh wow, what a rollercoaster you have been on! I'm glad you have found your way here and I hope you will keep us posted so that we can provide support during this crazy time. Keeping my fingers crossed that the mole has not returned.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Washington
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I'm sorry for your loss, I also lost my little bean to a (partial) molar pregnancy. G/L and keep us posted on your current pg, i really hope the mole hasn't returned!
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Join Date: Mar 2007
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spoke to the hospital who have said it is too early to see on a scan if the mole has returned so they have advised that i take a PG test when i have stopped bleeding and if it is still postive then i will be taken straight in for a scan and possibly another D&C. so its still the waiting game for me to see what has actually happened. if it was defo a PG then i have lost the baby but, if it is the mole then it cant be back too strong as my AF has still arrived sooooooooo we'll just wait and see!
hopefully a healthy happy pregnancy will come for us soon i feel like i have let Lee down and feel like a total failure
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Apr 2006
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Toni welcome and l'm sorry for your loss and also what you have
been going through,l'm glad in the end that you's work it out and
l wish you all the best in getting a bfp really soon.
aww sweetie you haven't let Lee down and you are not a failure
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: ~*West Coast of BC Canada*~
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Hey girl, Im so sorry for the emotional rollercoaster you have been going thru I hope you can get it all resolved fast! xoxoxox
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