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just me
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Littleton, CO
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I mentioned maybe TTC when he gets back this fall, and he said, "I don't know, the timing doesn't seem right. It just seems like more stress than we ((meaning him)) can handle."
GRRRRRR!!! He also mentioned the possibility of me getting a job in the fall (like it was FACT even though I told him it was LAST RESORT. I DON'T want to have to find someone to take care of Erin), and I wouldn't be able to work if I got pregnant (due to the fact that I get so sick). Although, honestly, I worked through BOTH of my first trimesters so far, and I can do it again if I have to.
I don't want to wait much longer than that! Getting pregnant this fall would put the babies practically exactly 2 years apart. I DON'T want much bigger of a distance between them.
*sigh*
I almost cried on the phone, and I'm almost there again.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
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I hope he sees just how important this is to you and decides to go for it 
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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Im sorry hun. I agree with Bobbie, im hoping that he comes around. Thats sucky. Not that im defending the working thing but every pg is different so there is a chance you wont be sick this time.
I really really hope he comes around.
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formally sarah_the_sane_1
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Join Date: Dec 2007
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sweetheart
it must be so hard for you. i really hope he comes round to the idea again soon and that you concieve quickly.
i have 2 yrs between each of my boys and its a great gap but then there is 6yrs between youngest boy and my princess and its fab too but much more tiring. i think you get out of the habit. i wanted no more than 3 yrs between sadie and her "sister" but it wasnt to be unfortunatly.
your baby will be well worth the wait no matter how long darling 
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Nov 2007
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I'm sorry....I hope he comes around
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formerly mommy2haley17
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: TX
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I'm sorry Brittanie! I hope he'll change his mind.
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Aug 2006
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I am sorry. I hope your dh comes around maby he is just haveing a off day.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Canada
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I'm sorry I really hope DH changes his mind. I find that woman tend to focus on the goal, baby, pregnancy etc... where as that goal can really get smudgy for men when they either have a bad day, have something go wrong on the car (thus paying for work to be done) or something like that. Seems as though they can't really look at the whole picture.... Welllll some men, all men are different I guess haha.
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Feb 2008
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I hope he comes around and changes his mind. Hugs!
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Mega Super Mommy
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Join Date: Jan 2007
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I hope you guys can talk again and come up with the best time for BOTH of you, not just what works best for him!!
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2007
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I hope you two can talk it over again
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I sure hope he takes some time to reconsider. By the time the two of you talk about it again, maybe you'll be able to work out something that's best for both of you.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Sep 2006
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I'm sorry Brittanie. That would upset me too. I think men just look at everything from such a practical point of view, and he is probably worried about what another baby would mean financially. I know my Dh always worries about that stuff more than I do.
Maybe you can let it sit for now and next time you bring it up, I would mention that about the 2 year age difference. I'd tell him that it might be a little tough right now to have a new baby BUT in the long run it would be (in your eyes) so much better for your family to have a sibling close enough in age to Erin that they can be playmates.
I hope he has a change of heart about TTC.
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just me
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Join Date: Jul 2006
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Maybe you can let it sit for now and next time you bring it up, I would mention that about the 2 year age difference. I'd tell him that it might be a little tough right now to have a new baby BUT in the long run it would be (in your eyes) so much better for your family to have a sibling close enough in age to Erin that they can be playmates.[/b]
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Thank you for the practical way of putting it Shannon. I tend to get really emotional about this subject and then all he hears is emotion. I need to have practical points to present to him. I'll probably just let it sit until closer to September.
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: South Carolina
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Sorry about the discouraging conversation, but I really hope things work out and you get that fall BFP!
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Platinum Supermommy
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Join Date: Aug 2007
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I'm sorry that your DH feels that way. Was he stressed or tired? Maybe that had something to do with what he said. I hope he didn't mean it. Good luck and I hope you two will TTC soon!
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Mega Super Mommy
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doesn't it suck when they don't want exactly the same thing we do? =( maybe he'll come around in the next few months. mine decided no on a 2nd baby last yr, and it took a few months for him to change his mind.
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Really discouraging convo w/DH last night.
