[Mum2three]

Im just wondering, cause i have a 7 1/2 year old and he wants to know where babies come from. and what sex is about!!

i dont want to talk to him about it, i would prefer Dwayne have the talk with the boys..

When it came time for you as mothers and father to have the sex talk, how did you approach them about it?

How did you explain it to them?

I just dont want o scare them from it.

Can anyone give me some tips???


Please and thanks!!!

[jennntj13]

I don't have older children, but I do have a 12 yo goddaughter... and she had her 1st bf who asked her to have sex (OMG!!! AT 12!) and asked for advice.

The way I approached it was just being honest and explained that when 2 people are older and love eachother, they show it by making love to e/o. Sometimes when the timing is right, a baby is made from their love.

And I would definitely have dh do "the talk", so maybe he isn't as uncomfortable...

I also found this link that I thought was pretty informative:

How to talk to your child about sex

[Frozendesire]

12 years old, woh. I think you handled it well though.

good luck with the talk Brandy! We only have Curtis so we aren't there yet.

[princesskate]

my son is 7 and he recently asked how babies are made.

I told him that ladies have eggs, and men have little tadpoles called sperm and when the tadpole and the egg join together they make a baby, and then it grows in the mums tummy. He then asked how the tadpoles got into the lady so i just told him that they have a special cuddle and thats how they get in x

[Mum2three]

Thanks girls. i just didnt know how to address the whole subject. and i would rather Dwayne tell them about the birds and bees. cause hes a man and knows what to say. rather then me laughing or turning red.
But i kinda wanted to have my say in it as well, kinda tell Dwayne how to say it as a child would understand it. not how grown men talk (locker room talk)

I really liked that website i emailed Dwayne and told him to read it, so he knows what to say!!

And WOW!! 12 years old!!! Where did that come from, i think i would of kicked that kids butt like no tomorrow. its strange these kids now. they know more about sex then i do..LOL...

Thanks again girls...

And if anyone else has anything to add, please do. all the advise i can get would be greatly appericated.

[jennntj13]

Glad that I could help! Hopefully it makes it a little easier for you!

Yeah... 12. I couldn't believe it. The kid asked her if they went to the movies together if they could have sex. Of course, she didn't go and said no anyway, so he broke up with her. He was a jerk... but I couldn't believe it. Kids are moving much faster than I did at 12, that's for sure.

[Mum2three]

Yeah i would be been a bit mad!

but its better that they broke up, cause she would of kicked her self in the butt if she dtd with him. To be honest i knew about sex, but wasnt interested it in till i was 18...i think the parents now a days just dont care. they force it on to these kids. my parents told me when i started asking questions and that was when i was 11 years old.

I feel bad that someone else mentioned it to my son, and now hes hearing different things. i just hope that what his dad has to say he will listen to it more, then what the kids at school are saying.

Sometimes being a parents really sucks...you always put their best interest first and you still get screwed..LOL

[Pound]

omg 12? and he asked her to go to the movies and sex??? lol like hey wanna see indiana jones? on and btw, how about we do it?
***.

i would def kick that boy's butt if i was the mom.

i have no advice since my son is 5, but i told the hubby he is having the talk w/ him. my parents never had the talk w/ me, and i found out from friend. when i was 8. she had an older sis

[Alison81]

My oldest step-son is 11, almost 12, and he is JUST starting to ask questions, thank GOD. I knew when I was like 5, because I grew up on a farm, and I definitely knew how babies were made. But my step-son didn't understand that you need a boy and a girl to make a baby until around a year ago. Luckily he's not weirded out by "the talk", and just curious, and we answer his questions. Once he becomes more interested in girls, we'll talk with him more. My DD is starting to ask the questions like, how do babies get out of the mommy's tummy, and I told her they come out of the the hole between mommy's legs called a vagina...and she told me she has a vagina, and she wants to see a baby come out of it, LOL. I didn't know what to say to that!! I just use simple terms, and only answer the questions she asks. I definitely agree with just being open and honest.

[MountainMomma]

My daughter is 10 and my son is 7. I didn't tell either of them about it. I told my daughter (at 3) that when a mommy and daddy love each other very much God sends them a baby. ON her own she decided that the doctor was going to get the baby out of my belly through my belly button. I didn't bother correcting her! At 6 she was watching A Baby Story with me and gets this horrified look on her face. Then she whirled around and said "Does that mean that I came out of YOUR BUTT?!?! I explained to her that it wasn't exactly a butt. lol Then I explained a little about the difference between boys and girls. She quickly told me she was NEVER having babies.

My son shocked me the other day. He said he wanted a baby brother or sister. I told him I was trying to give him one and he just kinda laughed and said "You need to have more sex Mom. You don't get babies from watching TV or being on the computer!" My mouth just dropped and DH nearly spit soda all over the living room. I kinda laughed after a minute and asked if he knew what sex is. And let me tell you.....HE DOES! I don't know where he learned it, but he knows!

[Bakin8th]

We tell our kids the truth.
We leave out some details of course but we tell the truth on how conception works ..They have seen there birth videos I cant get out that *truth* lol We have had some of the present at my births since 6 and 7 yrs old..cant get out that one either

[~DaemonMykailasMum~]

My 10 yr old niece associates makin out (KIssin, cuddling, etc) with sex.. She doesnt know the exact details tho.. I have no Idea what I would say lol.. I do know my DAD hahahaha Used to tell me
"Me and your mum went to this big huge cabbage patch field and got to pick out our babies.. We picked you!" LOL And then when we came up with "Dad, I know thats not where babies come from (Once we seen pregnant women, etc) so where do they come from, how do they get out of the mummy?" lol and he said "Their bellybuttons" hahahah .. Eventually i found out as my sisters were 5 and 7 yrs older than me.. So when I was 10 my oldest sister, 17, was pregnant with my neice.. and my other sister was 15... I pretty much found out how it all worked then plus we learned in school to, grade 6 I believe, so I was 11 when the school taught us.. I already hada pretty good Idea by then tho..

Oh and the 12 yr old thing.. I actually hada friend who lost her virginity at 12 with a 16 yr old!!

I didnt lose mine till I was 16.. I thought that was even young! But all my friends were losing theres between 12 and 14!!!! Like ***~! Sorry to get off topic.. but I would LOSE IT!

[~DaemonMykailasMum~]

LOL at StephieChelle!!!! My niece said something like that too!!! "So babies come out of your Butt?!" her mum was like.. "Ummmm kinda.. lol the other part tho" then she goes "EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW grose!" lol

[madmum_sarah]

i have 4 "older boys" and my little girl whos 3.
sadie is great, she still thinks babies get bought to us by a "bird" or you buy them in a shop (well thats where we buy hers and they cry)
the boys is a different matter! my youngest louie is 9 and he has no interest AT ALL of knowing about that kind of thing. girls still smell in his eyes!
kyle has just done sex education at school. i was really unhappy about it as he is only 11. seems they are teaching it younger and younger these days. he knows all about it now but thankfully doesnt talk about it too much as his dad isnt about much and "im a girl"
my eldest 2 ian and ewan (15 and 13) live with their dad but i still got to have "the talk" with them. to say it was interesting was an understatment. ewan was 9 and ian was 8 when they started asking questions.
i gave them as much info as i could without going into too much detail. they are smart now and the positive side to everything we have been through in life (me being left a single mum) means they are more sensitie to the whole subject. they have both got themselves a girlfriend this year and im happy they waited this long, it shows that they are not like others their age here and only intersested in 1 thing!