[Mommy2Makenna]

Last weekend we went away for a long weekend and met DH's family at a timeshare. It was my FIL's birthday AND it was my EDD. I know his family knew the EDD because everyone was making comments about how the EDD was the same as my FIL's birthday. Throughout the entire weekend, not one family member said anythng to me. I'm sure that everyone avoids the subject becasue they think I would break down crying (which I might), but am I expecting too much to have thought somebody would have at least said something or given me a hug or SOMETHING. The same thing happened for Mothers' day. I had one old friend of mine from HS who I keep up with on myspace send me a very nice message. Of course, the message made me cry, but it was so nice that someone else recognized that it was a tough day for me and offered some encouragement. I never told any of DH's family that I was disappointed that no one ever said anything to me. I'm not the kind of person who tells other "take pity on me". I know I would have been equally annoyed if everyone had made a BIG deal about it, but I was just disappointed. Somemtimes it makes me feel like I'm going through all of this all alone. (Well, actually with all of you girls!)

What do you girls think? Am I overreacting?

[MrsPoe]

Your not overreacting at all. I know I felt the same way when people would avoid talking about my baby. I know that they don't like to say anything because they don't want to see us cry or get upset, but on the otherhand it would be nice to know that they remember. People just don't know what to do or say. I find this all of the time.

Just yesterday at a graduation party my FIL told some family that "this" will be his first grandchild. I was heartbroken that he didn't even acknowledge our little Abigail. I told dh about it, although he already knew what I was going to say. It upset me that he didn't say this is his second, but I know the thoughts going through his mind, that this will be his first living grandchild. Just seems like we always have to overlook what others say or do, but really ignorance is no excuse.

Like you said, I am sure they remember but they just don't know what to say or do. Sorry you had to go through that on your babys EDD. Its a hard day no matter what. Big hugs!!

You aren't overreacting. They should have acknowledged it, at least in private. I'm sure they didn't mean to hurt you but I'm sorry it worked out that way.

Take care of yourself and GREAT job making it through the weekend at all!!!

[jademyst13]

You aren't over-reacting

[~DaemonMykailasMum~]

Your not overreacting at all..

[madmum_sarah]

i dont think you are over reacting at all! they are supposed to be your family and i certainly would have expected something too (not that i have to as our families dont know to this day i had a m/c)
have you spoken to dh about it? i think i would have been very disappointed if i was in your shoes hun but believe me when i say, you are not alone, we are all here for you anytime you need us
xx

[Mommy2Makenna]

Thanks for the reassurance ladies (as always!). I did mention to DH before we left that it was going to be a tough weekend, but I didn't say anything to him after the weekend. Maybe I can ask him if any of his family said something to him and bring it up that way.

[jennntj13]

I don't think you were overreacting, but they might have been trying to make you comfortable and not upset. Many times people don't know what to say when things like this happen, so they just say nothing.

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[ShannonMVT]

I'm sorry hon. I know it bothered me when no one remembered my EDD.

I too think that people just say nothing because they are afraid of upsetting you or saying the wrong thing.

((hugs))