[Pitridge]

Hope I don't offend anyone by asking this, For how many of you was this for first pg? I know that for many this was not the first pg, some of you have more kids and others just one more. I'm curious about how many of you ladies are in the same boat as me.

[madmum_sarah]

my mc was our first together but not my first child.
xx

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

This would've been my 2nd

[jennntj13]

I had one pg w/ no complications (Born 5/5/05) and then 2 m/c's this year.

[Pitridge]

Ok here is my reason for the question. Mine was my first pg and m/c, and I play the whole 8 weeks in mind trying to figure out the things that I shouldn’t off done, so that it does not happen again. Now I know how common m/c and also how common it is to m/c during your first pg (I can’t tell you how many times, my Ob and the nurses at the hospital told me this when I when for a d&c). It does not matter how many times you go through a m/c one, ten, it’s heartbreaking, it’s…..well I don’t think I need to tell you ladies about it we all now.

My dh seem to think that this is it, we are getting pg this month, me, I’m not so sure. In some way I’m a bit scare of getting pg and miscarrying again. It’s weird that I would say that this is the second time I’m pg, when I hardly felt the first one. I see how many of you have kids and got pg and lost the baby and now are pg again (which by the I’m very excited about ), and I keep wondering if it will ever happen…Sorry I’m a bit down today, but thanks for listening.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Pat what you're feeling is understandable. I'm sure that when you get pg again, and you will, that everything will be fine. I hope this will be your month!!! If you need to talk, feel free to pm me.

[Pitridge]

Thanks Michelle

[MarykatSC]

I had 2 miscarriages, then had DS, and now I have had another miscarriage since. I know how tough it is to have a miscarriage and not know if you will be able to have a baby. It's tough and it's okay to get down in the dumps sometimes, totally understandable.

[Frozendesire]

I had one m/c before Curtis, and then one after.

I hear that too, that a first m/c is common, but it sure doesn't make things easier!

[HavensMomma]

I had a m/c before Haven and one after. I have also heard that first m/c are common.

You'll get your sticky BFP soon!

[Eleysia]

Pat big im sorry youre down today I think that for DH it is easier for him to seem more upbeat and optomistic about it than you. Only because of the fact that even though you both went through the loss together, youre the one who was carrying the baby. I cried so long about the fact that i thought my body was stupid and not capable of carrying another child, and chad felt so bad.. all he could do is try to reassure me. I just felt like if something had been done different or my body didnt suck that it wouldnt have happened. I didnt only fail at having another baby, but i failed at holding on to his baby. Im not sure if any of that makes sense, i just wanted you to know it does suck, and im sure that youll get your healthy baby very soon.

My sister had a m/c first time, they wern't trying, but she got pg. (i know you already know this, but its another person who had to go through it the same way as you did )

[kellyanne]

I had an uncomplicated "blissfully ignorant" pregnancy w/ dd and have since had 2 m/c. I feel lucky that I got to enjoy pregnancy the first time around, but I won't be able to do that again....I'll be paranoid. The m/c club is a crappy club to be part of no matter when it happens, but I feel especially bad for those that have a m/c with their first because you don't get to be "blissfully ignorant". I hope you feel better and please know that it'll be worth the pain when you finally hold your little one. I'll happen, hopefully soon!!

[Pitridge]

Thanks Ladies! I knew I could count on you for support, really thank you for listening, you girl are the best
Eleysia you almost made me cry , my heart goes to your sister, I hope she's doing good.

[Eleysia]

Awe Pat i wasnt trying to make you cry.. lol i alsmot cried when you said that. Sheesh so many tears big

Thank you, she is doing a bit better, i think she is just trying to forget it happened

[Pitridge]

I understand that feeling all too well. There are days where I think it was all a dream, I was never pg, and did not have a m/c, but the reality kicks when my mom calls me to ask "anything you want to tell me today?" To be honest, I would like to forget, but part of me does not want to forget what I went through, I guess it makes you stronger, right?

[Eleysia]

Exactly! I agree whole heartedly that itll make you stronger. It also adds a little paranoia, but hey, its all worth it when youre finally holding your beautiful healthy baby

[dojodiva]

((HUGS)) I know how you feel. My experience is different in that we had to turn to infertility treatments and my very first insemination I had a chemical pg (early miscarriage). It gave me hope because I thought at least I could get pg, but it never happened again. After three long years of trying I finally became a mother thanks to adoption. I'm not exagerating when I say that all the pain of trying was forgotten when I first held my son. When I later did have a surprise pg, as much as I was worried I also tried to enjoy it as much as possible, because I didn't know if I'd ever get the chance again. I bought cute maternity clothes, took belly pics, and enjoyed it all, even the not so fun parts. As much as you'll worry during your next pg, you'll also appreciate every little thing...every bit of sickness because it reminds you that you're still pg, the itchy belly, etc...because you'll know how lucky you are to be pg. Some women go through their entire pregnancies complaining, but you'll appreciate it so much more because you'll understand what a gift it is.

My recent m/c came after two years of TTC. I won't lie...it was a painful experience and still hurts. But I try to remember how happy I felt to be pg, how hopeful I was for the future, and pray that I can get another chance. It is so very hard right now though, and it's hard not to be nervous, especially when you're waiting for the chance to finally become a mother. Hang in there...it will get better soon. ((HUGS))

[KDD]

This was my first PG too.

[Bakin8th]

Pat.

[Pitridge]

Kimberley, I'm sorry that you are in the same boat as me, but in some way I'm glad that there is someone else.

Thanks all you girls for all of your kind words and support, it means so much to me