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June 10th, 2008, 05:49 PM
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Super Mommy
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As I posted before I found out I was pregnant on May 26. We were NOT trying, so it was a huge surprise but immediately we fell in love with the idea of a 3rd child. Even my kids were excited. Then June 3 I went to the Dr. to find out I was having a miscarriage. I thought I would totally lose my mind and still feel that way a little.
I have really been thinking about why this happened. I have had 2 healthy children Both pregnancies were great. Why now? I realized today that I cut grass 3 days before I found out I was pregnant. I moved our picnic table all by myself. I picked up a cement block that was by the gate. I pushed my husband's 4 wheeler instead of going in to get the key. Could all this have caused a miscarriage to happen 12 days later?
Thanks so much,
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Nette MacNeir
Proud Wife to Kevin~November 29, 2003(met October 24, 1998)
Proud Mommy of Kaisee Amber~March 3, 1998
Proud Mommy of Kameron Wesley~February 28, 2001
Proud Mommy of Kaiden Austin ~ August 3, 2009 (born 9 wks 3 day premature)
Proud Mommy to Our Angel in Heaven~June 3, 2008
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June 10th, 2008, 05:57 PM
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1 of Each is such a Treat
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No, I dont think so at all!! The baby was so lil, and so tucked in there and well protected... I know this might not help much, But I was moving dressers and such when I was 8 mths pregnant.. You jus need to be careful once your showing... But before you are showing, It is so well protected in there... I dont think that caused your m/c girl... (I thought mine was from Daemon kickin me when I changed his bum... My doc jus looked at me and said, there was no way... Maybe if I was 20-30 weeks and got booted... but no)
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June 10th, 2008, 06:16 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I don't think so. Nature is pretty smart, as way back when, I am sure most women couldn't be 100% sure they were pregnant until they started showing, or they missed enough AF's. So your body keeps the baby WELL protected until you can tell. I'm so sorry for your loss. *HUG*
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June 10th, 2008, 06:40 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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Nope!
I know it's easy to try and take the blame on our own shoulders...but seriously.... there is nothing you did to cause this. It is part of the healing *process* though.... if there is such a thing. We have all had the same questions in our minds. I will tell you what so many have told me before...
This is not your fault 
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June 10th, 2008, 07:27 PM
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Mega Super Mommy
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I agree with the other ladies. It is definitely not your fault!
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June 10th, 2008, 07:35 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I agree completely with the other ladies!!! It was most definitely NOT your fault!!!!
Please don't blame yourself!!!!
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June 11th, 2008, 05:53 AM
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formerly mommy2haley17
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I agree with the other ladies as well. It's NOT your fault.
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June 11th, 2008, 06:08 AM
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formally sarah_the_sane_1
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im sorry for your loss but it was not your fault! life is just cruel sometimes
xx
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June 11th, 2008, 07:30 AM
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Super Mommy
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Thanks, I just really need a reason WHY... as I am sure you all understand. We did not planned this pregnancy but now I miss it soooooo much. I want to try again but my husband says he can not see me go through this again. And he can not feel so helpless again. I do understand him, he is very tender hearted especially when it comes to me or our children being sick or hurt.
I just thought if these actions caused it, then he would be more likely to say okay we can try again.
thanks so much
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Nette MacNeir
Proud Wife to Kevin~November 29, 2003(met October 24, 1998)
Proud Mommy of Kaisee Amber~March 3, 1998
Proud Mommy of Kameron Wesley~February 28, 2001
Proud Mommy of Kaiden Austin ~ August 3, 2009 (born 9 wks 3 day premature)
Proud Mommy to Our Angel in Heaven~June 3, 2008
Proud Mommy to Our Angel in Heaven ~March 2009 ~ Kaiden's Twin
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June 11th, 2008, 07:43 AM
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Please do not blame yourself. Lord knows how easy it is to do, but this is not your fault.
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June 11th, 2008, 09:04 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I agree with the other ladies, it was nothing that you did. I know it's easier to try to find something that you did to cause it but believe at the end it'll just make you feel worse. I did it for months before I realize that it was just not meant to be, it broke my heart when I realize that but it heals.
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June 11th, 2008, 09:10 AM
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Platinum Supermommy
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ahhh babe, i think we all try blaming it on ourselves...unfortunately there is nothing we can do to stop a miscarriage 
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June 11th, 2008, 09:14 AM
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Mega Super Mommy
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Kate is right, I know that I tried to figure out something that I had done to cause the miscarriage.
You search for answers but unfortunately for many of us the answer is never found.
Believe me you are NOT alone. We are all here for you.
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