New to TTC after loss

#1 June 11th, 2008, 06:29 AM

Hello Ladies!!

I am new to this chat room but not to JM. I was apart of the July 08 DDC. I am not going to go into details but I was due to have a baby girl in July. of 08, but God had other plans for her on April 17th. She was born still at 27 weeks weighing 1 lb. 13 oz and 13 inches long. She was perfect in every way and had a head full of black hair. I have never experienced anything like this. She was the only girl on my husband's family for many many years so everyone was really excited to have a girl. I had to deliver her by c-section for two reasons one is a have a bicornuate uterus and the other is because I had a c-section with my son who is now 8. I am ready to try again but I have to wait until Oct. That will put me at 6 months. At that time my "new" doctor will have me complete blood work and get ready to start trying. I am soooo scared because the death of my daughter might have been because of my placenta location. My old doctor new at 24 weeks that my placenta was not in the ideal spot and stated that she was already a week behind. The placenta location was causing her to not get all the nutrients that she needed. Being a week behind wasn't a major deal but it was the beginning. They should have put me on bed rest but they didn't. They didn't even tell my regular OB that their was a problem. This is why I am now going to a new high risk doctor. I blame them for her death. This might be wrong but oh well.

How are you guys able to keep your sanity while TTC again? Has anyone else had a c-section from a stillbirth?

mom 2 haley & tyler · #2 June 11th, 2008, 06:38 AM

Melissa, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine what that was like. There are a few other ladies on here that I know of that have also had stillbirths. My heart goes out to you. It breaks my heart that the drs could have done something different to save your precious little girl. I look forward to getting to know you. Please let me know if you need anything at all. You are in the right place. I hope when you are able to ttc again that you get a sticky, healthy bean soon!

#3 June 11th, 2008, 07:32 AM

Thank you! I am praying daily that God will bless us with another miracle.

Wee3monkeys · #4 June 11th, 2008, 08:13 AM

Oh, Melissa, I'm so sorry for your loss!! I don't even have words to express how sorry I am!

But welcome to TTCAL! The ladies here are wonderfully supportive! I hope that come October you are blessed with a nice sticky bean right away!!! Good Luck!!!!!

Pitridge · #5 June 11th, 2008, 08:40 AM

Melissa, I'm so sorry about your lost, I don't even have words to say how sorry I am. You have come to the right place. The ladies here are wonderful and are very supportive. Hopefully time will go by fast and before you know it, it will be Oct and you will get a big fat BFP. Good Luck!

HavensMomma · #6 June 11th, 2008, 10:21 AM

Melissa im sorry for yor loss

I'm praying Oct will come fast for you and you can get you bfp soon!

..Jessica.. · #7 June 11th, 2008, 10:28 AM

Hi Melissa, welcome to the board.

I'm soooooooooo very sorry to hear of your loss!!! Breaks my heart everytime someone new joins this board, because I know they've experienced the pain of losing a child.

I'm not currently actively TTC, so I'll be waiting along with you! My sanity, well, you're on the wrong board if you want to stay sane!

Good luck come October! I hope you aren't waiting too long to get that !

and early heading your way!!!!

Mommy2Makenna · #8 June 11th, 2008, 02:03 PM

Melissa,
First, I am SO sorry for your loss!

TTC after a loss is a very scary thing for all of us. Just know that you have come to the right place for support through ALL the ups and downs.

#9 June 11th, 2008, 05:40 PM

Thanks to everyone. I need all the help I can get. I am sure we all do and we can get through this together.

Brittanie · #10 June 11th, 2008, 10:05 PM

Wow, I don't know how I missed this! Welcome up here honey. Anyway, I just wanted to say that if you ever want to talk, I'm here. TTC/pregnancy after stillbirth is a little different that after miscarriage, so if you need to just talk/vent to someone who's been there, I'm here.

I hope your stay here is very short and sweet, and you are soon blessed with a sticky bfp, and a healthy baby 9 months later!!

Bakin8th · #11 June 11th, 2008, 10:18 PM

I am so deeply sorry for your loss

Brittani is right I had 2 losses at 17w. Even tho I did not make the medical criteria of still birth by 3 weeks my body acted like it gave birth and had a baby from the hormons to my milk comeing in. It was much more tramatic then the 3 m/c I had prior in first tri.

Are you haveing to wait so long due to the c/s?

Did you by chance have blood clotting tests done for blood work?

Good luck on ttcing in Oct and I pray your have a healthy happy 9 month!

Pound · #12 June 11th, 2008, 10:58 PM

oh i am sorry about your baby! and you are right for switching drs. you don't know if things might've been different if the dr had said something about it, so better not to risk it again. you have every right to want a new dr. i hope when your 6 mo. comes, you can ttc and get a bfp soon.

katiegirl · #13 June 12th, 2008, 03:33 AM

Melissa, I am truly sorry for the loss of your daughter.

I hope that the 6 months flies by for you and you are able to TTC quickly.

.x~KAT~x. · #14 June 12th, 2008, 03:47 AM

My goodness, how very very sad i am for your loss

Im glad you found us here and i hope you concieve again quickly...good luck xxxx

momofemnry · #15 June 12th, 2008, 05:32 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you.

*Bobbie* · #16 June 12th, 2008, 07:12 AM

I am sorry you lost your little girl.

to TTCAL

MrsPoe · #17 June 12th, 2008, 07:42 AM

I know I have talked to you before, but I wanted to say welcome over here. There is a great bunch of girls here. I am sorry I can't help you with any of your questions about c-section and ttc, but I know that keeping your sanity while ttc is nearly impossible. I ttc for a year after we lost our Abigail 27w5d on April 15, 2006. So our dates are fairly close too. All I can tell you, not that it is much more comfort, but I thought I was ready to begin ttc again right away but I was by no means ready for that. Its easier said than done especially when your arms ache to hold your baby again. Take this time to grieve your little Presley Layne and then when you are ready to ttc you will have an easier time accepting a new baby into your life. I hope that October will get here quickly for you and that you will get that bfp the same month!

Eleysia · #18 June 12th, 2008, 09:11 AM

Welcome. Im so so sorry for your loss. it absolutly breaks my heart

I pray that in time you heal physically and mentally, and that god will in fact bless you with another healthy, beautiful baby. October will be here soon, just take the time to grieve that you need, and we are all here for you if you need anything.

jennntj13 · #19 June 12th, 2008, 09:16 AM

I am so sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart that you are going through this and I hope that one day you will get that beautiful baby to hold. I have had 2 m/c's this year, but both have been very early (At about 5-6 weeks). It is a very difficult process and takes a lot of strength, patience, and faith. I found an immense strength with the ladies here and hope that they are able to empower you as much as they have me.

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and I hope to get to know you better!