[Madison.N.Hailey'sMom]

Well my cousin got to find out what she is having today. She's having a girl. I am happy for her but still cant believe that she is doing all this stuff before me and I'm due before her. Oh well I guess. I cant help but feel like she gets all the excitement from all the family because she found out first and then they dont really care about my news. I mean my step mom is already b*tching to me that her and the aunts are going to have to have Erins shower in October because mines in September. Its like she isnt happy that I'm pg too and its just a pain for her that there are now two showers to deal with going to. She even got after me for not being willing to do a joint shower with my cousin. I mean come on she's my step mom and I thought she would be so happy for Mike and I but more and more it seems like she doesnt really care that I'm pg too and its all about my cousin. I am getting to the point where I want to tell her that I dont want her at the ultra sound but I dont want to hurt my dad for asking her not to come.

I'm so sorry if I'm coming off selfish I'm really not I just thought my family would be more happy for us then they are showing. I have friends that are more excited then my family. Mike's mom is more excited for us and this is her 8th grandchild then my parents and this is their first. I just wish that my cousin wasnt so close to me in this pg length wise. Another thing that sucks is this was an opps pg for my cousin and everyone is so happy for her and Mike and I tryed for so long and no one seems to care. I just want to curl up and cry just thinking about how some of my family has treated me during the pg.

I'm going to go now so this doesnt get to long. Sorry for the vent. I think I just needed to get it off my chest. Thankx for listening I love you girls.

[Eleysia]

Sorry Angie, but your step mom needs to wake the F' up and realize that youre her dam daughter (step) and to be more supportive! I dont think youre being selfish at all i think you have every right to feel that your parents are supportive and excited for you.

Screw the cousin, you know why? even though she is getting to do some firsts, youll be holding your healthy baby before she is, and that all that matters in the end. Looking down into your baby's eyes, knowing nothing else in the world could matter to you or mike at that moment!! keep your chin up girly, we all love you.

[Brittanie]

Oh Angie, I'm so very sorry. I sort of know how you feel. DH's mother was sort of that way, with the non-excitement thing. With Cora, she very much disapproved of us getting pregnant 2 months after being married while DH was still in school, and let it be known. She finally started acting excited the last month I was pregnant. Then, with Erin, everyone seemed to be holding their breaths. NOBODY, even my family, seemed to be as excited about my pregnancy the second go around. And it hurt, but my mother said that she was just really worried about it all happening again, which I totally understood.


I'm hoping that maybe this is a really bad way of coping with the worry of you having another loss, and not just mean spirited-ness.

[Jessica!]

I know what you're going through.

My younger cousin got pregnant right around the time I did. When I found out she was pregnant, I was fuming!! Her pregnancy was an OOPS and the sperm donor is currently in jail. I had my miscarriage a couple weeks after I found out she was pregnant. I was so hurt. Nobody said much of anything to me the entire time. It really hurt my feelings. A week later, I found out my cousin was having twins. It broke me into pieces because she was so irresponsible. We tried and tried and failed again... yet, she tried once and got TWINS!!! It upsets me.

I'm still upset. It's not fair. Life isn't fair though, I know.

I agree though, you should NOT have a joint baby shower. I told my mom when I was still pregnant that I WOULD NOT, under any circumstances, have a joint baby shower. I think that takes the whole fun out of everything.

I don't really know what else to say. I do know what you're going through though. It's absolute crap.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I'm so sorry your stepmom is acting that way Angie. I hope they all start acting better soon. Just know that we are here to listen and we are super excited for you and Mike.

[keekopeeko]

I understand your feelings 100%!!!! I think you are handling it all really well! although i think maybe you should confront your parents about how much this has hurt you.... Of course if you feel like they will respond with lots of lame excuses i guess dont bother... Maybe they just feel like since she's having an oopsie that she needs more support???? (which is completely crazy)

As for a joint baby shower! thats crazyness! You would end up getting jipped! i know its not ALL about the gifts, but seriously! thats where you get tons of stuff you need! and it would all be less if ppl had to buy 2 gifts at a time...

~Em

[Madison.N.Hailey'sMom]

Thank you girls. I know that my dad isnt showing excitement but I also know guys dont show it that often so I'm not upset with him at all. My step mom likes to drink (everyday) so trying to talk to her about it would be a waste of time because she would just get pissed off and turn it all back on me. I cant even tell her about being nervous because she just keeps asking when are you going to stop worrying and just relaxe. I finally told her when the baby comes then I wont be so nervous about the pg. I dont even talk to her about things really anymore. It really sucked because when we found out we were pg everyone was happy for us and then like a day or two later we found out my cousin was pg and it became all about her and everyone talks about her pg and no one on my side of the family ever talks about my pg. Everytime time the pg subject comes up its all Erin this and Erin that. Thank you girls for all your support. I just feel so bad complaining all the time I'm not normally like that. Thankx for listening.

[jademyst13]

You have every right to complain in my opinion. They are just treating you wrong. I would think they would be happier for you than her, but at least treat you two equally.

[ShannonMVT]

That stinks. After all you have been through they should be jumping up and down with excitement.

I know it's hard to deal with but the important thing is that you and Mike know how very special this baby is.

I hope they come around soon.

[Pitridge]

I'm sorry, that’s stink. In my situation with my first pg it was different, my step mom was so excited, she could not contain herself, my mom was just happy. My sister on the other hand, never mentioned the pg, never showed any excitement or happiness. The whole family was so happy buying things, thinking of names, and not even once my sister said a word. I would have been the first one to have a baby from all my cousins. It hurts so bad that she never showed that she cared.

Just keep in mind that you will be the first one holding your baby, not her.

[mamamudd]

Im so sorry to hear your family has been any thing less than thrilled about the most exciting time in your life. I hope they have a change of heart soon.