[LifeToTheMax]

I was wondering when you ladies felt that a woman becomes a mom? I've been having a very tough time with this lately. I want to be a mom so badly, and part of me already feels like I am, but it's a very empty feeling at the moment. I'm not sure how to wrap my head around all of this.

[Mommy2Makenna]

I defo know where you are coming on this. I had a very hard time this last mothers' day (as I should have had a baby a couple weeks before). I was annoyed why no one else around me said ANYTHING to me on mothers day. Even though I didn't have a baby in my arms, I felt like for a brief, shining moment, I had been a mother. I cared for my baby like a mother does, I grieved for my baby like a mother does. I think for each woman it is different. All I know is next year I will be celebrating mothers day (with or without a baby!).

[MrsPoe]

This is kind of a tough one. I think a lot of women will feel differently about it. I thought that I became a mom when I gave birth to my little girl and yet nobody acknowledged that I am a mom on mothers day. Then I got pregnant again this time and I feel like I have become a mother from the moment I saw those two lines because that is when we first love our baby and that is also the time when we start to worry about our little ones. That is part of being a mom. So in my opinion, you become a mom when you see those two pink lines. You start watching what your eating and taking really good care of yourself for the baby even if its only for a short time. People sometimes act like we are not moms because we didn't get to feed our babies and bathe them and dress them up and get those wet sloppy kisses from them. And yet we are moms because we wanted to do all of those things and had to say goodbye to our little ones before we ever got to say hello.

[Alison81]

I think we become a mom the moment we get pregnant. When you are pregnant, and then lose your baby, you are still a mom, a mom who lost her child.

I have struggled with this too. I already am a mom, but my boyfriend is not my daughter's father. I was a little hurt this mother's day, as he spent it with his mom, and didn't acknowledge that I am the mother of his child, even though she is not with us. I think I have empty moments when I see moms of more than one, because I know I should have more than one child, but I have 3 babies who never got to be born.

[princesskate]

Sorry i have no advice,i just wanted to send you and say I am so sorry for your loss xxx

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

This is kind of a tough one. I think a lot of women will feel differently about it. I thought that I became a mom when I gave birth to my little girl and yet nobody acknowledged that I am a mom on mothers day. Then I got pregnant again this time and I feel like I have become a mother from the moment I saw those two lines because that is when we first love our baby and that is also the time when we start to worry about our little ones. That is part of being a mom. So in my opinion, you become a mom when you see those two pink lines. You start watching what your eating and taking really good care of yourself for the baby even if its only for a short time. People sometimes act like we are not moms because we didn't get to feed our babies and bathe them and dress them up and get those wet sloppy kisses from them. And yet we are moms because we wanted to do all of those things and had to say goodbye to our little ones before we ever got to say hello.[/b]

I totally agree with Rhonda. You said it perfectly.