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June 22nd, 2008, 06:53 PM
Zoostergirl's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Hi all!
I've been reading your stories for the past couple days and internet addict as I am, had to join in.

My story (VERY briefly):

1st m/c Oct 2003 at 10 weeks
2nd m/c Nov 2004 at 6 weeks 3 days
3rd m/c June 2005 at 6 weeks 1 day

July 2005 Placed with foster baby (6 weeks old girl - get this! born on the day I miscarried!)

Fall 2005 Discovered I have balanced translocation on two major chromosomes which is likely cause of recurrent m/c (plus DH has some morphology issues)

Dec 2006 Finalized adoption on foster daughter
Nov 2007 Got medical level foster son (now 12 months but more like 5 months developmentally - HIGH needs)
March 2008 Got foster daughter (now 7 months, a sweetie but bad reflux)

That's three kids three and under, one with special needs. I'm finding it a lot!

About a week ago I find out I'm pg. Today I am at 6 weeks, 3 days.

There was a time when I didn't know there was such thing as too many babies. Now I don't know what to think.
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June 22nd, 2008, 06:59 PM
Mommy2Makenna's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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First, I'm very sorry for your losses! Next, your foster children and adopted child are so awesome!! I've been thinking a lot more about adoption as a future option if we don't get our own little one. I commend you! Also, congrats on the new pregnancy. I'm sure you must be scared. These ladies here are a wonderful help. Some are pregnant and others are still TTC. Also, if you are interested, there is a full board on JM dedicated to Pregnancy After Loss (aka PAL). If I knew how to link you to it, I'd do it here (I'm sure one of the other ladies here can help with that).
I'm glad you found JustMommies. It's a great place to hang out. Whether you decide to hang out here or PAL (or both!) I hope you find your time on JM as helpful as I have.
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June 22nd, 2008, 08:47 PM
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I am so sorry about your losses. Congrats about being pregnant... I know that it is very scary, but we will all be here for you anytime that you need to lean on us.

I look forward to getting to know you... and share some pics of your daughter when you feel up to it!
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June 22nd, 2008, 08:56 PM
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I am so sorry for your losses

Congrats on the pg!

I have 8 kids and when last baby was born we had 4 under 4 and 3 under 3 and down the line. I acually really thrive with so many lil kids. I cant say what it would be like with a high needs baby though I am sure thats a bit harder.

If I had not lost last baby at 17w. We were getting excited about have 3 babies 2 yrs old and under!!! The last 2 being 11 months apart!

Maby next time lol

But I would not worry to much about it. You find your groove Good luck!
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June 22nd, 2008, 09:06 PM
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sorry for your losses. congrats on your pg though! don't worry too much about it, you can handle it! just try to enjoy this pg, and when the time comes, you'll find a way to get into a groove. (like someone else said)
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June 22nd, 2008, 09:24 PM
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Sorry for your losses. But congrats on the foster children, and adoption of one of the children, and on the pregnancy.

I do understand having a full house, our DD's are only 7 weeks apart in age, like having twins sometimes, and his son is only 18 months apart in age from the two girls. For awhile, we had 3 under 3 too. It's tough, but I can tell you it does get easier with time. And my DD has some developmental difficulties too. Sometimes DD is like having 3 kids, and I sometimes don't know what I'm thinking wanting another baby, but I LOVE being a mom, and I am sure with taking in foster kids you love what you do too. Best of luck to you!
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June 23rd, 2008, 01:31 AM
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im sorry for your losses but congrats on having 3 wonderful children and a bfp
i was always scared of having children after my first. now im a mum of 5, step mum if 4 and trying for our first sticky bean together. only 3 live at home full time but my partners time is split between here and away and i have my other 2 for holidays. i wont say its easy, infact its very hard sometimes BUT it is so rewarding too.
somehow you find the strength and everything else you need to get through things. my eldest has adhd, ds 13 has sight problems (almost blind) ds 11 has astham ds 9 migraines and dd 3 is now being tested for kidney problems due to recurrant utis.
they are a handful but i wouldnt change a thing now. ive had 2 m/c this year and each one has got harder because i know we have enough love and commitment to give to another baby.
i pray you find that inner strength and get through this, every child is a blessing and im sure you will be a fantastic mum to this sticky bean as you are to your other 3
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June 23rd, 2008, 05:37 AM
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I'm sorry for your losses. I'm glad you found us here. Congrats on the foster kids and the BFP. Please stick around and get to know us. I'm Michelle, one of the co-hosts. Let me know if you need anything at all.
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June 23rd, 2008, 08:27 AM
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Wow, you guys really are an encouraging and positive group, especially for all that you have been through. Thanks for the warm welcome. I'm finally believing this might happen enough to call my OB/GYN to schedule an appointment. Hopefully high needs foster son is going to be reunited with his parents this fall, so life will get easier before it gets harder (again).
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June 23rd, 2008, 10:16 AM
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Wow, you guys really are an encouraging and positive group, especially for all that you have been through. Thanks for the warm welcome. I'm finally believing this might happen enough to call my OB/GYN to schedule an appointment. Hopefully high needs foster son is going to be reunited with his parents this fall, so life will get easier before it gets harder (again).[/b]

Welcome! Congratulations on your BFP! I'm glad you finally called your OB/GYN...for different reasons, but I was so scared to call mine the first time, it took me nearly a week. How wonderful that you are a mommy to an adopted and foster children, it takes a very special person. I am sure you will find your groove and be a fantastic mommy to all of your babies! And how great for everyone involved, especially your foster son, if he can be reunited with his parents.
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