[CaliTrish]

I've been lurking on and off this forum since I was diagnosed with my first missed m/c at 7w1d just before Christmas '07. We decided to let nature take its course, but after 3 weeks of waiting and no symptoms, I scheduled a D&C. hCG level had decreased significantly. Two days before the procedure, I finally started spotting but went ahead with the vacuum aspiration. AF showed up 31 days later. Slightly later than my regular 28-day cycles. We waited one more cycle before TTC and got a BFP in April. The week before Mother's Day, I had my hCG levels checked, a week before my first prenatal appt. The numbers weren't good. Much lower than the previous pregnancy and barely rising. At 7w2d, U/S confirmed that I had had another missed m/c. I scheduled a manual vacuum D&C for the following week. U/S just prior to the procedure showed that the embryo had been absorbed. It's now been 39 days since that D&C, and AF hasn't showed up yet. I think my hCG levels were close for both procedures, so I wouldn't expect AF to be this much later. I suppose I could be PG as we haven't really been trying to prevent it. Anyway, I find myself afraid to POAS and find out. We definitely want a little sibling for our DS (20.5 mos), but I'm soooo afraid of another missed m/c. I'm tempted to wait till 8 weeks to POAS, then maybe at 11 weeks just go in for a first trimester screening (NT scan) - no hCG levels or U/S's before then. That's more or less what I did when I was pregnant with DS. Oh, what I would give to be ignorant of miscarriages again.

[Bakin8th]

I am so sorry for your losses

I understand the fear of testing. I would give anything to be able to go back to that time before my first m/c and be in that ingnorant bliss of not knowing

Af can take differnt times after every m/c and or d&c. If your feeling pg signs I would test just in case your pg. I think prenatal care is important after a m/c next time around.

[Mommy2Makenna]

I agree with Irene -- you should test. Not POAS is not what is going to provide you with a h&H 9mos, and POAS is not going to cause you to m/c. If you find out you are PG, you will probably be very scared, but that also does not mean doom for baby. It's not fair what we have to go through after m/c and I really wish I could be blissfully unaware of all possible complications, but unfortunately, that's not possible for us. Good luck with your decision and be sure and let us know how it goes.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I'm so sorry for your losses. I'm glad you found us. I look forward to getting to know you. I am on of the cohost here. If you need anything please let me know. I would definitely test just to be sure.

[CaliTrish]

Hi Ladies - Thanks for the responses and kinds words. Still no sign of AF. Thinking I'll test this weekend. I know it's silly to be scared to POAS. I suppose I feel that if I don't get it confirmed, then it's not real and I don't have to worry about it. I don't have to worry about hCG levels, yolk & gestational sacs, fetal poles, and heartbeats. I can just show up at 11 weeks, and whamo I'm pregnant . . And I'll have made it passed the dreaded 7th week and move on to all the other headaches of being pregnant over 35.

[Melanie0507]

what the other ladies have said.

for your tough decision

And finally...

Glad you de-lurked yourself I hope you decide to stay un-lurked and hang out with us! I look forward to getting to know you!

[..Jessica..]

Hello & Welcome to the board.

I'm so very sorry to hear of your losses!!!

I agree with the other ladies, you should POAS just so you know.

[CaliTrish]

Well, I finally built up the nerve to POAS, and it was clearly a BFN. I'm relieved and disappointed at the same time. Apparently, AF is just late. It's been 45 days since the D&C. As if on queue, I been getting bits of brown mucus all day today, but I wouldn't call it AF. However, it's the closest I've gotten since the procedure. I surprisingly had no bleeding or spotting afterwards this time.

[princesskate]