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January 14th, 2005, 11:48 AM
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Hi ladies,
I hope you're all having a good Friday.

Okay, I had my D&C on Tuesday and can't have sex for 2 weeks. However, when I'm pregnant I'm always in the mood and have a very high sex drive. My hormones must still be elevated because it's been 6 days and I'm really in the mood. I know this must sound horrible to even be thinking about this considering everything I've been through this week, but one thing I've learned through this experience is that I am not in control of my emotions and feelings. One minute I'm crying, the next I'm laughing at something and the next all I can think about is sex.

Anyways, this is embarassing to ask, but I assume that oral sex is out of the picture for 2 weeks too, but what about manual stimulation. I really would like to spend some time with my hubby tonight, but I'm not giong to unless it's a 2 way street (so to speak). I think that would make me feel worse than I do.
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January 14th, 2005, 03:50 PM
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I know what you mean about the sex drive soaring!!!! Speaking for my hubby & myself.....We did just what you say you want to do with your hubby. We just couldn`t wait either. I was careful.



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January 14th, 2005, 08:52 PM
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Was it long after the D&C that you did that? I was thinking that even if nothing went in, then when I did have an orgasm my cervix would dip (I know it dips and picks up the sperm) and only pick up blood which could cause infection. However, wouldn't it be the same as if I did this while AF was visiting? That doesn't cause infection.

I'm so confused. I know I should probably wait, and I feel horrible about feeling in the mood considering everything I've gone through this week, but I just really want to be close to my hubby and I'm tired of cuddling! lol

It's bad enough to be dealing with the grief of m/c, but to be "in the mood"? Come on, this is just cruel!

You know what else is cruel? I go to the bathroom and wipe and there's no blood and I think cool, maybe it's subsiding - then 3 hours later I go again and I'm bleeding like it's the 3rd or 4th day of AF. It's horrible!

I tell you what, the first night I can go to bed with no pad will be so awesome! i hate pads so much - never feel clean! At least I didn't throw away my tampons - although I hope I don't need them next month!
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January 14th, 2005, 09:05 PM
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Originally posted by momtocurtis@Jan 14 2005, 11:52 PM
Was it long after the D&C that you did that?* I was thinking that even if nothing went in, then when I did have an orgasm my cervix would dip (I know it dips and picks up the sperm) and only pick up blood which could cause infection.* However, wouldn't it be the same as if I did this while AF was visiting?* That doesn't cause infection.

I'm so confused.* I know I should probably wait, and I feel horrible about feeling in the mood considering everything I've gone through this week, but I just really want to be close to my hubby and I'm tired of cuddling!* lol

It's bad enough to be dealing with the grief of m/c, but to be "in the mood"?* Come on, this is just cruel!

You know what else is cruel?* I go to the bathroom and wipe and there's no blood and I think cool, maybe it's subsiding - then 3 hours later I go again and I'm bleeding like it's the 3rd or 4th day of AF.* It's horrible!

I tell you what, the first night I can go to bed with no pad will be so awesome!* i hate pads so much - never feel clean!* At least I didn't throw away my tampons - although I hope I don't need them next month!
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Hi Shelly,
Hope you don`t mind me asking..... Did you have to have a D&C with your first miscarry? Both of my miscarraiges were very hard emotionally... but I feel this last one was harder on my body. Probably because of the cysts. I think I had them while I was pregnant. Not positive but, something was going on in there other then my pregnancy.
My hubby & I did fool around a bit. I think you should wait if you can. It is best. I didn`t have any problems or anything. I am suppose to be real fertile right now.....from the 14 th untill the 19th. I just do not have it in me to try to concieve right now. We have been using the pull out method. I need to find a better doctor before we try again.
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January 15th, 2005, 06:23 AM
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My first miscarriage last August was at 5 1/2 weeks, so I didn't have a D&C. I do plan on waiting the 2 weeks for sex. I guess I was just curious if there was anything else we could do in between. It's hard.

I can definitely understand you waiting to ttc. I know that emotionally it's going to be scary to go through it again for me. The one thing keeping me going though is knowing that we can try again and soon.
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Originally posted by momtocurtis@Jan 15 2005, 09:23 AM
My first miscarriage last August was at 5 1/2 weeks, so I didn't have a D&C.* I do plan on waiting the 2 weeks for sex.* I guess I was just curious if there was anything else we could do in between.* It's hard.

I can definitely understand you waiting to ttc.* I know that emotionally it's going to be scary to go through it again for me.* The one thing keeping me going though is knowing that we can try again and soon.
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All I have to say to my hubby is when.........He wants to try again. But, worries about the whole miscarrying again. After having 2 miscarries........I am not real into trying right away. I think once I have a better doctor that will change.
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