[ChloeMommy]

Hi Ladies, my name is Courtney and I decided to join a forum/support group after my 3 miscarriage in 10 months. I have a beautiful daughter who just turned 2, but something seems to have gone wrong and I continue to lose babies between 4-5 weeks. My HSG numbers just don't go up quickly, I start bleeding, and then they shoot down rapidly. I had miscarriages in October, February, and June and have to use infertility medications/procedures to get pregnant each time. All of my friends continue to pop out babies with no problems, so there are many days that I feel very alone and sad. I do see a fertility specialist, but since I do get pregnant he said we just have to keep trying. We've completed all the bloods tests and my hubby has been tested as well for all the blood disorders, chromosone abnormalities, etc. Just curious if anyone else has had similar problems when trying to grow their families. I feel like at this point any advice would be appreciated as we don't really know where to go from here. We aren't allowed to "try" this month, but next month I will be back and forth to the fertility specialist yet again.......

Thanks for any advice/help!

Sincerely,
Courtney

[Jessica!]

I am sorry about your recent losses. I have had two miscarriages that happen around six weeks. I'm not too sure of what to really tell you. I feel so lost myself. I hope one of the other ladies here can offer you more advice. Good luck!

[madmum_sarah]

im so sorry for your losses
i have just suffered my 3rd loss in 6 months. like you i have no idea why as i have had easy, trouble free pregnancies in the past. it all seems to have gone wrong since i had my ovary removed in 2006. for me it seems i get my easy enough but within 2 days of getting it i am bleeding again.
i have been told to wait until november now to give my body some time to recover and i know its going to be hard waiting.
i really hope someone can give you some advice but i have to say, you have come to a great board for support. the girls here are fantastic and will help you in anyway possible so please, do stick around
xx sarah xx

[~*Nessy*~]

Welcome to the group. I am very sorry to hear of your losses. There are a great bunch of girls here. I hope that you will get your sticky BFP very soon.

[Bakin8th]

I am so sorry for your losses
I have sort of the same situation. I had one m/c at 12w with our 2nd child then was able to have 6 more babies no prob (used clomid for some pg's)

Then in Jan 2006 I started to lose babies.

I got pg first try and m/ced at 6w
I again got pg first try and m/c at 6w
I again got pg first try and we thought all was good he died and I m/ced at 17w

All that in just 9 months.

I got pg again after ds first try and had a uneventful pg and healthy boy

I got pg My first cycle after he was born

She died and I was induced at 17w

I had both my 17w losses withen 18 months and BOTH have been been fully tested from Physical to genetics and Both normal in everyway.

I had all the tests run on me for clotting and hormons ect all Normal.
Right now all my Dr are baffled no clue and they say it shouldnt happen again.
I am currently waiting to test first cycle since I lost DD.

I have read and been told that in 2nd and 3rd tri they dont know up 60% of the time what happened. We have no clue what happened in my first 3 m/c in first tri as well.

I wish you the best and I hope you do not see another loss in your future

[ChloeMommy]

thank ALL of your ladies for your words of encouragement. I certainly wish, and pray, that you all deliver healthy babies soon. Infertility & Pregnancy Loss is certainly something that is more stressful than I could have ever imagined. I just signed up for this forum/group this afternoon and just received a call from a friend that works in social services about possibly fostering a 7 wk old baby girl. Hubby & I are certainly going to have to think really hard, and pray a great deal about how we want to move forward with our family. I really an anxious to try again, but I'm just not quite sure how much more I can go through with the drugs, positive pee tests, and then ultimately a miscarriage. This is all not to mention the SERIOUS bills for my RE..... Thanks again for all of your input, I look forward to more responses. I am sad for everyone's losses although it is nice to know that I am not alone in my sadness......

[MountainMomma]

I don't have any answers for you, but I wanted to say hi and welcome.

I've had 4 losses in the past 2.5 years. That's the ones I am sure about. I suspect alot more chemical pregnancies. I get my BFP and within a few hours to a few days I start bleeding again.

Hopefully we all figure out our problems and have healthy babies very soon!

[cam & sami's mom]

I'm sorry for your losses. I havea similar story 5 m/c and no answers from genetic testing. The R/E I consulted said to keep trying. I hope we all graduate from here soon!

[KDD]

Welcome Courtney. I am sorry for your losses. I have been pregnant once and had my loss at close to 10 weeks. The ladies here are wonderful. They are supportive and someone will usually have the answer to any questions. Good luck TTCAL!

[ChloeMommy]

Thanks again for all the great advice. I do look forward to hearing if anyone's RE mentioned anything about different testing, new ideas, ect. We went to the RE about a week ago and he just told us to " keep trying", it was one of the most frustrating moments of my life. I just started crying and was like "how many times do the try and go through this" and his response was "when it's right it will work". Not very comforting and I really like my RE and think he is an extremely nice and intelligent person. Hopefully the months ahead will bring happiness instead of heartache....... baby dust to all

[MrsPoe]

First of all I am sorry for your losses.

I have had 2 mc's, one was a blighted ovum. Then we finally got pregnant after 5 years of trying and lost our dd at 27 weeks. Since they only do testing after 3 mc's I wasn't able to get testing done before. Once our dd was stillborn they ran several tests on me and our baby. We found out that I have blood clotting disorders. Have you been tested for those? The reason I ask is because the dr. said normally blood clotting disorders only cause late losses but since then I have talked to many women and have found that we all have mc's in common. Now since taking baby aspirin and shots of blood thinners things seem to be going better.

That is the only other testing that I can think of that might be different. Also you might talk to your dr. about taking a baby aspirin just for extra measures. I have heard that it is not harmful to take even if you don't have any clotting disorders and I know a lot of others here have taken it at least in the first trimester and have had healthy babies.

I hope you get your sticky bfp real soon!!

[HippyMomOf4]

Welcome to the group, and i'm so sorry for your losses. I'm kinda going through the same thing right now, i had my first loss in Jan 2004 at almost 11 weeks. Then i went on to have two healthy problem free pregnancies with my two daughters. We decided to try again and i got pregnant right away but lost that baby at almost 6 weeks. Then i decided not to wait one cycle like the dr said and i got pregnant again right away and lost that baby at a little over 6 weeks. We then started talking to the drs and i had to be a total ##### to get what i wanted, but we had all the testing done and everything came back normal, then i had an HSG done and that was normal. So since they said i have unexplained losses, they decided that we should try IUI to get pregnant(even though getting pregnant isn't the problem) to increase my chances for a healthy baby

[Nicole1022]

I'm sorry to hear of your losses. I just had my 4th m/c in June and understand how you are feeling. There is a forum for Recurrent Miscarriages under Grief and Loss that lists the possible causes for recurrent miscarriages and also tests than can be run. Hopefully this will help.

We've also had all the tests run (hormone levels, thyroid, blood clotting, chromosomal testing on me and DH, HSG, etc.) Everything's come back normal. We met with an infertility specialist this past week. We are pretty much out of tests to run so we've decided to go with IVF with PGD. Crossing our fingers this will work.

[amy2008]

Hi - so sorry to hear of your losses. I have been pregnant 4 times and miscarried each time (one was a tubal pregnancy and I had a lap to remove the tube) with 2 of the losses occurring within the last 6 months. The longest I have carried the babies has been almost 11 weeks. With the others, I have usually been in the 5-7 week range before I m/c. I had a d&c with my 2nd loss at almost 11 weeks so the baby's tissue could be tested. No genetic/chromosomal abnormalities were found.

My RE has run every test that she can think of and all came back normal. BTW, only one pregnancy was conceived "naturally" - the others took an IUI. The tubal pregnancy was my last (in June) and at the follow up check I asked for her opinion on continuing and she said she sees no reason to stop - my one remaining tube looks "golden" and the uterus was clear. I have persistent cysts and endo, which she cleaned up in the lap. But emotionally and financially, it is terrifying. It is hard to risk the pain of losing another child, but I so, so desperately want a child. It would be different if I was able to have a specific reason those babies didn't make it - that I could address and fix. But going into this basically "blind", I just have to rely on my dr, my family and faith.

One of the girls has a quote on her signature that I think fits my journey..."We're not necessarily doubting that God will do the best for us; we are wondering how painful the best will turn out to be." I don't remember who it was by. And though I do believe in God, I don't believe my losses were "God's will". He couldn't be that cruel. This all just shows that god is a man - a woman would never subject us to this.

Anyway, I am sorry you have joined our group. But I have found it a comfort to come here and not feel quite so alone in all I am going through.

[Mommy2Makenna]

Courtney. I'm sorry that it is through losses that you found us, but I hope you will find great comfort from this group. I can't give you much advice about the recurrent m/c, because I've only been pregnant once. At 12w though routine check-up, we were unable to find a heartbeat. U/S revealed an empty egg sac measuring about 8w. I'm not sure if it is officially a blighted ovum or if the embryo could have been reabsorbed. DH and I have been trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant again. I hope you finally get information to see if there is annything that can be done to keep you pregnant. Keep us posted.

[ChloeMommy]

I'm sorry to hear of your losses. I just had my 4th m/c in June and understand how you are feeling. There is a forum for Recurrent Miscarriages under Grief and Loss that lists the possible causes for recurrent miscarriages and also tests than can be run. Hopefully this will help.

We've also had all the tests run (hormone levels, thyroid, blood clotting, chromosomal testing on me and DH, HSG, etc.) Everything's come back normal. We met with an infertility specialist this past week. We are pretty much out of tests to run so we've decided to go with IVF with PGD. Crossing our fingers this will work.[/b]

Thanks so much for your response. My RE said that he didn't recommend IVF for recurrent miscarriages and I tend to disagree with him. It is so expensive, but after repeated IUI's and uncovered ultrasounds...if we did that for a year with no success we could have had in-vitro. Our RE offers a money-back guarantee for a little over 20K....for 4 rounds...a hard pill to swallow but we are willing to do it. I have had all the tests done, can I ask when you lost your pregnancies? Mine are all right around the 4-5 week mark...I start bleeding on the same day EVERY time...4wks 6days although my hormone levels when I start bleeding are all different. Thanks again for the information, I am going back to the Dr in about two weeks (after my first af since the last miscarriage in June) to have a saline scan to make sure everything "came out" and I am going to mention IVF again. Any additional info you have would be appreciated. Thanks and best wishes for a healthy baby!

~~Courtney