[madmum_sarah]

well after being away i came back and checked all my sites as normal and on facebook i had a private message. i opened it up to find a message from my ex fiance
i havent spoken to him for over a year apart from to say leave me the hell alone.
basically on my 30th birthday sadie was taken seriously ill so i didnt go out, i stayed home and my mate and her hubby came round with a bottle of wine. he called me and had a go at me for not giving him my undivided attention and laughing with my mate (her hubby had just put her top and bra on so of course i was gonna laugh )
anyway, not once did he ask how sadie was but 2 of my ex "boyfriends" called me and wished me a happy birthday and asked after the kids. when i said how seriously ill she was, 1 came round and the other waited for my text about the doc visit at 4am even though he was working at 8am! needless to say i told my fiance he was a selfish possesive jerk and my kids come first so i ended it.
anyway, we should have been getting married next month and all of a sudden he has sent me this message saying he misses me and asking how we all are.
i messaged him back saying i have been ill (not gone into detail) and the kids are well but growing fast and that i hope he and his mums are ok cos i was close to them.
his profile says he is in a relationship so why on earth is he contacting me now?
mark will go mad about this! mark isnt really a jealous type but does get annoyed at the fact i cant hold grudges even with exes who have treated me like a doormat. i believe everythin happens for a reason and had he not treated me the way he did i would have been engaged and not with mark!
sorry i just dont know what to do. i have tried to be polite without being too friendly and i havent added him as a friend but i just dont know what he is going to say next. the kids were really close to him too but that just makes it harder to break all ties
what would you do?
xx

[.x~KAT~x.]

Oh i hate when facebook presents me with someone i dont want to talk to! If i was you id just answer his messages politely and leave it at that xxx

Hopefully hel just take a hint and crawl back under his rock!!

[..Jessica..]

I wouldn't talk to him.

It's HIS loss, not yours! He needs to get over the fact that he lost you.

[Pound]

oy! i say ignore him. it's not like you're going to let your kids see him anymore anyway, why bother? plus if he's w/ someone, why is he messaging you? i got a fb message from a PSYCHO ex the other week. 10 yrs ago i told him to F off (cuz he's crazy and stalked me) and he still stalked me for a few yrs. i never answered his fb message... he told me he was married and had 2 kids... and get this- his boy's name is ethan LIKE MY SON!!!!

ok sorry to digress, but my point is- ignore him lol.

[madmum_sarah]

well he messaged me a lot last night and it turns out the girl it says he is with is just a mate who didnt want to seem like a loner.
the messages got very erm.... i dunno lol but i told him i was going to bed before he got too bad. he commented hes been single since i split with him and hes not been happy, just gettin on with things.
i looked at his profile and the pics of him smiling are ones that were taken here, IN MY BED!!!!
now i have to tell mark because A) i dont keep anythin from him (apart from last bfp ) and B) kyle saw shanes pic and knew straight away who it was and started asking about him.
i dont have a good feeling about this but honesty is the best policy and mark does know im mates with most of my exes as im such a forgiving person. not forgiving (or mug enough) to go back to them but i cant hold grudges as i believe everything happens for a reason
xx

[ANGWife]

Isn't there an ignore function? I would tell your sweetie, ignore him, and leave it at that.