[princesskate]

Ok so Mark avoided sex with me tonday and also yesterday even though he knows I am going to O shortly because he saw my OPK and i told him. He also knows i do not want him just for his 'swimmers'. I have told him that, and also he should know anyway as we are at it often enough

Anyway, i asked him today why he was avoiding sex. I thought maybe he had changed his mind about TTC either that or he didnt find me attractive anymore. Neither of those are the case. He says he is scared I will become pregnant again and have another loss. Which is totally understandable, I am scared of that too. But get this.....

I said to him 'well what do you want me to do, not tell you I am pregnant untilI have had a scan and had my beta's done!!!' and he said 'Yeah I think thats for the best'

I understand he is scared ect...but I am too. So if I have another loss I am gonna be all alone. Have to go through it all alone and ot even tell him


Sorry ladies, mini moan over x

[..Jessica..]

Awe girl...I'm sorry he's avoiding sex with you.

It's definitely not that he doesn't find you attractive! But I know it's hard to not think about that when you want to be intimate with your husband.

It's hard for a man to be open about his fears of miscarriage when his wife wants nothing more than to have his child. I AM glad Mark opened up and told you about his fears though. As for you keeping it to yourself that you're preggers, I don't think it's fair of him to expect you not to tell him. It IS his baby too!

I hope the next few days are better for you, so you can catch the eggie and get your sticky bean.

[KDD]

I think we sometimes forget that our losses are just as hard on our SO's. I know that Jason looked so scared and helpless as I went through my m/c. I've never seen a look on his face like that ever before.

[madmum_sarah]

sweety i know we spoke on msn but i just wanted to remind you that you will NEVER be alone. il always be here with you, not through the loss because there wont be one, but through the celebrations and excitement of your sticky bean!
love ya darlin
xxx

[tracalyn]

Aww honey, it's understandable that he's scared. It's the one thing he can't really do anything to help you with. I agree with Sarah, you wouldn't be alone, you have all of us here!

[princesskate]

Thanks ladies. I know its his baby too, but I kinda get where hes coming from although he has upset me a bit. He was GUTTED when i had the ectopic, in fact its the first time I have ever seen him cry So...im going with his wishes and i am not going to tell him until i have had some beta's done and an early u/s. It will be so hard for me not to tell him, I am mainly scared of having another loss and having to go throught it all alone

[Mommy2Makenna]

I think we sometimes forget that our losses are just as hard on our SO's. I know that Jason looked so scared and helpless as I went through my m/c. I've never seen a look on his face like that ever before.[/b]

My Jason was the exact same way. It broke my heart to see him so broken.

Kate, I'm sorry you feel alone. I'm betting your DH will come around -- besides there is NOTHING that says you will have another loss, just think positively and keep trying for the BFP. Hang in there, girly... and remember WE are always here for you (I know it's not the same as DH, but it's a start.)