Waiting to tell family?

Jessica! · #1 July 21st, 2008, 09:16 AM

For those of you who have got your

recently, are you going to wait to tell your family that you're expecting?

I'm going to try to not tell anyone about our pregnancy until we hear/see a heartbeat. The last two times, I got so excited that I told all my family and friends, only to have to tell them about our loss. I can't keep secrets for long. I said I would wait until I was 12 weeks, but I know I couldn't wait that long. So, I figured if I get a

and we are able to hear or see a heartbeat at 9 weeks.. we would tell people then.

I just don't want to tell everyone only to have all of them worrying about the pregnancy too.

HippyMomOf4 · #2 July 21st, 2008, 11:10 AM

i usually just tell people right away, i might only tell my parents this next time and maybe his parents. A couple close friends and thats it.

jenn27 · #3 July 21st, 2008, 11:14 AM

The next time around, I will definately wait to tell family and friends until we at least hear a heartbeat and if i can keep it a secret longer, I will. We told everyone back in May and it was even harder on me having to go back and tell them we lost the baby. So, i think I will wait next time. Definately learned my lesson.

mom2kaisnkam · #4 July 21st, 2008, 11:42 AM

I am thinking of waiting, but I don't know if I will be able to.

dojodiva · #5 July 21st, 2008, 01:47 PM

I'll definitely tell family right away. Last time we told just family when we hit 8 weeks, and I'm so glad that at least we had a few weeks to celebrate and be happy about being pg. I really needed the support, and I couldn't have suffered the loss alone.

When I had a chemical pg back in 2001 I only knew I was pg for 1 1/2 days so never got the chance to tell anyone the good news, and it was so hard to have no one to talk to about my loss. So I will definitely tell family ASAP if we're lucky to get pg again and ask them for lots of prayers!

princesskate · #6 July 21st, 2008, 01:51 PM

Well, with Jordan i kept him a secret until i was about 7 months - I was just 15 when I had Jordan

But when I was pregnant with Lily I didnt tell friends/family until i had had my 20 weeks scan. The same will go for the next baby too

~DaemonMykailasMum~ · #7 July 21st, 2008, 02:07 PM

I told only My mum, Dad and one of my sisters.... No one else knows... And won't know until atleast 11 or 12 weeks.. as my loss happened at 10 weeks..

*Bobbie* · #8 July 21st, 2008, 02:17 PM

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Well, with Jordan i kept him a secret until i was about 7 months - I was just 15 when I had Jordan

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LOL same here but with Jeremy I was 16 and waited until 7 months to tell my parents. My poor mom

Jeremy is 17 now

We told the last of our family last night. I still feel like I am going to doom this pregnancy by being happy about it. Silly, but normal I guess?

~*Nessy*~ · #9 July 21st, 2008, 02:21 PM

Dh and I will be the only one's who know, aside from my boss. And the only reason I am even going to tell her is because I know I will be needing to leave work ealry for some doctor appointments. I will not be telling other people including family until much later because I dont want to have to go back an tell people we has a loss again. Some family didnt know that I was pregnant and I am very happy that I didnt have to tell one more person that we lost our baby. I'm going to spare myself putting myself thru that. If things go well I will start to tell people after I feel movement or tell me that I need to do some sit ups.

Pound · #10 July 21st, 2008, 06:34 PM

i told myself i wouldn't tell anyone until 12 weeks, but after a few days i caved and told my one good friend (girl) and one guy friend. but that's it. i have already broken my rule lol so no more telling anyone until after the 1st tri or at least until i hear a heartbeat.
the last time i told a bunch of people, and after my m/c i sent out a mass email to everyone so i would only have to say it once. it really sucked telling all those people. i saw my mom yesterday and i didn't tell her.

KDD · #11 July 21st, 2008, 06:48 PM

I think I'll wait about 6 weeks then tell only those who know we are TTC. Otherwise we'll probably wait for 14 weeks to tell everyone else (that was our plan the last time).

..Jessica.. · #12 July 21st, 2008, 06:54 PM

When I do get preggers next, I won't be making the big announcement until at least 16-20 weeks. I don't want people talking about it since I'm not married anymore, and the baby won't be Dwayne's.

My parents, and BFF's will know sooner because I'll need the support.